Hello! I am a 13 year old girl. I live with my mother, my father, my grandmother, and recently with my grandfather. They are on my mother's side. They are good people, but I want to live separately. When they are at home, I am ashamed to invite my friends. I know it sounds like I'm ashamed of my grandparents, but it's true. I want, like each of my friends, to live ONLY WITH MY PARENTS. Sometimes grandparents quarrel a lot, which irritates the WHOLE HOUSE. Dad, like me, generally doesn't want us to live with them. He told it to his mother more than once, or he hinted at it, and of course I understand it. I think we need to be independent. I used to be okay when my grandmother and I lived alone ... but now my grandfather came too. Before he came, he lived in the countryside. Sometimes when we come home late when we are guests they sleep. When Dad starts talking louder, his mother scolds him. Then, in principle, they quarrel after that, but I think my father is right. When my father worked abroad, I heard them say that they wanted us to buy a big apartment and live there. Well at least he wants to. We have a one-room apartment that we rent out, but it is too small. In my opinion, we should stay in the big apartment, which is a two-bedroom apartment, because they still attributed it to my mother, and we also made repairs to my room and living room.
After all, Dad paid for them. The problem is that I am afraid to talk to my parents because I don't know how they will react, but rather how my mother will react. So please help me how to proceed. I've been doing this for half a year now, but I can't anymore. For many years I want to be completely alone (without my grandmother), but now my grandfather .... PLEASE HELP !!! When my father worked abroad, I heard them say that they wanted us to buy a big apartment and live there. Well at least he wants to. We have a one-room apartment that we rent out, but it is too small. In my opinion, we should stay in the big apartment, which is a two-bedroom apartment, because they still attributed it to my mother, and we also made repairs to my room and living room. After all, Dad paid for them. The problem is that I am afraid to talk to my parents because I don't know how they will react, but rather how my mother will react. So please help me how to proceed. I've been doing this for half a year now, but I can't anymore. For many years I want to be completely alone (without my grandmother), but now my grandfather .... PLEASE HELP !!! When my father worked abroad, I heard them say that they wanted us to buy a big apartment and live there. Well at least he wants to. We have a one-room apartment that we rent out, but it is too small. In my opinion, we should stay in the big apartment, which is a two-bedroom apartment, because they still attributed it to my mother, and we also made repairs to my room and living room. After all, Dad paid for them.
The problem is that I am afraid to talk to my parents because I don't know how they will react, but rather how my mother will react. So please help me how to proceed. I've been doing this for half a year now, but I can't anymore. For many years I want to be completely alone (without my grandmother), but now my grandfather .... PLEASE HELP !!! which we rent out, but it's too small. In my opinion, we should stay in the big apartment, which is a two-bedroom apartment, because they still attributed it to my mother, and we also made repairs to my room and living room. After all, Dad paid for them. The problem is that I am afraid to talk to my parents because I don't know how they will react, but rather how my mother will react. So please help me how to proceed. I've been doing this for half a year now, but I can't anymore. For many years I want to be completely alone (without my grandmother), but now my grandfather .... PLEASE HELP !!! which we rent out, but it's too small. In my opinion, we should stay in the big apartment, which is a two-bedroom apartment, because they still attributed it to my mother, and we also made repairs to my room and living room. After all, Dad paid for them. The problem is that I am afraid to talk to my parents because I don't know how they will react, but rather how my mother will react. So please help me how to proceed. I've been doing this for half a year now, but I can't anymore. For many years I want to be completely alone (without my grandmother), but now my grandfather .... PLEASE HELP !!! that I'm embarrassed to talk to my parents because I don't know how they'll react, but rather how my mother will react. So please help me how to proceed. I've been doing this for half a year now, but I can't anymore. For many years I want to be completely alone (without my grandmother), but now my grandfather ....
