I can't believe I'm writing this, but here it is. In general, I am a woman with a very high libido, I loved to have sex with my partner, but lately I do not want to do it at all. Somehow, I don't feel anything, I stopped and forced myself to do it. We haven't had sex in almost a month, and I see he wants to. For me, however, it is a kind of total blockage. I love him, we have no problems, just something like it unlocked in me and stopped any desire to have sex at all. Nothing excites me, I don't want to do anything at all. I'm not tired, on the contrary, I'm energetic. Everything is fine in my work. With us as a couple, everything is fine. I just suddenly stopped seeing sex as something good, something necessary, something beautiful. It happened to me somehow ... as part of life, something not so special, something I can definitely do without. Now is the time to say that we are never bored in bed. My partner is quite inventive and definitely hellishly sexy. I just don't want to have sex. Any ideas of what's going on and why I don't want to do it at all anymore? PP: I talked to my friend about it. At first he thought I was joking, then he was shocked. I hope to recover soon and figure out how to deal with the problem. But overall ... We're both in a crazy dream right now.
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Get well soon, another will grab your friend!
Visit your gynecologist or endocrinologist, you may have some hormonal problems that affect your libido.
Tell your friend to stop: to be your cavalier, to smile at you, to tell you how much he loves you, to share with you, to pay you anything. So in time you will feel how "good" he is, that you no longer pay attention to him in bed and do not make love. :)
You just need another partner. And I was so disgusted by a longtime friend, and I'm generally sexual.
My girlfriend is in the same situation. He doesn't want sex. To me, at times I feel faint, it's so strong. I look for the problem in me, it blows me away.
Syndrome of disease, seek medical advice!
You did the most important thing for you as a couple - you shared with him. Now comes the other most important thing - to visit your doctor and start finding the cause of this condition. And if after the relevant tests and visits to the necessary specialists no physical cause is found, it will be time for a psychologist and sexologist. There is a "trick" to return the desire INSIDE THE COUPLE - intimacy without sex for a while. That is, cuddling, caressing, touching between your naked bodies, massages and complete conscious abstinence, even if you feel like it. But in your case, still visit the specialists, because you have lost the desire at all. However, it does not hurt to combine it with this. Success! G30
Lack of desire for sex in women usually occurs at a much older age, especially after menopause, when vaginal fluids fall sharply. You don't say how old you are! It sounds a little strange to me to have a very high libido and then lose that libido. Before, when you had sex with your partner, did you have an orgasm regularly or did you just pretend? Many women play the "dirty" game and at the beginning of their relationship with a man pretend that they really like sex and even simulate an orgasm, and after a while they no longer want sex because they already have the man next to them. How come nothing excites you, you don't see anything good in sex, nothing necessary, nothing beautiful. Tell her if you haven't been the same before in your relationship. Your friend thought you were joking, and then he'll be shocked because he realized, that you've been an actress all along. Doesn't your conscience bother you that until now you have deceived him? What do you think you will do in the future if your boyfriend insists on regular sex, and you do not even want to hear about sex. If you do not want sex, find an asexual man and tell him at the beginning that you do not see anything nice and beautiful in sex. But where do you have such openness in a woman. Please post my comment.
From the Author: Number 10, are you with everyone, excuse me? I have never pretended, there is no need to project your own observations on my situation. So, no, my conscience is crystal clear. My response to other diseased brains with "adequate" comments is similar. Number 9, thank you, we will continue to maintain intimacy, I have no intention of neglecting my partner. The doctor is also mandatory, I will consult. I was wondering though if anyone was in the same situation and could help with advice from personal experience. Thanks also for comments 8, 3 and 5 for the inclusion.
Do you hope your friend recovers to solve the problem? I was speechless. I just lost my image and sound. The defense has no more questions!
And my wife is like that, we did it often for the first two years, then it decreased more and more, so that it reaches five months without! I tried everything, conversations, surprises, anger, understanding of the situation, he didn't even want it orally or by hand, finally he said he couldn't stand me and wanted other men, otherwise I was a great father and a very good man, "are thank you .... in "I think ... ahahahaha
Apparently this happens when the partners have been together for a long time. I also do this with my boyfriend once every 2 weeks, we have been together for 8 years. I will follow the answers on the topic.
Hi, I understand you very well, because it's the same with me. My partner and I have been together for 4 years, he first started not wanting sex, I was angry with him, but then we got used to it and I don't press him anymore. I also need more sex by nature, but when your daily life overwhelms you with obligations, you don't care. I deal with energy practices and I know from personal experience that a woman needs to "recharge". Try to relax, take time for yourself, touch yourself and you will awaken the passion again. But do not neglect your health - you may have hormonal changes, just in case go to the doctor. Lately I've been thinking about similar topics - how do people keep the fire burning over the years? My opinion is that our perception of life is very distorted - I imagine that it is a constant amusement park, where the candle is pink, beautiful and we experience countless orgasms ... yes life is to enjoy it, but sometimes there is sadness, boredom and monotony. And this is normal, otherwise we will go crazy from the constant stimulation of our senses. If you understand and love, do not look for another - because sooner or later you will get bored of him, and the next, etc. Success;)