I am a man, I am already approaching my 30s. I am determined that I do not want to have children, I will not explain why. That's how I judged and that's how I want it. But at the same time I want to have a serious relationship, I'm monogamous and I'm not tempted by the idea of constantly being with different chicks. Many people do not understand me, which is normal, some rush to explain to me how I will be left alone and unhappy, that children are the meaning of life and so on - ok, for most people it is so and good that it is so, because if the mass stop making children we will just disappear. You will not be surprised that many women my age are already looking for a man with whom to start a family and have children, and my reluctance to have a child always spoils my relationships and leads to separation. I've never been with a woman who wants the same thing as me - a monogamous relationship, but no kids and I've been starting to feel a little lonely lately. In general, men who do not want children are women and party people, but I am not like that. I see that many people read and write on this site, so I will ask a question: are there women who feel the same way as me and are looking for the same? I know I'm different from most people, but I'm still sure I'm not unique and there are others with my thinking.
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Look, there are women who also don't have motherly feelings, but you'll find few - mostly women in science, careers, or women with a health problem. For us women, it is clear that the clock is ticking and a woman in her 30s knows that she has 5 years to make that decision. You are now 30 years old, but after 30 you can still have children if you feel like it. With us women, the decision is very final and do not rush to judge women your age that they insist on children, because we have 5 more years, and you have 25 years for this decision. But yes, I personally know a woman who she has no children and is happy without children. My brother-in-law's second wife has no children and never wanted to, but notice - she reached a serious relationship and marriage at the age of 50 with a man who has children and now grandchildren. Even she, who is a very smart, beautiful woman, a nice woman, has not been able to keep a man by her side, because sooner or later everyone abandoned her to have a normal family with children. Your destiny will be more or less similar. If you do not start a family or find a wife in your mind by the age of 40-45, you will eventually marry a divorced woman or widow with large children, and so in practice you will still have a wife for the second half of your life, but not for now. I myself am 30 years old and although my husband has 2 children from his first marriage, he is determined to have at least 2 more children because of me. To love means to make compromises, not to insist on your own. Why people want children is clear - it's a part of life. I do not agree that they are the meaning of life, but they are part of it and without children you are deprived of one aspect of life. It's like saying you won't have sex, you won't travel, you won't swim or anything. Having decided to give up this part of your life is your problem, but you can't ask the same of your partner - it's like amputating someone's arm because you're armless. Yes, the meaning of your life is not to have a hand, but life with a hand is better and fuller than life without a hand. Do you remember?
I don't want children, I'm 29. So far, I have serious friends as partners, but I don't think I am and can be monogamous for the rest of my life. Most men, not just women, want or have children at this age. You will find such a girlfriend, but it is important to fit everything if you want to be with her for the rest of your life.
I also do not want to give birth, I am 27 years old. My friend wants several daughters. :) Do not worry. Most women I know don't want to have children at all (of course, that's subject to change). I think this idea has been gaining popularity in Europe lately. We are an aging continent, and the mass births are Muslims and Gypsies.
Believe me, if you were a woman you would get a lot more criticism and psychological pressure from society, especially from women who are typical housewives, with a ticking clock mostly in their head and almost nothing else there, anyway now it is not so much on the topic. I am a 28 woman and I also do not have a drop of maternal instinct. But I am still genuinely indignant when I see a loving mother muttering, hissing, shouting, squawking, or hitting her child. In general, from people who come up with such a definite excuse "Sha you see what you become as a parent" Just do not make it a fiscal idea to meet the right person for you and she will appear. It may be in 5-10 years, but until then do not despair and do not stop enjoying life as you know, as you enjoy. But I still advise you to live in a district town,
The reluctance to have children and the bigotry have nothing to do. There are certainly women who do not want to have children. The birth of children is not obligatory at all :). Looking at where the world is going, the most sensible thing is not to have children ... It seems to be a good option if you come across a chick who already has a kid. And monogamy is a completely different beer and has nothing to do with children, the desire for them, its absence or their creation.
Do not worry! Gypsies and migrants work for you!
