Hello! I want to say it to myself, so I hope I'm relieved and shake off that feeling. I have been alone without a friend for as long as I can remember. Almost all my girlfriends are with men, except me and another. So now she is dating a boy and she is very happy. Everything is fine, but I can't be happy for her. I think to myself - how will I be the only one left alone. What will I do and how will the attention be focused on me as the only one ... I know that I am not right, I know that I should be glad that she is happy, but ... I can't! I don't want to be such a villain, but loneliness seems to get me there. I guess deep in my soul I'm happy, but I can't bring it to light. The feeling is very nasty! She is so carried away by the whirlwind now that she can't even remember to ask me how I am. I know it's normal, but eat me from the inside out! Ma * ka mu!
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I recently felt the same way, but let me tell you - it passed quickly. It will probably come to you soon. Don't blame yourself, I think this is a completely normal reaction .. :-) However, no one would be particularly pleased to be the only one without a partner. However, when they start arguing for good and bad, you will even be glad that you are single .. :-)
I was also killed by such feelings. The struggle is great, but try to shake it off.
You must have complexes because of your appearance, and this leads to malice, envy, high self-esteem (seen from the side and you probably do not realize it), because of your loneliness you isolate yourself even more, especially if you are a virgin. Lower your criteria a little, don't be so picky about men, don't act like a desperate old girl. Stop thinking about the lives of others and learn to accept yourself as you are, because if you don't love yourself, no one will. Be happy with yourself and then someone will start for you. It's very ugly what you do, and your girlfriend doesn't have to be your psychologist. Even if you don't feel it, they know that you are jealous (it is very easy) and they will very clearly withdraw from you. I don't like people who, from the very beginning, exude negativity, malice and envy, that's why I stay away from them. If you continue in the same spirit and without girlfriends you will be left. Don't look at someone else's pitcher, look at your life. I am sure that you have other qualities - career, good diploma, you are independent, use them to your advantage, do not think that everything is perfect for others. Rejoice in what you have, because bad feelings only pull you down, and if you don't change your way of thinking, you will really remain a mean old girl.
Many girls (women) are like you but do not want to admit it. They prefer to stand alone, to pretend to be inaccessible, to play roles just so that no one reveals how lonely and bored they are, that's why you will always come across various garbage, or just order the men as they are, and the guilt is actually is only in you !!!
Hey, calm her down! Love will strike you like thunder from a clear sky.
Dear girl, it is so early to despair! You didn't write how old you are, but no matter how old they are, it's not worth it. Everyone has such periods. Do not imagine, everything will happen to you.
Everyone has been through this. Just calm down and .... just when you don't expect, everything will fall into place.
Obviously it is not your choice to be alone and you want to commit. Well, then do it. Go out with men, choose one and be together. It's not nuclear physics, though. It's even pretty close to your mind. In reality, any average woman can have any average man. Take care of your appearance and health, develop mentally and spiritually, gain self-confidence, learn how to approach people, be more socially intelligent, expand your circle of friends ... In general, live fully and be happy. He leads a good life. And you yourself will begin to wonder how to get rid of the men running after you. In order to have a partner next to us, we must first be the "self" we want to be. You are my best self. Everyone wants to communicate with positive and cool people. And to be like that, we have to feel comfortable with ourselves. Which happens when we try and progress (and not for the sake of others or our ego, but for ourselves - our truest and purest self possible). First think about what you want from yourself, and then from other people. You want a nice man (I guess you have an idea of what he should be), but what more can you offer him than me or the neighbor? Think about what you want to change in yourself and your life to be happy and satisfied (and this is not a relationship, but we will talk about it in the end). And change it. Scratch up, no matter how hard, but don't sit back and grumble. Desperate and grumbling people are characterless people. Nobody wants them and it's even burdensome to think about them. Take care of yourself. Take care of yourself. Develop. Love yourself. And slowly (and not guaranteed glorious) you will succeed more than you imagined. The connections, partnerships and love should be nice additions to your good life. Not to live for and through them. -Gia