Hello ! I'm a 14-year-old girl, I'll be 15 soon, but it doesn't matter. I currently live with my mother and father, I also have a brother who is currently 18 and even after he finished and went to work on a ship I do not want to brag about where he went to work, but the thing is that my parents constantly arguing my father swears and shouts and all the people hear them arguing and I get really sick of it, I constantly pray to them and tell them to fight spart constantly cry in front of them and tell them to stop with these things. I feel like hell because I'm constantly crying and sitting at home all the time alone. not to do something like cut my veins, to see that they understand that I do not want to do so .. I do not expect advice to change everything but I just wanted to share with someone like I just have no one to share it with, maybe some advice on whether to do something like that to stop are arguing . I am very confused and if he can give me some advice I will be grateful to him !! I'm quite confused by the story but .... Excuse me for the spelling mistakes .. Thanks !!
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Hmmm, let's cut our veins now, because mom and dad are arguing ... this is their life, their problems (which you can't understand, you're still young). True, it's unpleasant, but don't confuse them :) M 22
Girl, don't do nonsense. Do not touch your veins and your life. Only God gives life. Try to talk to them. I understand what's wrong with you, but sometimes with adults things go a long way. There are no ready-made recipes.
Sometimes parents do not understand what they are doing to their children. It is a pity for every child to grow up in such an environment. I do not know what advice to give you, but this with the veins does not, I do not advise you. Rather, try to tell your parents that the situation burdens you that you want peace of mind at home and that if they have any problems, it is not your fault and you do not want to be a victim. I don't know how much this would help, but it's good for them to know, because they obviously don't notice it.
Think about it, all of you who have been enduring such marriages for years "BECAUSE OF THE CHILD", think about what you are doing to this child!
Until recently, I was in your situation too - every day was hell. I cried, I even wanted to reach out. Then I realized that I would not be weak, I would not ruin my life because of their scandals. I just said to myself, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger and I moved on. I promised myself that this would not be in my family - I would not allow my children to witness such scenes! Then my parents separated and it's really better now. And all you have left is to be strong and not to allow the misunderstandings between them to break you !!!
I understand that your goal with cutting your veins is a cry for help, a way to show them how bad you feel, to get your attention, not to commit suicide. Do not. You will scare them, but this will not solve their problems, and even if they refrain from arguing in front of you for a while, they will gradually regain their current relationship. It is really very difficult for them at the moment, but this does not justify the lack of understanding they do not show towards you. Talk to your mother, ask her what's going on with them, why they fight all the time. Let her talk, share. And then tell her how you feel. Tell her about the veins, too. Say you're unhappy. I hope he hears you. I hug you, baby. And I'm keeping my fingers crossed that things will get better sooner ... somehow.
Dear girl, I have a daughter your age. Relationships between adults, unfortunately, directly affect children. I would advise you either to talk to them separately / for example at least with your mother /, or just to leave the room or apartment, at least when you can and the quarrels start. Share with your brother - you are and in the future you will be closest and you will rely on each other. If your parents hurt you so irresponsibly, there's no point in doing nonsense. Useless - no. Try to survive and in a few years you will be an adult and you can now be more independent. Share with a close friend - even if it doesn't help you, because there is no way it will at least relieve you.