I am a 34-year-old woman and I do not want to have children. And my husband doesn't want to either, so we're happy anyway. I just don't think it's normal to force yourself to become a parent if you don't want to, just so people don't judge you. So author, I completely understand you. Now I know they will spit on me cruelly, but honestly I don't care. It is better for me to be spit on by some strangers than to have a child without wanting it and then me and the child to be unhappy, because I know that in this situation I will be a terrible mother. It's just that children's whims and roars make me nervous, and if I have a child I'll scream almost all the time, and that's not good at all. That's why I just decided not to do this to any child or to myself.
Then he found a childless woman who could not have children. There are many women who are afraid to start a relationship because they have reproductive problems and at the same time they are worried that no man will want them. Find such a woman and make her happy in your way!
I am a woman, 27 years old and I have always looked for this. I love children, I just don't think I will be a good mother, and I don't want to be one. Now you will be surprised, but women who do not want children are more than men who usually want a generation. It's a pity we can't meet.
I am a man of 23 - 2 years ago I had a relationship with a woman who had 2 children. But I realized that I don't want children yet. I will not have it in the future because it is not known what upbringing to teach them. if I have children I will be ashamed I had better be childless.
I am a woman of almost 30 years and I do not want to give birth, I just want to have a person next to me to help each other. I prefer to have children, I can adopt or find a man who is divorced and has children, but I definitely do not want to give birth.
Bravo Bravo! Four billion years of evolution! Countless biological beings that have multiplied, crossed, died, but have never broken the chain in a mind-boggling series of conditions and combinations. Until you finally pop up - the crown, the crown of Evolution and ... spitting on everything, you decide to become the barren shoot of your kind, because ... you are lazy! Or because ... you don't want to spoil your rahat. Or for some even more valid reason .. Haha - this is the road to HELL, as Dire Straits sing.
I am a girl and I never want to have children. I am not light, I am not a cu .. well, I just do not want to have children. With this standard of living in BG it is absurd to change my opinion. I children have decided that I will not have at least not in this life.
Well, you're not the only author. Many people are already shaking off what is imposed on them as a stereotype and just living their lives. I am in a monogamous relationship without children and my partner, like me, does not want them - we have been together for 6 years and we clarified this with the children at the beginning. In fact, there are many women who do not want children, but simply do not dare to say so because they are afraid of human opinion and public pressure. Don't stop looking - I'm sure you'll find your soul mate.
How is it possible to want a box of teeth and a baby lock hidden for decades in your closet (as we know, parents and serial killers collect the same things)
I would like to ask the author a few questions: 1. And if you fall in love with a woman who wants children, will you give up your love? 2. Since all contraceptive methods are 99% successful, how will you react if your potential partner becomes pregnant?
Number 18, hello, I will answer you: 1. I will not give up my love, but I will not change my decision for the children. If she is determined that she wants children - we will separate and hopefully find a man with whom to have children. 2. There are pills and other types of contraceptives for such cases. It happened to me, for example, that the condom broke and the pills saved the situation. BUT it is important to know that these birth control pills confuse a woman's cycle and are generally harmful to health.
It is normal for women who want to become mothers to avoid you. If you are lucky enough to fall in love with someone with a similar mindset, you will be happy, but the chance is not very great ... you may be left alone because of your reluctance. I don't know why, you probably have personal reasons, but always keep in mind that this would repel many women you might fall in love with.
But what if someone forcibly pushes children into your arms? !! Sterilize and you're done, no need to point out how different you are.
