Hello, I loved a man very much, I was hurt because we are too different and there was just no way we could be together. The bad thing is that a lot of time has passed - years, and I still feel like we're together every day. I can't live with the fact that I'm not with him. I dream about it often, it's been in my dreams for almost a year now, and we haven't parted in the normal way, and maybe a lot of things are left unsaid. I dream of him even just as a silhouette, without any contacts, but I know that he is there ... Sometimes he kisses me, sometimes we are together ... sometimes he just passes by and I notice him, but he is always there - in my dream! I believe and try to convince myself that it is one-sided because he did not look for me. I want to get rid of all this and move on, and I feel like I live only for him. It hurts a lot ... I've been on the verge of making contact with him a few times, but I stopped because I remember how he mocked my feelings. And it weighs a hell of a lot on me, that we are not at least good acquaintances ... I don't want to pass each other when we see each other, but I don't want to look for him and humiliate myself. And dreams bother me terribly ... I don't know what to do ... I don't want to fall asleep with tears in my eyes anymore! ...
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I don't want ... I don't want ... I can't ... You know, what we want doesn't always happen. We have to put up with one thing or another if we don't want to be slapped again. A large part of our dreams are our subconscious desires. To a large extent, we don't even realize that we really think and want something. Then we start dreaming it and we are subject to what is happening in our dreams. This is exactly what is happening to you. You may not like what I'm going to write, but come to terms with the fact that it should just be a dream. And it has happened to me to dream of someone with whom we are not together for a number of reasons ... there have been moments when, precisely because of these dreams, for weeks I have been telling myself that I need to contact this person, because obviously something has to happen. Well, nothing happened except that I was sorry afterwards. Do not think about that.
You need to get rid of this image. Or find another person and direct your thoughts in another direction. You can always make contact with the person in question, but think about whether it's worth it. If you still really want it, do it. It may turn out that then he will stop being interesting to you ... for one reason or another. And you will really get rid of it ... or you will start again ... Who knows ...!? :) Good luck!
Everything you wrote is as if I wrote it. It's awful, even though the dreams are good, we can't be together, because if he wanted to, he would look for me. If he didn't look for me, then he didn't care so much about me. The only thing I have left for these dreams. I dream of it at least twice a year. In principle, I'm always busy, but so during the holidays thoughts keep coming in, I don't know what to do to stop them. Maybe, as he wrote, it is something unspoken between us that causes dreams. Like you, I was about to call him, but I can't. I keep thinking that if I meet a person who made me experience at least 90% of what I experienced with him, the dreams will stop, but who knows. I don't want to get married one day, have children, and it's not over.
Hello. From my experience, I can tell you that many women have this confusing and difficult to share problem. From this I can draw some sketchy conclusions: The first states that if there are so many women dreaming and thinking about an ex, there are at least as many bastards who live with the thought that their wives are faithful both physically and spiritually. The second conclusion is that usually women dreaming ex-husbands have a verbal deficiency or confusion of emotions. That is, he was the top, but if he was there, why was he dumped, or if he dumped you, for what perverse reason did you decide that he was great if he didn't appreciate you. The third and final conclusion says that out of 10 stories of women dreaming of men, in the end it will turn out that there are a maximum of 2 men who share. Of course, all this, just because in Bulgaria soft temeruts are more and more common, who live by the principle "What women want" and the declining men of the type "Do what is right, let what will happen" progressively decreased. Success though.
dreams will never stop. I have been separated from my ex for almost 3 years. and for 1 and 9 months I have been living with another man and everything is wonderful but it often happens to me to dream of my ex. it all comes down to the fact that we women are masochistic and always consciously long for the one who hurt us.
From the Author: Thank you all for the comments :) I think that if a person does not help himself, there is no one to do it for him. This is the case in every sphere of life. And this man never deserved my love ... I just lick wounds too long. Maybe it's due to low self-esteem .. I don't know :) Anyway. Life goes on and it will pass like everything else :) Good luck to you too!
What's happening? Do you still dream of it?
And I've been dreaming of a girl for decades, but it doesn't work and that's it. Obviously it will be for life :)
You have been dreaming for two / three years .... I have been dreaming for 16 years and I know that it will continue ...
Until №10 Man or woman dreaming?