Hello, everyone. I have no idea where to start or what to write, but I need someone to listen to me and say something ... whatever. I'm a 17-year-old girl who hasn't found herself yet, doesn't know what she wants, what she likes, what she wants to do, etc. My problem is that I am always influenced by people, I kind of want to be like a certain type of person, I stick to it, then someone else will make me happy, completely different from the previous one and so on. I don't know what I like to do or what I like, I don't have talents, character ... I just exist, I want to live. I constantly feel some pressure in me (I can't explain it exactly, I hope you understand me) as if I want to cry, to explode, to scream, but I can't. I can't be really happy for the reason that I don't know what I really want and what I like to do and what style of music I like ... I feel that I am superfluous, there is no use for me, I am not a good student, I do not do anything useful .. A few months ago I had a lot problems with both my parents and my psyche. I did a lot of things that hurt me a lot. I destroyed myself and there's nothing I can do. I have never been a strong character, I have never had dreams and goals. I know you can imagine how there can be a person without dreams ... that's me. I want to help me, give advice, write anything to her, bad, good just say something. I really can't live like this anymore, I'm struggling and it hurts. I hope you don't think I'm another teenager who's been filming and drooling because I've been like this for a long time. Thank you in advance and I am grateful to these people,
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The time in which you grew up and in which you live is hectic, and filled with information that you take for granted, with opportunities that are far more accessible than years ago. Keywords - 'many' and 'easy'. At the same time, however, you have no real contact with the diversity that the Internet offers you as information, but only with what your environment offers, and you try to adapt to it, which leads to internal contradictions. You have the information, look inside yourself, feel yourself and choose what suits you, what you feel makes you calm about your choice ... It's like me wearing a red dress - I won't feel good, I don't even have to try, because I know, just seeing this color, that I don't like it, while when I see white or cream color - it's calm and sweet :) This is the more rational option, the other is to try ... but you guess that it is impossible to try everything, incl. people (when it comes to choosing a partner or friends), or unhealthy things like drugs to find out that something / someone is not for you. Rely on your intuition, which works only for you and will not let you down to suffer. Intuition is the inner God in man, and he knows everything. For example, when you meet someone, your mind does not know him and cannot judge whether you like him, but your subconscious (intuition) already knows if that person is right for you, hence the inexplicable attraction or repulsion between people. Use the same principle for everything, feel yourself, play different genres of music and feel what makes you feel good, to resonate with your vibrations, as well as with books, with movies ... I emphasize these things because, to a large extent, people judge someone's personality by their tastes in music, literature, and movies. Then you will come up with ideas for more things to expand your horizons such as sports and hobbies, for example. I started to form my tastes at the age of 13, although my environment was very different, I myself, from somewhere (from a past life, left information in my DNA) had an attraction to a specific music such as vibrations, not so much genre, now genre, my tastes have expanded, certain stories, respectively authors, etc. etc. Feel yourself! although my environment was very different, I myself, from somewhere (from a past life, left information in my DNA) had an attraction to a specific music such as vibrations, not so much genre, now genre, my tastes have expanded, certain stories , respectively authors, etc. etc. Feel yourself! although my environment was very different, I myself, from somewhere (from a past life, left information in my DNA) had an attraction to a specific music such as vibrations, not so much genre, now genre, my tastes have expanded, certain stories , respectively authors, etc. etc. Feel yourself!
Depression - low serotonin, often dopamine in some parts of the brain. It is a disease, there is simply no laboratory method to prove it. I can guess how long you have been like this - from the beginning of puberty (11-13 years old), right?
If you don't know who you are, how do we know?
At 2, 14 years old up and down. And the problem is, I can't feel better unless I drink or take something else. I constantly feel this heaviness that wants to explode but can't. I don't know exactly how to explain it. I've had and still have a lot of symptoms of depression, but I can't accept the fact that it's really happening. To 1 Thanks a lot for the advice, really everything written is very true! To 3 I don't want you to tell me who I am, just someone to listen to me and say something because I've tried to share, but no one understands me.
Start reading books and pay attention to how the characters with strong characters think and act. You lack what people call a "person." You have no identity. Maybe you should talk to a psychologist.
We look alike, even though I used to think I knew what I wanted, but obviously not. I always do what someone else tells me, which is not okay, but what to do ... I have no goals, I don't know what I do with my life. I used to have dreams that were unrealistic to achieve, of course, but still dreams. However, when it became clear to me that it would not happen quickly, my optimism dropped and I am now at zero. Otherwise I understand you. Just know that this will not always be the case. You are now 17 and there is a lot of time during which you will find out who you are. Finish high school, go to college if you're going to study, and gradually things will work out. At this age, it is still too early to understand anything about life.
I understand! You don't know who and what you are, but you don't know how to find it. My advice is ... to experiment. Find the things you like that seem natural to you, without thinking about what your mother, cousin, classmates, or anyone else will say. Be what nature has ordained you to be.