I need the advice of someone who has more experience in this area. I will try to be as short as possible. I am 18 years old and the girl I like is 20. We have known her for a long time but in the last few months we have become closer. We go to cafes, she calls me every day to see me and recently I decided to try my luck with her, but things didn't go well, I also said that I like her and that I want to be more than friends, but she doesn't want anything more. And for this reason we did not see each other for about 2-3 weeks. Anyway, we're fine now and we're friends again, but I still like her and I just can't stand it. I will emphasize that when we are together we are constantly hanging out with each other, pinching each other, biting and generally behaving like second graders and we have a lot of fun. This pinching and so on. n makes me want her even more and I think next time we both just start kissing her and whatever happens. I think she's just waiting for me to act, but I'm worried because I know that she basically deals with older people and her last friend was about 30 years old, and I wonder where she will go to deal with me where I'm 2 years younger. from her. How would you do and what would be the best thing to do :)
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I don't know, but as you describe him, he looks at you as his best friend, with whom he can be himself, and behaves like a small child without embarrassment. Not that we women don't drool and hang out with our loved one, but usually not so often, and even then sexual tension is felt. And she doesn't seem to have that. For now, accept that he looks at you as a friend, rather than as a potential boyfriend. It's ugly, but it's true and if you put a lot of pressure on her for something more, you can push her away. So don't kiss her so as not to shock her, but rather try to tell her at a game that you like her as a woman, and not just as a friend. I hope I'm wrong and she responds with the same.
She doesn't want anything more, you will kiss her. If you just want to be friends with someone, would you enjoy her stalking you to kiss you? You're going to push yourself away from her, aren't you? Then why do you think she won't turn away from you? If you want to do this to yourself, kiss her, but you can hardly force her to want you as something more than a friend, to humiliate you the most, which will definitely not be good for you.
Sorry dude, you're friends. There are no fixes. Forget you were harassing her and turn to other girls. In time, something may happen, but don't strain. Leave her a little without your attention to feel his absence.
If you can give it up as a boyfriend and stay just friends, this is the best approach. Sometimes things just "don't go well," as you put it. Of course, this will not happen and you will try to act, but at least I wanted to give you the right advice :) If you have something left in your head from this comment, do you feel that you have to use words to express your feelings to woman, so there's no point in trying. Explaining yourself in love sounds hellishly tempting when it comes to being a best friend, but it never works. And if you think I'm wrong, you can always throw your head forward and see what happens. This lesson seemed to be best learned from personal experience ...: D Whatever happens, take it easy.
Find another girlfriend ^ _ ^ this one if she starts to get jealous - she's yours, if you want her already: D
I think the version of number 7 is the best. I like your courage! Try what will happen :)