I Don't Like Myself Because Of Others

   You are a young, healthy and mobile person. You have to see this in the mirror. Weak or full, your body does a good job every day. You are not anorexic, you are not on medication, you have no pain. Everything is fine. You are weak because of the fast metabolism, when you come out of puberty and your metabolism will return to normal and you will gain a few pounds. In the mass case it is so. I, on the other hand, lost my temper and 2 years ago it happened that I changed the city, and I had a lot of family problems, I lost a close relative, and I was far away. I have never been more anxious than then. In two months I had lost a lot of weight and everyone started explaining to me that my ribs were readable. Such statements bothered me even more, I tried to gain weight, but it didn't work. A vicious circle of nerves and lost weight. I felt bad, I looked harassed - weak, nervous, with dark circles under my eyes, I had stretch marks on my body. My self-esteem hit rock bottom, which only made things worse. One day I looked in the mirror and said to myself that it is not irreparable at all that I am a strong person and I will handle everything. On the advice of a close friend of mine, I even allowed myself to see that there was something beautiful in me. There was really, I slept well, I woke up without bags under my eyes, my skin was a normal color, I felt very mobile, energetic. I looked at myself, yes, my ribs were reading, but I felt good and allowed myself to say that I didn't look as bad as the others told me. I ate normally, walked often, got used to my new look and decided that I would not allow other people's opinion to bring me down. Guess what! After two months, I had already started to communicate with people who do not judge me and I felt good in my skin. I also started getting more compliments, not that I was more beautiful, but I radiated calm, and that's the best thing. Don't let other people's words touch you, there is no room for another's opinion when we talk about your body. The only person you should listen to on this topic is your doctor and no one else. If you are healthy, if you do not lose weight from vanity, then everything is fine and you should not bother unnecessarily. You are weak, well, there are pros in this as well as in anything else. You didn't want to lose those pounds, you didn't fuss to achieve them, you didn't starve. And they told me I didn't eat, and then they laughed when they went out to lunch with me. People can't know such things, they decide something just because it seems true to them, but they can't know for sure. Only you know how much you eat and what your metabolism is, you don't owe anyone an explanation. Listen to your body, if you feel like eating - eat if you want to run - get out and run, if you are tired - lie down to rest. This is the secret, listen to your body, not other people. Love yourself, take care of your body as if it were a temple and you are a believer. Love yourself as if you were your own friend. Strive to find something good in your appearance and character often and don't forget these things. Everything comes from the psyche, find the right setting to feel good and happy, the rest will be sorted out. Love yourself as if you were your own friend. Strive to find something good in your appearance and character often and don't forget these things. Everything comes from the psyche, find the right setting to feel good and happy, the rest will be sorted out. Love yourself as if you were your own friend. Strive to find something good in your appearance and character often and don't forget these things. Everything comes from the psyche, find the right setting to feel good and happy, the rest will be sorted out.

   Oh, darling, I dream of having this problem. By the age of 19 I was 40 kg and I liked myself very much, I was thin and happy with my body, but from the age of 2 I started to suffer from depression due to other problems. to a psychiatrist and prescribed me the drug Cipralex. Depression stopped and I have been drinking it for 2 years and I have a huge appetite and my metabolism has decreased and now I am 68 kg and I can barely find jeans, my ass is huge and I can't find clothes. I go to maxi ladies stores. It's just that such an appetite makes you eat like crazy and get up. If you are so ashamed of your body, you can just talk to your doctor or psychiatrist about this medicine, it is not harmful, it will make you calm and give you an appetite. One week you will feel dizzy, but then it passes. But you have to say you're extremely depressed, otherwise they won't give it to you just for the weight. Then when you gain weight, you can always stop it. I'm wondering how to lose weight, because I was a little overweight, I had to drink it up to 55 kg and stop, but I liked to eat it and continue it, but soon I will stop it and lose weight. Now I want to be 40 kg and think of me as anorexic, because now they call me fat, pig, pig, to stop eating. It sucks.

   I'm the opposite, I'm fat and I hate myself because everyone at school is weak. I'm not bothered much about it, but I'm embarrassed and sick. In the old school I was offended because of that. Just ignore them or tell them when they tell you "you are very weak" and any insults just say thank you and smile at them. Show them that despite your flaw, you are happy.

   Don't worry, in a few years they will start to envy you ...

   If this will make you feel better, I am also very weak, although I like to eat and I am 13 years old. The doctors tell me I'm fine, but people around me still think I have problems and I've even been offended by my mother's relatives for not eating. Therefore, with school, no matter how much they make fun of you, know that the problem is in them, not in you. They're probably just bored and want to make fun of others or envy because you have something they want, but I don't. And I believe you're not ugly and you're a completely normal person. These are just people's opinions, but they don't matter because everyone sees the world and people differently. Your "girlfriends" who insulted you and abandoned you were not real friends, but it's not too late to find new ones. There will always be someone to receive you. If not in your class, you can try people from other classes, or if the situation is so bad to change your school. I hope I helped you ;)