Hello. my questions are more to women, because for several years I have had a serious problem and I am looking for the cause in myself. Why and where is the reason to perceive normal good men with status in life only as friends and not want a relationship with them. Honestly, I started to get the same thoughtful phrases like "You're so dear to me and I can count on you for everything, I don't want to lose you." Then the scenario is the same to see the object of my feelings as he is in the arms of another unambitious and punctual man who can't even offer anything to a family or is a mother's son. I consider myself a normally successful man who with a lot of work and savings has achieved everything in his life such as a good education, a good job, his own new home, a new car without credit or from mom and dad. I don't drink or smoke, I play swimming and cycling. I love animals, I have a dog and a kitten, which is my family. I turned 39 and as a normal man I need a family, children to which I can devote myself. Don't get me wrong, I'm not lonely, I have friendly relationships with women, I'm wanted by females, but in most cases it's only when they need advice, to complain or cry to someone or need help, because according to them, they can count on me for everything and I am so dear to them. But I like it, because I'm not to blame for the fact that over time spent in communication, my feelings have changed towards the object. And when it comes to an open conversation about a relationship, the answer is "I don't want to take risks because I won't forgive myself for losing you."
It is clear to me that this is complete nonsense, because if a woman wants to be with a man, nothing can stop her. Judging myself, I wonder if I'm ugly what's wrong with me. Last time I even asked the woman who turned from my best friend in life into everything for me and I gave so much of myself without asking for anything in return, what the hell is wrong with me, what I don't like about myself. The answer was that I was wonderful and there was nothing she didn't like about me and no one treated her like that, but she didn't want a relationship with me and went to Bai-ganyo after she broke my heart. I also left a car, an apartment, I don't want anything back when something came out of my heart. I know how to give because I am strong and positive. I know there are many decent men and women in this world, but why is my luck running away from me. I think the problem is in me, because from the very beginning I can't press the erotic pedal and create physical attraction, I radiate confidence, accuracy, responsibility and for me the word is the law. My physique is normal - a tight body, but something is missing. I'm tired of this attitude because I'm good and my last 2 relationships that lasted for years end in the same way. "You're so dear and kind to me, anything can happen in life, I don't want to lose you" and they go to Ganyo -bye. I accept criticism and everything so that I can re-educate myself and up to 30 years I did not have this problem.
Do I want so much in life to have a balance of everything to be truly happy. because I'm good and my last 2 relationships that lasted for years end in the same way '' You're so dear and kind to me, anything can happen in life, I don't want to lose you '' and they go to Ganyo-bai. I accept criticism and everything so that I can re-educate myself and up to 30 years I did not have this problem. Do I want so much in life to have a balance of everything to be truly happy. because I'm good and my last 2 relationships that lasted for years end in the same way '' You're so dear and kind to me, anything can happen in life, I don't want to lose you '' and they go to Ganyo-bai. I accept criticism and everything so that I can re-educate myself and up to 30 years I did not have this problem. Do I want so much in life to have a balance of everything to be truly happy.
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I am a woman and I do not want a relationship with a man who gives a car and an apartment to any enchanted user. That one day you will leave your children hungry so that you can buy the love of a carousel. What you offer, you attract. Obviously you can't give them anything intangible. You are so poor, I feel sorry for you!
You are one of the men doomed to be eternal "girlfriends." I do not say it mockingly. What's worse is that women also use them as a trash can. It is not a friendship for me for someone to look for you just to cry on your shoulder or to complain. There are therapists for this purpose. Stop being so helpful and always available. At least for a while. Such women with such stupid jokes as "You are dear to me and I do not want to lose you" and so on are held only to brush their self-esteem. Here is a man who wants them. I will never let him go or be with him, but I know that if I want, I'm done. Or maybe you always come across women who like "bad boys". Tip, or rather a recommendation - when a woman tells you that she only wants friendship, don't deal with her. You don't need another one to cry on your shoulder.