Well, what's more - a few thousand individuals who are not parents anyway will not reproduce - will live their days happily. Separately, there are probably several hundred thousand who want to be parents, but are sterile, and as many who are attracted to the same sex and will not have children for this reason. However, the other few million also realize that raising a child involves many sacrifices for the parent - you are not the only one to find hot water - but due to a number of social or natural conditions, they will still give birth, but no more than one or two children. - which is 95% of the case in Europe. And so we will all live comfortably and happily until we die. Don't get me wrong - I'm not blaming anyone - these are just facts - no one is obliged to continue their family and no one is doing it - even those with 2 children, do not contribute to the increase, but to keep the number - 2 grow old and die and 2 are born - for the rest - with 1 child and without children - the decrease is clear. After all, humanity will not die with us. There are others who will inherit the land because they want it so much. It's just funny to me that you don't want children, but there are others who do, and that's good, because otherwise we'll disappear - kind of - it's nice to have children, but let the others give birth to them. However, there are no others - we are all cunning - and even those who give birth take a strictly calculated risk. But we cannot judge them, just as we will not judge you. The others are the stupid ones from the third world who did not understand that one can live easily. So let's at least be honest - we make a conscious choice not to continue not only our personal genes, but also those of our people and the European race, in general, because there is no 'other' to give birth to and raise children for us while we live our lives. That's it - we can and we do. Point. The end. No excuses. Without transferring the responsibility of raising the next generation to those 'who want to have children'. As I said - there are no such people - not from ours.
You suggested a good idea n21, but what you say should not be pointed out that it is different ... so why not? Xia, like you, you like to try your best to be as close as possible to the table and at the same time to emphasize it, while other people like to point out that they are different. As I said, your suggestion is good, but you didn't have to merge it with the fact that the author or other people like to stand out with different things that make them as different as possible from the table, to share about these things, to write and analyze these things. However, these people do not bother anyone. Tell me how not to call people like you "annoying aunts" ??
People just to tell you that we all didn't have children at some point. I sincerely wish you to have your children of your flesh and blood and then you will understand what it is. What is the meaning of your existence if you do not continue now. All his life he ate and s.r.a. l. I apologize for the expression. And I didn't like the kids and the children's league, but now I have 2 kids who make every day of my life meaningful. Imagine many people I have seen lonely precisely because they do not have children and did not want and at an advanced age regret, some of them are abandoned and no one cares for them, living a dog's life. Imagine that if there are no children there is no future. And colored people can't compensate for your gene.
Sorry for the personal question, but will you still share because you don't want to have children. I do not condemn you, on the contrary, this is your choice, but I found it interesting because you say so firmly - no. Have you experienced anything ... or ...
Wait a minute, wait, 29, stop with the insults, I'm not an obscurantist. I'm just saying that there are some people who are incompetent to look after a child, do not take into account their financial capabilities and do not have a parental instinct by nature, and therefore doom their children to poverty and misery all their lives. Would it be better to give birth to 10, and not be able to feed them later and throw them on the social to look after them, than to give birth to 1, but to raise him well, without depriving him of money for textbooks, food , water, clothes, shoes, essentials ?? Quality, not quantity, people! When will you find out? These people, you call that they take benefits and don't work, but look at the gypsies, they do EXACTLY like that - they tickle 10 of them, just for the sole purpose of sucking children out of them, without having to work for life - well, it is the parasite of society. They live on the back of the state and do not move their ass, but complain that they do not have enough money for the Chaavets ... Here for them there should be a ban for the 3rd child, and without them they will not become professors or astrophysicists or chemists, and it is not up to them to change the world with an invention - it's just their mentality. I am not going against humanity and I am not against the birth rate in principle, has it not led to such progressive technological progress in the world ?? But my thought is that not quantity, but quality is important, I say again, an intelligent, educated man, raised with good manners and manners, and with a high general culture, is valued by society 1000 times more than 10 braziers, which grow up , will take to steal rails and other melting irons and will also give birth to even more, in order to have someone to get children from and not to work - tell me, what is the point of all this money that we earn with hard work and sweat on our foreheads, instead of remaining for us, to go for those miserable people who do not can they use them, or start their own business, or invest them in their children's college, but only invest them in picking seeds in the park and drinking brandy? Lots of logic error, №29. But you're clearly on the principle of Winnie the Pooh: "The more, the better." So much the better for you. And no, I'm not talking about coffee. and they will only invest them in picking seeds in the park and in drinking brandy? Lots of logic error, №29. But you're clearly on the principle of Winnie the Pooh: "The more, the better." So much the better for you. And no, I'm not talking about coffee. and they will only invest them in picking seeds in the park and in drinking brandy? Lots of logic error, №29. But you're clearly on the principle of Winnie the Pooh: "The more, the better." So much the better for you. And no, I'm not talking about coffee.