Hello, I am 23 years old and I have a 1-year-old child and, of course, a 33-year-old man (we are not married). So ... before Christmas we sold the apartment where we lived under duress and came to live with my parents. And here it is quite narrow, there are 2 rooms in which we live 7 people. So far so good but I got pregnant myself and now "my husband" makes me have an abortion and I do NOT want to have one. I don't think I can live with the fact that I killed my child. Tell me dear people what to do
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Hello, it seems quite close to me for so many people, don't you have the opportunity to move out? And why does your husband want you to have an abortion? If you don't have the financial means to look after another child, maybe that's why. Do not do it! The child is a gift, give birth to him and you will always be fine, and yours will help. But by no means am I in favor of abortion
Why do you want to have an abortion? If he doesn't want the child, but you keep him, you will have to look after him yourself ... Decide what you will do until it is too late. And you're still young for a child, I think. Tell your friend to be more careful next time, not wanting children.
Don't, if you feel it from the inside, don't do it. Everything else is irrelevant!
Well, I'm sorry, but with a one-year-old child and 7 people in 2 rooms, you don't seem to have much choice. The birth of this child would be real madness ...
use contraceptives was people, in the 21st century we live though ...
In this situation, without the prospect of improving at least living conditions, I would not give birth to this child. Abortion will not be murder, but the right decision according to the situation. Children need to be raised with a love that I am sure you will give them, but they also want conditions and space. 7 people in 2 rooms is crazy, I can't imagine a baby.
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I am against abortion, but in this situation I do not know what to tell you ...
I want to appeal to all women ... I also don't think I would have an abortion, so I don't stop taking birth control pills. I have girlfriends who are pregnant by "keeping" and that's why I'm very scared ... and I have a small child too.
Don't kill your own child !!!! Whatever they tell you, abortion is murder! It's hard for you now, but think about the little hands that will soon embrace you and those big eyes that will say "I love you" from the first sip of life :)) You are young, if you have an abortion, think about how you will live with this thought for many years to come. Adults' problems are solved by speaking. I hope you make the right decision.
as long as you have these prejudices - you don't kill anyone, that's nonsense. just ask yourself if you have the opportunity to look after another child, how you will live in the future. but maybe you already have the answer - you don't want to. think again, talk to your friend and decide. it is not just to give birth to him, you have to provide him with conditions. but if you're really so emotional and can't survive the abortion, don't do it. but talk to your friend, only you can decide, no one can give you advice, success
Don't make an abortion - this is a murder you will later regret!
Yes, it is better for him to give birth and then for a creature to suffer, because he watches what his friends buy, and he does not have the opportunity. To starve, to suffer, just to make ends meet ... Have an abortion right away, without waiting. You don't kill anything, you just remove a pile of cells. Better that way than torturing him by giving birth to him. You don't have a roof over your head !!! It is because of such "proud mothers" that our country is going backwards. They give birth and then the state owed them ... But wait, you have decided to have a child - take care of yourself, no one owes you.
I support number 6. Giving birth indiscriminately is not a responsibility, but a pure test of selfishness. You can't offer basic living conditions to your current child, what's left for new. ... otherwise - buy condoms or use contraceptives. We are 21 years old!
You can barely handle one child, but want a second? Do you want to live miserably? Abortion is not murder. Better not to get there, but there is no other way. If you sold the apartment to start a business I understand, but you probably did it to pay off debts. You have to think logically. Is there a chance to increase your income in the coming years? Because the costs will be significantly higher. Kids don't just want food and clothes. There is always a way to survive, but not to live normally. If you want you can survive 8 minutes in the 2-room apartment. With another child, you are unlikely to leave soon.
As I read how some free-thinkers advise the author to have an abortion, and how this was not a child but just cells, I feel sad. Human life begins from the moment of conception, not from the appearance of the white world. This "set of cells" is no less human than we are here. There is a heart that beats, a nervous system and organs that all people have. It must be difficult, you do not have the support of your friend, you do not have finances and a separate home, but who nowadays has everything perfect and adjusted? Who can guarantee that you will not be in a better position tomorrow. You have the right to happiness and a child :) I wish them from the bottom of my heart
Hi, author I'm not good at things, but I think you'll be sorry. You do not know if this child will not support and support you in the future, this is a great thing in human life. As long as you thought only of petty nonsense like no money, no place, etc., which was not born, it was not raised, it is not by chance that the grandfathers said.
from the author Mercy to all of you and I know that it is not good to have an abortion but tell me what to do if no one stood with me to support me to give birth to him. And my mother and father and they all want me to have an abortion, is I not able to fight fight with everyone right? I am a human being and I have nerves ...