Well, what can I tell you - women do not like eunuchs. It and the men ... :) And now seriously - look for the mistake in yourself and NOWHERE else! There is something very rotten, very wrong somewhere, that you are trying to over-compensate with all these positive qualities that you have listed. Something, somewhere, deep "swept under the rug" of your psyche, which you tried to forget, and you almost succeeded ... This is one spoon of tar, which spoils the whole barrel of honey ... Look, my friend, look! It's not your women's fault. NOT ALL women can be crooked - you are crooked, although you stubbornly do not see your hump ... Are you in a hurry, are you late, are you better than you should be (than normal), are you too straight, or too rounded , whether you do not demand enough from the woman, or whether you demand too much, whether you take into account every little thing, or you pretend you don't care about huge flaws ... I don't know. You describe yourself as if you are perfect, and you certainly believe in that. Therefore - the reason is beyond you! But it's not like that ... maybe you feel it yourself - there are no perfect people, and the others - the unfinished, the UNWORTHY ones, who shouldn't be your competition at all, turn out to be boyfriends, and you - without. They will leave their genes in the gene pool of humanity, and you - no ... Look, look for the cause, do not sweep it under the rug - it will not help you in the least, quite the opposite. who should not be your competition at all, turn out to be boyfriends, and you - without. They will leave their genes in the gene pool of humanity, and you - no ... Look, look for the cause, do not sweep it under the rug - it will not help you in the least, quite the opposite. who should not be your competition at all, turn out to be boyfriends, and you - without. They will leave their genes in the gene pool of humanity, and you - no ... Look, look for the cause, do not sweep it under the rug - it will not help you in the least, quite the opposite.
I think just communicating with you is boring. The Ganyovs are no excuse for you. No one is your excuse. I think I will be bored with you, although I do not like Ganyovtsi, but I am not an earthly type of person at all, so in this case it is not appropriate to mention, and in general I think. You write that you did not have this problem until 30. Well, you're probably dating younger ones now, and that's why it happens. Orient yourself to your set, but be someone who doesn't have any interests and hobbies, but just wants what they call a 'quiet life': from work - at home and so on. Which also tried and fought alone, but which has fewer achievements than you (has a value system like yours, at the same time will admire your achievements because she can not achieve them). There are many such women of your generation around the age of 40. When she was a few months ago, not long ago, a 39-year-old woman had started a topic that she wanted a family and sounded just like your type of person. Now I'm not looking for the topic, however. If you go out with younger people, the chance that they will like you as a person is much smaller, and there is a high probability that they will use you because of your apartment and money, because they will most likely be of the 'I want to live your life' type. you will be abandoned again for a while. Know that people of the same generation are the best fit. It was also stupid to leave an apartment like that to someone - well, I advised you well above ... the chance of being liked as a person is much smaller, and there is a high probability that they will use you because of your apartment and money, because most likely they will be of some type 'I want to make a living' and after a while you will be abandoned again. Know that people of the same generation are the best fit. It was also stupid to leave an apartment like that to someone - well, I advised you well above ... the chance of being liked as a person is much smaller, and there is a high probability that they will use you because of your apartment and money, because most likely they will be of some type 'I want to make a living' and after a while you will be abandoned again. Know that people of the same generation are the best fit. It was also stupid to leave an apartment like that to someone - well, I advised you well above ...
Hahahaha, I really laughed, you always came across dumb geese. I believe that you are a decent and normal person, but as a woman I advise you ... to stop being so generous, so kind, so devoted, because some women (like those in your life who are also aware of it themselves) accept the man as you as a given, they think that you will be with them forever, a faithful and devoted friend, and you want to be a partner. You will find an emotionally independent and strong woman when you stop offering so much of yourself, she will recognize you the same and will not use you for support.
