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I Don't Love Him, And He Dies For Me ...!

By lia_johndick July 23, 2020 12 answers Last updated July 23, 2020

Hello. My story is very long. I came across this site by chance and decided to share my story. 4 years ago I fell madly in love with a boy. What have I been through just to be with him. He abandoned me a million times and ended up always coming back to me. He left me once because of my best friend. We are currently dating and have been together for 3 years. Things are very serious, the relationship between our parents, families and our relationships. At the moment he loves me madly, he can't do without me, but my feelings have faded. He is too jealous of me, of girls, boys, even my own brother.

I don't want to be with him. Last week I tried to leave him for the second time. But he does something stupid and then weighs on me. The first time I tried to leave him, he almost hit the car. I don't want this to continue. I don't love him anymore and I don't want to lie to him, but I'm so used to him that I can't imagine tomorrow with his absence. I really want to leave him, but it will be painless for him. I tried something, I was indifferent, but he does not want to leave me for nothing .. cheated, he understood and still did not want to leave me ..! What can I do, help me ?! :(

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dhanush_22 answered · July 23, 2020

   Greetings from the "abandoned bride". This is a bit like my story. My ex-fiancé now thinks he's starting to realize his mistake. His colleagues make fun of him, so with his new fiancée they are opposite in character, interests and height. He started emailing me without her knowing. I often dream of him being together, and my dreams come true. And I think he'll come back to me, but I'm already cold. Until a month ago, I cried a lot about him until I found out about the engagement. It's funny to me now, because it's mutually beneficial. He has hurt you several times, he has not appreciated you, so now that he has broken your heart into several pieces. They presented one broken mirror in as many pieces as he dumped you for another. Now it's with you and you're already gluing the mirror, but you can't get it back, can you ??? And so it is with our hearts. He looked after his life. The time has come for us to live. You delete any information about him. It's hard but time heals. So far I have needed 4 months. Do it. Your time has come.

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sweet_chloee2 answered · July 23, 2020

   Well, darling, I was in a similar situation and I have to tell you that it was very difficult for me. We were together for 5 years, I no longer felt anything for him. I even fell in love with another boy with whom we are very happy now. And I blamed myself for a very long time, they weren't suicide threats, whatever. These types of men are very selfish to know. My advice is to think for yourself and if you don't love him anymore, leave him. It doesn't make sense, you will only torture yourself, and life is too short. THINK OF YOURSELF! If you make a mistake and continue with it one day you will regret it even more. You decide, but that's my advice. From a girl who experienced the same as you. And remember, better late than never :)

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jade_fires answered · July 23, 2020

   Hello! When I read your story I remembered my relationship from 6 months ago. I was the unhappiest creature in the world! Trust me! I felt like a body without a soul. My ex-boyfriend hurt me terribly, and at the same time my feelings cooled. Until I said to myself, "Enough! I have the right to a normal life, too. I want to be happy too. I don't want regret and the habit of living my whole life with this person - a life full of reproaches, eternal disagreement with you and not respecting your interests, dreams, desires .... ". And I did it! He didn't want to take it for 4 months, but I was strong, I resisted. Those months were hell for me. It was very difficult for me, but I knew it was the right decision because I wanted to live! Deep down, I knew that another person was waiting for me, that the one next to me was not the right choice. And I took my life in my hands, now I'm a different person! I decided it was pointless to waste my life, after all I'm only 21 years old! Is it worth! Look around! There may be someone around you who is better and deserves you. As I did. Now I'm with a man who is as honest as me and we complement each other. Try it too! There are no perfect people, but I wish you to find one with tolerable shortcomings :) And live! Your life is yours and no one has the right to manipulate and govern in any way. Shake yourself and start anew, start living, because this is your right! Good luck!!! ) And live! Your life is yours and no one has the right to manipulate and govern in any way. Shake yourself and start anew, start living, because this is your right! Good luck!!! ) And live! Your life is yours and no one has the right to manipulate and govern in any way. Shake yourself and start anew, start living, because this is your right! Good luck!!!