Abortion is murder and the child in you is not just a pile of cells. Save your child and don't listen to those who encourage abortion at all. These are heartless people. Think about whether a man who wants to risk your life really loves you or is just confused and looking to pass easily. What kind of man is this when he can't take responsibility for a small child? If you have to, he will stay hungry and work at 3 jobs, but he will make sure that you keep your baby and live for rent. Find out more about your child at http: // www. abortion. bg /
DON'T HAVE AN ABORTION THEN YOU WILL TURN OVER TIME
Author, it is undoubtedly difficult and overwhelming to need the support of your loved ones in this confusing moment for you, and not to find it. But just because they advise you to have an abortion doesn't mean it's the right decision. They won't live with a guilty conscience after that, and you will. You are an adult, you have to make the decisions for your life on your own. It is these important decisions. Do not panic and do not despair, the child inside you feels every emotion.
And what now ... will you become 8 people in 2 rooms? Author, take matters into your own hands. You are about to ruin not only your life, but also that of the people around you, especially your child. How will you live in this misery? You are 23 years old, you probably haven't earned BGN 1 with a job in your life, but you have ambitions for a big family. I'm sorry, but someone has to tell you - having children and a family is a RESPONSIBILITY. Yes, abortion is definitely a nasty job, but it's even worse to have children without a future and a basic standard of living. Girl, there are contraceptives, there are condoms, your young wife - don't expose yourself like that. What happened - happened. Whatever you decide will be wrong, because you have already made the mistake of conceiving this child. I am 29 years old and have been having regular sex with the same man for 12 years. We use condoms and I have never gotten pregnant and I do not have abortions. We collected money and worked hard when others took loans. We lived in the quarters, we struggled with 14 hours of work a day. We studied and worked in parallel and there was no rest for us. Nothing is given to us in life. For a week now we have been the proud owners of a very large house in the center of the capital, which we are currently building. We don't have children yet, but that will be soon. We do the bill in two words! Look around - people live well. There are families with two cars, they go on vacation, they provide clothes, good food, housing for their children - you will never be able to provide that for your only child, but you have gone to give birth a second time. How will this little one feel when he sits next to my child at school? When you look at your torn shoes and you have no money for breakfast? What if he gets sick? I come from a poor family, but not as poor as yours. We still lived in 3 rooms, it was warm because we cut wood in the summer, we had animals and we ate well. And vegetables and fruits from the garden. Thanks to mom and dad! But at the age of 12 it became clear to me that I had to brush my teeth and claws in life to achieve something that others are born with. 10 years of slave labor and study costs us to have a start in life. And my husband comes from a poor family, much poorer than yours. He worked as a construction student on a crust of bread, but we stuck together and planned - we avoided getting pregnant, not that we didn't want to have a baby, not that we didn't love each other. That's why I can't understand people like the author. Come on, in our time there was nothing without it, people gave birth, but today there are all kinds of opportunities that YES - cost money.
Don't do it, you will never forgive yourself, I speak from experience.
from TUESDAY Unfortunately, dear people, I have already done it, yesterday I had an abortion. At number 24 I want to say that when I am 23 years old, don't think that I didn't work, because it may seem ridiculous to you, but for 5 years I've been a bartender / waitress / cleaner / cook and what not. hundreds and at the moment I already have discopathy. So don't think that when I was little I didn't see anything. Yes, we are really poor, we are not very wealthy, but like number 24, it says well that we have animals, the garden and so on. THANK YOU ALL
you have made a decision, never go back !! life is ahead of you, you can have 2 more children later if you want. These are personal decisions and no one has the right to rebuke, judge or tell you anything. you did what you decided, so it was right for you. Thank you for writing and I wish you a lot of hope, warmth and love for your loved ones. Life goes on, better days will come for you and your family !!!
I'm number 6. I read that abortion is already a fact. You made a difficult and wise decision, author. I wish you to organize your life from now on. May God give you the opportunity to get rich and get back on your feet financially. To have your home full of love and many children.
from TUESDAY thank you number 6, if your wishes come true I will write here again
Dear AUTHOR, don't have an abortion. An acquaintance (an elderly woman) told me that when she was young she also had this difficulty, which you now have. Her relatives wanted her to have an abortion, but she refused and gave birth to her second child. Despite the misery she had in her youth, she raised her children with God's help, and her husband is with her. Now, her children have a good education and work abroad, help their mother and are very kind to her. This acquaintance of mine travels the world and is grateful to be with her children. Don't listen to anyone if they want you to kill a child !!! And your own child !!! Do not have an abortion, if you give birth to a child you will receive mercy from God and things will be fine for you. If you have an abortion and kill your child, you will be bitterly sorry for your loved ones !!! There is a familiar, who under the pressure of her relatives killed her child in the womb - now she is bitterly sorry! Don't have an abortion!
Hello, can a woman explain to me - what are the signs if a woman has had an abortion recently?