Look, my friend, at the risk of incurring both your anger and that of the entire male population, I will try to clarify the situation based on my experience. I guess you are not targeting semi-literate virgins from a remote village, but educated, attractive and successful ladies just like you. I speak from the position of a woman who falls into this category. My current husband managed to steal me from a man who one-on-one coincides with your description of yourself, with a look. No, I'm not kidding! With glance. At the time, he was penniless, walking with a torn anzung, earning his living as a construction worker, and really living in the countryside. And my husband was the boss of a big company, we had an apartment in the heart of Sofia, an expensive car, we traveled to exotic countries, I also have a good career, etc. This guy was our gardener at the villa. He came to weed and mow the grass. But he looked at me like that every time that ... His eyes just burned me ... I remember the first time he accidentally touched my hand - as if an electric shock shook me. This went on for two years. Until one morning I woke up fully aware that I would either sleep with him or better sell the villa. The rest is history. We fell madly in love. We have been a family for several years and I have never once regretted my divorce. And here we come to the essence: - Why an educated and successful woman like me threw herself into the arms of the gardener? "Because I was dying of boredom." My husband was rich but deadly boring. Everything was planned with him and improvisations were forbidden. It is a "normal" man, as you describe yourself, who has achieved everything with work and savings and requires his wife to be also "normal", which includes, as you say, not smoking, not to drink, to go to bed on time, to have order in everything and so on until we die. "Why did I marry the gardener?" - Because I wanted to keep for a lifetime this passion, this irresistible love emotion, this childlike joy of life. To this day, when he hugs me, my knees soften and we continue to live recklessly but happily. Because we are doing everything for the moment. It happened that we woke up at three in the morning and decided that right now we were going on a picnic. We take a lantern, start the car and drive ... - Why don't I regret my previous life? "Yes, I can't afford Calvin Klein anymore." Yes, I started following the promotions in the supermarkets and in the restaurant to read the menu from right to left. But! I have love and real stability - it is not in the apartments, cars and money, but in the loving look of the person next to me. Between us women, the author, there is such a catchphrase: "The mind wants security, but the body wants love." The category of women you are interested in can provide material comfort on their own, so you cannot win them with such an offer. You will win them not with intellect, but with passion; not with reason, but with madness; not with pragmatism, but with recklessness; not with stability, but with imagination; not with caution, but with courage; not with gallantry, but with sex; not with money, but with love. and with courage; not with gallantry, but with sex; not with money, but with love. and with courage; not with gallantry, but with sex; not with money, but with love.
From the author: Believe me, I'm not a boring type at all, given that the woman around me has always been happy. Thanks to everyone for the advice, I said I'm not perfect and I'm looking for the reason in myself. And I've never been used by a woman, by the way, I'm not a fool. I gave because I had something to give and I am a broad-minded person.
Haha, ladies justify their careless behavior by looking for some mythical emotions. Then, when they dump them for a newer model, however, they will wonder how to return to the boring man. Familiar story. The author is looking for other ladies, those who value sincerity and deep feelings, not those who chase the superficial passion that is up to date, as №6.
Here is a catchphrase from me: "No one runs away from the good." When I was a student, I had two candidates with a description similar to the author - good looking, successful, educated, wealthy, with a car and a house. Guess what happened - I refused both of them, returned to my hometown and married a poor dependent man / then he lived with his parents /, without education and without a profession. The reason? I was dying of boredom with the candidates, and I had something to say to my husband and I was having fun. This act of mine may have been irrational, but it was clearly not wrong - to this day I am with the same man, sometimes we fight, several times we even got into a fight, but sometimes we laugh and have fun together. So, author, let this soul of yours relax a little - as number 6 told you, put a little passion, bring a little chaos if you want in your life. Do something spontaneous for the woman you like. Don't be a good friend, but a passionate man who will take her as an element and make her forget everything else. And you will succeed.
Numbers 6 and 9. It's not about boredom, it's just about emotion. You are emotional beings looking for love and butterflies in your stomach. You can't choose who to fall in love with. It is extremely clear to everyone that women lack action - logic and logistics. It's just that for me things weren't mutual feelings, but I'm a little dumb about how you consume and consume and when you meet the thrill, bye. I would very much like to meet a woman like me with dignity, a person who will not consume until she has given something of herself. But you know, a person gives because he has something to give. Tight and petty people are weak and pathetic by nature.
