I have been living with my friend in a dormitory for about two months now, but lately his friends' visits have become more frequent and when I write "they have become more frequent", I really mean that they come and stay every day for at least 6-7 hours, which worries me. because I have to comply with them all the time, and this leads to my discomfort. The right thing to do is to sit down and talk to him, but I know him and I know that talking will not lead to anything good. I even know how our relationship would most likely develop, can I have some advice? I will start work soon and these visits will not benefit me.
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Well, tell him you don't like them, that he has to consider you when to invite them. You live together and can't sit for hours and drink and party if you get up early, for example, or you don't like them coming so often. After all, every guest is money, time, you comply, you can not relax. Yes, they are his friends and he will jump to protect them, but he must comply with you. Friends are friends, but he is currently living with you. You are not his roommate, a casual acquaintance, but his beloved woman. You don't have to put up with some messing around every day and serving and cleaning them afterwards. You don't have to watch them every day just because they are his friends. For example, you agree to invite them at most twice a week, and for him to visit them. What are these friends who will spend every day for hours at the other?
A family is built with a woman, not friends. Talk to him frankly. It's okay to see your friends if they want to get together every day, but let's not just do it in your home. Even if you have it, 6-7 hours is a long time. You need to feel good in your apartment, to be calm. If he fails to understand you, he is not old enough to live together.
I wonder what these idlers are, to tell you the truth .. 6, 7 hours EVERY day of God? !! : D And your friend, I'm sorry, but who knows what kind of rubbish it is when you say you wouldn't understand ... You have nothing to do with this girl.
You will start work - well. And doesn't it work? How come they will come every day and stay for at least 6-7 hours? You talk to him calmly, but clearly and emphatically. You tell him that it is not possible to develop as a couple and individuals with these daily long "visits" (as if they have settled in you). And that needs to change. And then you stand and watch. If there is no change - one of you is exported (which - depends on the circumstances) and you separate. And if that happens - don't be sorry! A family with such a person cannot be built. Good luck! :) Ж31
That's why my ex-boyfriend and I broke up. His friends hung out non-stop in our country, and even when they were not at home, they still "attended" with stupid computer games in an online group, with jokes and bits of "male wisdom" sprinkled by him, with sentences about how men are -si, and women - some, and with quotes about male friendship. Now he is alone and free, he is 30 years old and has a chance to enjoy them as much as he wants, and if he wants he can catch the stupid male company and marry her, because there will hardly be another chance for marriage :) I'm tired of being jealous of his company and competing with 4 goats for a little attention from him and for 2 hours of free space in our country in the evening. I went out to see if he would share the rent with them now. I advise you to do the same, there are no fixes for these things.