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dallas_twing answered · July 23, 2020

   Hello ... Your story resembles mine..he adores me I don't or rather I'm not sure..We've known him for 2 years, he's not Bulgarian and has a long-term relationship with another girl, but he claims he can't lives without me and soon she leaves and wants us to officially get together..I will not go into details..to some extent I understand you..I can't imagine him being out of my life like you..the thought that without him nothing it won't be the same confuses me..I can't clarify my feelings and he does everything for me..at least you are aware of what you feel..yet you can't always think about other people and about them to they are fine..think how short life can be and how many good things you might miss standing and thinking..I understand you, you don't want the pain for him but in life one of the two will always carry the burden of separation ...maybe time will decide everything..there is a reason for everything ... every beginning can have an end..but think about your happiness, because life is really short..if you have good friends around you it will be easier for you to overcome his absence..for example in Sofia I have no friends, only the gentleman in question was next to me and it is still ... it is difficult for me because I have to decide whether or not to be with him..I know that I can have with him the peace I lack, I will have the moral support of a really good person, but I'm afraid I will make a mistake in my choice..some fear in me does not allow me to make a final decision..the uncertainty in me eats me..and he, the poor man, is waiting to make him happy every day with my answer..life is sometimes harsh..and yet no one but us can make decisions about our own actions ..I repeat to myself that time will decide but the uncertainty in me remains..whether if he is my happiness..I do not want to mislead him with a positive answer then to withdraw ... it is so difficult for me and to some extent I can I understand..the fear of tomorrow without him ... I still think that one day sooner or later things will work out properly..I wish you luck and do what you feel is right..and think first about yourself. .

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leannetanglewood420 answered · July 23, 2020

   people help .. 3 months ago I went with a boy we went for 2 months and broke up because I'm jealous of him and I still love him but he may not make me like him again help ??

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lisamelow answered · July 23, 2020

   Hello, I was alone in a similar situation, I went with a boy who is 21 (I went alone last year 16) while I was with him, he was indifferent, he did not behave properly, he was cold and my feelings gradually cooled down, I told him that I want to break up because we had a relationship for about a month before we left and he dumped me then because I was small to be at least 10th grade and such nonsense, and now he gives everything for me just to hang out with him and does not leave me constantly he called me wants to commit suicide, he loved me very much, he couldn't do everything without me, he would do anything to return to him, he did everything to make himself happy, and he only remembered when I found a friend,now my boyfriend and I are very happy I have a small problem with ours because they do not approve of him and only talk to me about the other boy but this will be fine in time I hope we can argue with him but we are happy and he is not confused by my parents whether they approve or not he is with me in spite of everything and all difficulties.

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mrniceguy88888 answered · July 24, 2020

   OIL !!! It's like reading my story ... do you want me to tell you something - RUN, RUN AWAY GIRL! You stand with regret as I did, don't - please save yourself. Now I will tell you what my situation is - yes, it is true that he loves me very much, but I am so unhappy with him, I have a lover whom I love madly and think about divorce, and so far I have not abandoned him just because of the child naturally. This is a punishment, stay away from it - one day you will regret bitterly, as I have for 7 years ...: (((((((

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kabrea69 answered · July 24, 2020

   Hello! I knew that I was not the only one with this problem :) My boyfriend and I have been together for more than a year, which may not be enough to get to know each other and find out if we are for each other, but for a long time I feel that my has become disliked by the things he does and thinks ... Otherwise the boy is intelligent and well-read, and this confuses me even more, because sometimes I think that if I leave him, I will make a huge mistake ... On the other hand, he is my first serious friend and I still haven't seen anything in my life, I have to try, see what's best for me? Besides, he makes it nice and nice for us to be together, as long as my absence is not hard for me ... I'm very worried, even when I write this my stomach is shrinking, straight .... I'm really sick :( But I think, "I'm only 17, should I do it to myself, should I sue someone,

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pclouds answered · July 25, 2020

   And I have a huge problem that no longer lasts. Tomorrow marks a year since I broke up with my boyfriend. We went for 2 years, I loved him insanely much, but blurred by some momentary urges I left him for another boy. I hurt him terribly, and it was as if I had hurt myself. We met twice in 2 weeks until he said "It's not the same anymore". We broke up. We write to each other sometimes. He is a student and miles away. He already has another girlfriend with whom he has been dating for more than half a year. I also have a friend. He loves me, but I'm not sure I can answer him with the same. When I say that, I feel almost nothing. Maybe more attachment to his character. But I constantly dream of my ex and these dreams depress me terribly. I dream of how we are together, how we walk, how we laugh and when I wake up everything collapses !!!

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cub9090 answered · July 25, 2020

   Number 10, don't dramatize first. Remember the bad things in your relationship that made you find solace elsewhere. If it was all just honey and roses, you wouldn't dump it. As long as you look back, look back, just look forward! Old boyfriends are like read newspapers - they are not re-read. Live today and now and be content and happy with the boy you are - otherwise you risk losing him, then you will roar about what you have lost. Be aware of what you want and stop looking for happiness in different boys. Find happiness for yourself, be content and happy with your own company - find your hobbies, live outside your relationship, so as not to ruin your whole existence in separation. Do not dissolve in the relationship, but continue to be a person, for God's sake!