You are a strange person, author! Two women (I'm number 6, but I'm also referring to 9) here shared how we preferred men who have nothing to "solid gentlemen" who just didn't suit us emotionally because we didn't feel the joy of life with them. And you call such a woman "a person who consumes before she has given anything of herself." So what more can we give? I gave my second husband love, a home, support, found him a good job, and supported him for four years until he got back on his feet. What more? You sound like a person who is not looking for a spouse or the love of his life, but just an employee. One kind: to earn her salary, and I can give her a bonus. My first husband was just like that. Now I realize that all the time I perceived him as an employer. I have not "consumed" anything. I worked honestly and honestly - I was loyal to him, I cooked, cleaned, washed, ironed, organized social life and brought a decent salary at home. In return, I received a pat on the head and a trip to Tunisia. But if we assume that all the time he paid for my services at market prices (let's not forget that the work of domestic helpers is also paid), then it turns out that I was at a huge loss for the simple reason that I only with this money I was able to support myself and go on vacation, outside of my salary, which went to the general budget. And this conclusion of mine is not because, as you claim, women lack logic. It is logic that leads me to this conclusion. Since I didn't have an emotional bond with this man, since I didn't feel tenderness, passion and desire in him, why did I fold his pants and endure his snoring at night? Because I was a hollow watering can, that's why! Do you see now how ugly these bills sound? I made them on purpose to see from the side! Love seeks, man, love! Everything else is a beaten card. And love is won with passion. Knowledge of accounting works as you fill out your tax return. In a woman's arms, they have no value. The "woman of dignity" you mention as the object of your desires also needs dizzying excitement. I am currently at work and writing from the computer in the editorial office; I almost fell asleep because last night my beloved husband and I were partying around the city as teenagers, we must have toured five clubs, huddled in a taxi, and then made love until dawn. That's why I love him! Which doesn't make me a woman without dignity. man, love! Everything else is a beaten card. And love is won with passion. Knowledge of accounting works as you fill out your tax return. In a woman's arms, they have no value. The "woman of dignity" you mention as the object of your desires also needs dizzying excitement. I am currently at work and writing from the computer in the editorial office; I almost fell asleep because last night my beloved husband and I were partying around the city as teenagers, we must have toured five clubs, huddled in a taxi, and then made love until dawn. That's why I love him! Which doesn't make me a woman without dignity. man, love! Everything else is a beaten card. And love is won with passion. Knowledge of accounting works as you fill out your tax return. In a woman's arms, they have no value. The "woman of dignity" you mention as the object of your desires also needs dizzying excitement. I am currently at work and writing from the computer in the editorial office; I almost fell asleep because last night my beloved husband and I were partying around the city as teenagers, we must have toured five clubs, huddled in a taxi, and then made love until dawn. That's why I love him! Which doesn't make me a woman without dignity.
There are passengers for each train, it's too late to change. She is looking for a partner. You're not that old yet. There are so many 30- to 40-year-old women. Open your eyes. But you're also a little stupid. The woman left you, and you gave her an apartment and a car for Bai Ganyo to enjoy. F 27
Author, I agree with number 8. Don't listen to how some commenters here try to convince you that you are almost boring. I'm sure you're not, and no one who behaves naturally can be bored. Just be yourself, do not look to please any woman or man at all and you will see that the right woman for you will appreciate you. Life is not just a party and the meaning of a relationship for me is in the partnership: between two people to have love, acceptance and support. The rest is just a bonus, but not the main thing.
Here I read various stories of uneducated poor people at a glance pulling high-ranking women towards them. I don't believe that. Not that it doesn't matter, but I just don't trust the specifics. For the simple reason that such glances are constantly cast on a desired woman by high-ranking men. So if the current munch is to be changed, there is always a richer one who will offer a better attitude, passion, sex, love, etc. Such a chick will not have a chance to turn with the bachelor at all. Nothing personal.
Number 9 to 14: Everyone can believe whatever they want, as long as they don't disturb the others. Nothing personal. High-ranking men, as you call them, may have been as naked as a rifle in their youth, you know? Were they low-ranking then?