PLEASE HELP !!! that I'm embarrassed to talk to my parents because I don't know how they'll react, but rather how my mother will react. So please help me how to proceed. I've been doing this for half a year now, but I can't anymore. For many years I want to be completely alone (without my grandmother), but now my grandfather .... PLEASE HELP !!!
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I want to see my grandfather at least one more time. I want to hear his voice, sit at the table with him, talk about his youth. I want him to laugh with my father, hug my mother and smile. It is impossible. Think about this alternative, it is much worse not to have these people and not to be around them now that you can really get to know them. You are ashamed of your grandparents unnecessarily, they are people and do not wish you ill. They haven't stopped calling you friends, you don't want it yourself. You are influenced by your father's opinion. I ask my friend to speak quietly in the evening, even though we live completely alone. Why you have to talk out loud in the evening is annoying. The apartment you live in was prescribed to your mother, but it is from her parents who are alive. My father bought food for my mother's parents and helped with many property repairs, which was not prescribed to my mother and was in the future divided between her and my uncle. He didn't say a word, he didn't want a stone from the yard, which makes him a hero in my eyes. If my husband is one day like him, I will be convinced that I made the right decision when I chose him. My mother also did a lot for his parents without saying a word. Respect of young people for adults. Consider, you are a child, and these are topics for the adults in the house.
I'm sorry, but there's nothing you can do! If your father wants to, and you still live all together, obviously the reasons are financial. Buying an apartment is very expensive, and rents are not cheap either. Believe me, your father doesn't like to comply with your grandparents, but he just doesn't have a choice. Hopefully one day you will find a good job with a high salary so that you can afford your own home. And until then ... well, I sympathize with you a lot, because my childhood was the same, I even had to share a room with my sister.
I'm sorry, little one, but as long as you live under the roof of yours and they support you, you will comply with them and their decisions. Now you may not like that your grandparents teach you, but one day when they will no longer be there, you will regret it and want to go back in time, I tell you from the position of a child in the same situation. And I was sometimes annoyed by my grandfather's teachings and the fact that in some respects he was old-fashioned and now I gladly tease him at times, but to be alive and by my side. Tomorrow, your so-called girlfriends may stab you in the back and turn their backs on you in a difficult time, but your loved ones would never make it, no matter how big a mistake you made.
This is more or less normal. Especially during the winter season - the "old" come to live with you because it's easier for everyone - both for them and for your parents. The old ones don't have to light stoves and haul wood in the country house, and your parents are calmer when the old people are watching. When the weather warms up, they will go to the village on their own - and they don't want to live with you, but they have to.
Now you are ashamed of your grandparents, and one day you will only ask them to be with you, at least for a while. And they will no longer be there! I was like you, we lived together and I was always angry with my grandparents for something. Now, however, I would do anything to get them back, but I didn't realize it until I lost them.
And where will a pickle insist on grandparents to move out of the home, which they must have got and built a home and family in it with a lot of effort, so that it can be comfortable for her?
Enjoy them while you have them! This is my advice. You are still young, but you will see that at least in 5 years you will always want to see them! Otherwise, if you are so adamant, make them want to leave. But not to behave badly with them, but to hint to them how nice it will be to live alone, to get together on holidays, etc ... how nice it is not to fight at all and you can tell them how cool the other is apartment (But do not overdo it and do not say these things often, that if they find out that you do not want them at home can be offended and quarrel badly ... So this is a double-edged sword)!
Stop attacking the girl. It is normal that he does not want to live with 20 people. Give the whole family to live in one place, because one day one of them will die. You have another 5 years after that you get up and move out.
And do you normally see number 8, 13 yesterday ... asking her grandparents to leave their own home so that it is comfortable for her? 2-3 years ago I came across such a disgusting confession of an 18-year-old pickle who wanted his grandmother dead for the same reasons. I felt hellishly disgusted by this confession of his, but the wheel of life is turning and maybe one day he and the little bed will one day receive the same treatment from their grandchildren.