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lindas8 answered · July 25, 2020

   10 dreaming has nothing to do with what you want and do not want, whether you love or not ..

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leannarichie answered · July 27, 2020

   Hello. I have been in a relationship for 6 years with a boy. I was madly in love at first, I was ready for anything for him. We have been living together since the first year, because I fell, I tore my ankles and he took me to them .. my mother was in Greece, I lived alone, so I don't know if she took me, she didn't even love me, she loved her ex-girlfriend with who had a relationship for 3 years. For 2 years he repulsed me, and I was still in love. He reached for me, at least he wouldn't let me kiss him, hug him. And I was so grateful to be with him. I was a housewife all the same, even when I was in a cast I didn't move my finger to help me, I did everything myself. Now, 6 years later, I wonder what the hell I was thinking then. About 10 times maybe more I caught him texting other girls, We parted and he came and roared at my door after each separation. And I started to tingle after the 3rd, which is completely normal, I learned to lose it. I forgave him blindly. After a few losses he began to change I saw him, I felt him. It didn't bother me in the first place. (If you're going to criticize me for touching me and I didn't leave him, I don't care at all, I've been through so many things in my life, and how many times I've been on the verge of death. No one can touch me at all.) as I said he changed, he started to really love me. He started telling me, showing it. I also changed .. my love for him was not the same .. I cheated on him ... with my ex .. and not only with him .. did I feel remorse? He didn't beat me, kick me, he didn't love me when I loved him. The wheel spun. He fell in love with me like no one before. Change. People change, men change. Whether I love him, to love him, we are still together in England. Let's go back to the story because it's quite long ... I don't expect anyone to even read it, but I need to pour it out somewhere. I lost all my friends .. I was always surrounded by many friends and suddenly I had no one left .. I interrupted everything .. I gave myself completely to him .. but we have been living with them for 4 years now and we fight almost every day for something .. or because of other women or the prince still does not export something. I tear my ass every day to cook, wash and clean .. I'm tired young (I was 20 when it all started) 2012 I went to Kavarna with my current best friend, and he went to Kiten with his supposed "friend" and there I cheated on him .. I fell for a very handsome boy .. there was no sex .. we just had a good time and kissed, I felt great away from movies and reality .. and my man only now the last year and a half two tightened up and stopped chatting with others .. of course I dumped him 2015 winter .. I told him everything .. how I no longer love him as before, how he annoys me with almost everything .. way of speaking, gestures, way of thinking .. everything irritates me .. after 4 months of separation, this is our only long separation ... again we gathered ... and after a few days he brought his luggage to us out of nowhere. It doesn't work all winter .. I'm sitting at home and that's it ..

February left for England. And I was in Bulgaria for 5 months without him. God, I felt great, I even wanted to write to him, we are parting ... to love him, but it's always just a habit. My friends and I got together again, everything was wonderful .. I lived, I was happy .. again I cheated on him even one of the reasons I wanted to leave him was this boy .. on the other hand I wanted to get out of this city already .. I'm tired of seeing his exes at every turn .. I was tired of everything. Now here I am in England sitting on the bed and writing all this while he sleeps .. and he loves me more than anything right now .. but I can't anymore. I realize he doesn't know me a gram. For 6 years of living together, he does not know me. Leave the infidelities .. I'm talking about me as a person what I want what makes me happy .. we always have different points of view .. we differ in everything .. I'm honestly tired of this relationship. it's a burden I don't want to carry for the rest of my life and I think I will do both of us a favor if I just leave .. I want to run away .. the last 2 years I'm thinking about separation, but I'm afraid .. he will be devastated I can even imagine him .... but I know it will be for good .. he is a new man is not the previous oligophrenic who reaches out, screams .. I changed him and I even think about him this relationship is a great lesson and will not repeat the mistakes he made with me .. what and how to do and I have to think pretty fast because we live with an elderly Englishman in his house who is quite annoying and immortal .. I can not I suffer more. In two weeks we plan to go out with my best friend and him.

If we move out ... I'll stay with him for at least another year. I discussed things with friends, 2 of them are here in England. How to leave it I look at it and do not know what to do. I don't want him anymore .. I love him very much .. but I think for the future it's time for our children we are already 26 .. if one day he finds out that I cheated on him he will surely kill me .. I can't live in this lie anymore .... I'm very sorry for the signs I missed but I don't have much time and it's a pretty long story and I saved a lot of things. Thanks.