Dear Mr. 14, first of all, thank you for the grade "high-ranking woman" (I'm number 6)! I don't define myself that way, but it's nice to hear it. Secondly, at the risk of slightly shifting the subject of the author, I will try to clarify the case: is it possible and in fact how exactly such a woman is ready to prefer the "bachkatara" to a normal, meaningful, smart and rational man . Last night my husband (the baker) came to my office, where I hung up late to do urgent things before the holidays, and brought me pizza, because he assumed that I had not had time to have lunch all this time. My ex-husband (high-ranking) would call me on the phone to insult me that he had come home, and there was no salad on the table. Another comparison: when I finished the tasks, the "bachkator" looked around slyly, hugged me and asked: "There are no cameras here, because you're so sexy and I want to throw you on this desk ..." And again I made a parallel - my high-ranking IT genius, whom I was married to, in such a situation would say: "Come on, drop this nonsense and let's go because I stopped at a paid car park. " I have received many "waxing" suggestions. One muncho - the head of a holding company - once offered me, in plain text, to give me an apartment on the condition that he stop there from time to time. It is "from time to time"! I don't know how his front teeth survived, because I hit him so hard on the face that my hand hurt later. Another - he had a chain of bakeries - came up with the offer to marry him, but on the condition that I quit my job and never work again, I don't leave home without him and generally dedicate myself to what he called. " And I died of boredom. My God! This man did not allow any improvisation in his life. There was no such thing as surprising him with an exotic dinner. The menu was set by him on Sunday and everything was scheduled - meatballs on Monday, moussaka on Tuesday, etc. Guests were invited at least a month in advance; this - to meet an old friend and invite her for coffee at home, turned into a huge scandal afterwards, because he was "not ready." And no sex. 10 years no sex! That's why I don't have a child. Someone has to do this child anyway, right! Yes, number 14, in the meantime I was courted by a bunch of other "high-ranking" complexes, but my age progressed and I already saw in men other qualities. I can make money on my own, I don't need an ATM, I need a real man. Finally, I met the "bacchator". Beautiful, energetic, friendly, potent, in love, emotional, funny, honest, responsible, open to the world. And poor. The latter is treated, by the way, if a person has the previously listed qualities. The rest is history. I no longer know how many years I sleep in his arms, and in the morning I wake up from his kiss. I can't imagine getting bored of this man and me getting bored of someone else. I even stopped staring at men who didn't look like my husband; he somehow became in my mind a standard for an attractive man. So, number 14, my friend, there are such stories. And often they have a happy ending. I hope this post is interesting for the author of the topic, to whom I owe an apology for the emotional interference, but it just started a story ... PP I forgot to mention that my current husband with his own hands, without any help, he built a chapel to marry me in it. Does he refuse such a man? !!
Number 16 ... I'm number 14. You haven't seen it openly, but I explicitly say, "offer an attitude." Not some rich man who doesn't push you for a plum. Ok, I'm glad you hit
Number 16, I'm the author, and I'd like to tell you some things because you got the wrong impression. Believe me, I'm not a boring type at all and my emotionality is very strong. I have always tried to have surprises and every day to be different. Yes, I am a high-ranking man, but you are not rich from those he described. I have a high rank in mind, that I have self-confidence, but with coverage. As I can manage 10 people, at the same time I will go to help the cleaner to wash the toilet. For me, the name - high-ranking men and women comes down to those who with their own efforts have achieved something in life and even if they fell, they still stood up. Regarding your conclusions that I was bored, I will tell you only some things that I did to draw my conclusion, but I do not stand out. Did your husband rent a hot air balloon and take you from work and you traveled to the mountains ??? Did your husband rent a white Lincoln from Plovdiv to Sofia full of roses, champagne and strawberries ??? Did your husband rent a yacht for you and did you go scuba diving ??? Did your husband take you to swim with dolphins ?? Is your husband while you sleep in the morning, he washed, cleaned, ironed, took the dog for a walk and you wake up you see fresh flowers and a gift with breakfast and coffee in bed. I have done these things and many others, but it is beneath my dignity to discuss them. Those deeds of mine speak for themselves. And again, all the women were happy with me. They just told me that they were afraid of me and that I was a person in need of love, a family. I don't know what they are afraid of. With respect champagne and strawberries ??? Did your husband rent a yacht for you and did you go scuba diving ??? Did your husband take you to swim with dolphins ?? Is your husband while you sleep in the morning, he washed, cleaned, ironed, took the dog for a walk