Please post my story. I am tormented, I feel insecure. I need advice and opinions. I am a 22-year-old woman. I have been in a relationship with a smart and handsome man for three months. Before that we saw each other in a company for a few months and there were looks, hints, flirtations between us. He always treated me well and even put up with my bad mood. I feel good with him. But there was a problem for me. We have an acquaintance who is quite frivolous and likes to flirt with men and they like her. She first added him to Facebook and he accepted the invitation. I didn't raise the issue because he has different people in his subscribers and I didn't want to look like a maniac. In addition to adding it, this woman goes to his workplace. He finds different occasions and revolves around him. Yesterday I saw her going to him again and spoiled my whole mood. Because I had seen him before, he asked me how I was and wanted to see each other. I'm worried because she's prettier than me. We are both thin and slender, but she has a beautiful face and self-confidence, and I am ugly and I lack confidence. I'm afraid he won't give in and leave me. Not that I lack male attention. But I don't want anyone else. They are not like him. And not that I haven't lived without him before, but somehow it's better, it's better when he's with me. Please advice. What to do? They are not like him. And not that I haven't lived without him before, but somehow it's better, it's better when he's with me. Please advice. What to do? They are not like him. And not that I haven't lived without him before, but somehow it's better, it's better when he's with me. Please advice. What to do?
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Stop comparing yourself to her for a start. Why are you afraid of her? He chose you. He's with you right now. He has feelings for you. And I can go on and on until tomorrow to list things that are entirely in your favor. I understand you, you are afraid because you hold on to him and he is important to you. But darling, how can you say "I'm ugly"? Ugly according to whom? If he is with you, you are beautiful to him. If you are ugly in your eyes, it already betrays another problem you have with yourself. In addition, beauty is a very relative concept. One thing may be beautiful to you, another to another. It is scary individually and this issue is very controversial. Also, start liking yourself. If you're insecure, if you're comparing yourself to her (or any other), if you're afraid he might prefer someone to you - well, all these negative thoughts will affect your self-esteem terribly, and believe me, no one likes complex people. Focus on your relationship. Go out with your loved one more often. When you are together, think of nothing but how to have a wonderful time. When you're happy together, what does it matter how many other women will follow in your boy's footsteps? When he is happy with you, others will not be of interest to him. Heads up, chick, you are beautiful and don't let anyone or anything instill the opposite in you! :) what does it matter how many other women will follow in your boy's footsteps? When he is happy with you, others will not be of interest to him. Heads up, chick, you are beautiful and don't let anyone or anything instill the opposite in you! :) what does it matter how many other women will follow in your boy's footsteps? When he is happy with you, others will not be of interest to him. Heads up, chick, you are beautiful and don't let anyone or anything instill the opposite in you! :)
Darling, tighten up! You may, without realizing it, cost much more than the other girl. The boy may want a serious person next to him, may seek a good heart, honesty, sense of humor, intellect and so on. And number 1 is right, how can you call yourself "ugly"? From now on, delete this word from your dictionary and stop using it for yourself! Believe in your own qualities and head up! You can't miss a person who is for you. If he chooses to leave, then you don't need him at all! Don't you think that you also deserve someone who is afraid of losing you? Come on, be more cheerful and don't think nonsense :) I wish you to be able to gain more confidence and not be bothered in the future on this issue :) Good luck!
Hello :) I am 20 years old and I have almost the same story ... I say almost because I am beautiful! , and I can't believe you're ugly. There are NO ugly people. What I'm doing is ignoring her, this lemon that came out of nowhere, I pretend I don't notice the interest in him and secretly observe his reactions and it's his and if he starts to show interest, just talk. Dialogue between people is salvation success !!! rabbit :)
I will not give you advice specifically on your question, because the others above have given good enough advice. But I would tell you one thing. I am a boy of 27, I do not lack female attention and as such I will tell you the following: for me the two things - beauty and character are interrelated. There is no way for a person who is beautiful on the outside, but bad, complex, irresponsible, without a sense of humor to grab me and vice versa and a person who does not feel any physical sympathy, no matter how cool in character to grab me. At least I think so. There just has to be a balance. I wish you success. My point is that you don't have to be beautiful on the outside to attract men.
why don't you let him go if he chooses her
When I met my now husband years ago, he had many admirers. There was one who loved him and was as beautiful as a tear, good and intelligent. She had met him a few months before me, but she had gone abroad for a while. When he and I were already together, she started sending him wonderful letters with beautiful pictures of her. When I read the letters and saw her in the photos, it became clear that she is much better and more beautiful than me. I'm a freak compared to her, but I have more self-confidence, I'm smarter and I'm more powerful and aggressive - the kind that my husband obviously dreamed of:))) ... If he had abandoned me, because of her I would overcome it (well, with a lot of pain and tears, because I was quite sunken). He once told me that he wanted to go to sea without me (at the beginning of our relationship). I knew she was there waiting for him. I told him to walk, but when he returns he will not see me again. And he made his decision. So you have nothing to worry about. Whatever happens will be for your good;)