and you wake up you see fresh flowers and a gift with breakfast and coffee in bed. I have done these things and many others, but it is beneath my dignity to discuss them. Those deeds of mine speak for themselves. And again, all the women were happy with me. They just told me that they were afraid of me and that I was a person in need of love, a family. I don't know what they are afraid of. With respect champagne and strawberries ??? Did your husband rent a yacht for you and did you go scuba diving ??? Did your husband take you to swim with dolphins ?? Is your husband while you sleep in the morning, he washed, cleaned, ironed, took the dog for a walk and you wake up you see fresh flowers and a gift with breakfast and coffee in bed. I have done these things and many others, but it is beneath my dignity to discuss them. Those deeds of mine speak for themselves. And again, all the women were happy with me. They just told me that they were afraid of me and that I was a person in need of love, a family. I don't know what they are afraid of. With respect took the dog for a walk and when you wake up you see fresh flowers and a gift with breakfast and coffee in bed. I have done these things and many others, but it is beneath my dignity to discuss them. Those deeds of mine speak for themselves. And again, all the women were happy with me. They just told me that they were afraid of me and that I was a person in need of love, a family. I don't know what they are afraid of. With respect took the dog for a walk and when you wake up you see fresh flowers and a gift with breakfast and coffee in bed. I have done these things and many others, but it is beneath my dignity to discuss them. Those deeds of mine speak for themselves. And again, all the women were happy with me. They just told me that they were afraid of me and that I was a person in need of love, a family. I don't know what they are afraid of. With respect
Oh, author, now the picture takes on a different look! (I'm number 16) Here, my friend, we're just pushing our heads over why women don't stay with you (an intelligent, hard-working, and well-mannered man) and launching all sorts of hypotheses. Because I don't know you, I assumed you were devoid of imagination. But! I definitely change my mind and now I allow something completely different. Do you know how uncomfortable it is for a woman who values her personal dignity not to be able to meet her set standard? Not because the man demands it of her, but because SHE demands it of herself in order to feel like a full partner. Of course, none of the things you listed were done for me, but if they had, I would be seriously worried. Because I will feel obliged to respond with such a gesture, and I will not be able to. I am not able to prepare such an ingenious casserole to respond appropriately to the yacht and the dolphins. There is no way I can become such an alien beauty to deserve a limousine and strawberries. What is required of me in bed - I will ask myself - to give an experience adequate to a balloon trip? Maybe I'm wrong again. Maybe that's not the reason. I'm just trying to be useful to you. Personally, I've always been very worried when my husband gave me something that I can't buy myself because it's out of my pocket. This may sound ridiculous against the background of modern relationships, in which everyone peeks into the other's wallet, but as far as I can tell, you are looking for an educated, intelligent, responsible and organized woman who cares about her dignity and can be full partner. Most of my friends fit into this psycho profile and many of them have repeatedly screamed: "But he gave me a reservation for a holiday in the Maldives for my birthday! What can I do now! To refuse to go means to insult him terribly and we end the relationship If I go, I can't pay for a salad there, so he has to feed me, and that's a shame! I'll take a loan, there's no other way! "Such a woman won't let you give her pockets for ice cream, you know. ? She would prefer to pay off a five-year loan for some dumb vacation, but she would definitely buy plane tickets. And when she starts to get more, she just comes to the conclusion that it's best to be your friend because she can't meet your standard. I have seen such cases more than once, and I am like that myself. If we are a family, things are different, because we have a common budget, but in order to become a family, we have to go through such a period of mutual exchange of gestures. Should the pot crack here, author? Are you doing more than the lady can respond to according to her abilities? I do not know. I'm just shooting in all directions and I hope these thoughts work for you. The truth is often somewhere in the middle.
Author, have you asked the women in question what they are afraid of? They probably felt very uncomfortable and worried about such gifts and gestures. They are kind and romantic, but the woman may decide that she is expected to do something ... number 19 said it well. One more thing. Don't you have a problem with sex? A personal matter, but it is important. If there are such a romantic and you can barely touch the woman .. most women like the variety, the alternation of gentle and rude, etc. Or you just fall for a lot younger than you, who either don't know what they want yet, or aren't ready for something more serious. Orient yourself more or less to sets. I'm number 2, so to speak.
Thanks number 16 for your thoughts. To have things from those he described that are accurate. Maybe I'm in a hurry to give support from the very beginning of the relationship, when I was told a problem, I was always behind the man without asking for anything in return, and from there the female began to feel obligated not to answer me. . But I've always read that I don't want anything in return. Clean accurate and clear relationships. Maybe I should learn to take! Recently my friend told me she wanted to try, but it was scary. I asked her what you were afraid of. The answer was that he could not meet the criterion and was afraid that if we started a relationship he would lose me. And I thought I just wanted to sleep with her. I showed that he hurt me with those words, because I'm not a guy who likes things overnight, given that I never talked about intimacy even. And I am a completely normal person and I accept the person with the good and the bad, because there are no perfect people.
To the Author: At first reading you sound like a decent and accurate man, author. A man who gives himself away and just wants to be loved. This is the most normal thing. I personally would give a chance to a person like you. And let whatever happens happen. If nothing else, I'll at least tell you where you're wrong or what I don't like about you if I knew you. F32
Dear friend, we are beginning to feel the problem. (again number 16) If a man tells me that he "doesn't want anything in return", it burdens me many times more, because I'm starting to wonder what he really wants and to raise the bar, because I practically don't know what the level is. I give an example from everyday life. When I ask my husband what he wants for dinner and he says, "Nothing special," that message decodes in my head like, "Something amazing, dizzy, exotic, and terribly delicious." And I'm actually making some mind-boggling dish, and he, the man, wanted an omelet. Such are our women. And really - start wanting! You are a party to a relationship and as such you should have requirements. Some women are aware of these standards from the very beginning due to innate mental intelligence, but to others the rules must be set forth in plain text. That doesn't make them bad, they just need guidance. Thank you for this topic, author, because it is useful for me as well. I systematized my own mistakes. Sometimes we forget about the sensitivity of the other person.
As I read the women's comments, I am even more disappointed in them and regret to the core that I broke up with my last girlfriend, who seemed to be the only normal woman I knew.
24 And I thought the same. Women aged 30-40, but their thinking is like that of 16-year-old kids. Especially the one where codings and messages are heard. I'm just getting into a situation where her husband didn't want to have sex. This is a problem, but to be of a serious age and your ideal man to be someone with whom to go around the clubs and push in the taxi, and then brag that you fall asleep while at work ... well, not I'm your boss because I would fire you in a second, and if you want the most boring in the world, think of me. You are neither cool nor funny, you just haven't experienced your childhood and at the age of 30-40 you catch up on things that are done at 16.
Author, where are you from?
Dear friend, if a man is in love with you, you know very well what he wants. I don't want anything in return because I am generous and strong and if the woman is smart enough she will find the answer that this type of man wants the heart and not just her body. Everyone needs love women, give it in abundance to the right people. We give support on behalf of you and your children and you must respond with a normal meal and caresses. Personally, I often criticize men when I hear them talk about women. That they are looking for money and money and money again. Complete nonsense is that women are emotional beings makes them happy with the addition of good sex and everything is fine. 90% of women want a man who is independent even if he lives at home and works. Number 22, I'm disabled without lower limbs, but with a nice face and both heads work flawlessly, would you try with me again-) This is a joke. Number 24 don't try to understand them, they don't understand, just appreciate when someone does something for you so you don't regret it. With respect to all, a nice topic turned out.
24, what's wrong with women's comments? Come on, take over. I read adequate opinions. Yours is not among them. And why did you break up with a normal and conscientious friend, when she is so perfect? Maybe because of something not so ideal ... most men roar that there are no decent women. They were all muffins and materialistic. But when you come across a normal one, it doesn't happen.
Thank you № 16. You have no idea how much it helped me. I've been in your role as your "gardener" for years, and I couldn't explain why she wanted to be with me when she had everything with him. Apparently the female soul is as vast as the Russian expanse and the floor is beautiful. And to the author - when I was young I was in your position. Whether from the zodiac sign or so, I stubbornly twisted my finger to prove to myself that I can have far more valuable women than them without drooling and telling me "how can they not afford to lose me (because there is no to whom to share their long-suffering endless apocalyptic monologues.) Now, as years passed, some of them thought of various things, but without compromising their dignity, I showed them that it was too late for a wrist.