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I Fail In Sex

By nbahistory August 30, 2020 19 answers Last updated August 30, 2020

Hi I'm 27 about 4-5 months ago I was sexually active, I had a girlfriend and things were ok, but for 2 months I've been very weak down there. Now I am with a new girl and I have already failed 5-6 times. In general, I attribute it to fatigue in the first place, because I start with a 100% erection, then I start trying to keep it, but I can't, it starts to drop slightly and I start to think that it's not cool and it drops to such an extent that then I can't lift it. It is narrower than the former, it is more beautiful and still does not fit. I even tried 2 times with my ex, and I couldn't do anything there, like people. I bought Ciliasis and another pill, I don't know at 140/90 it may not be very ok to drink, but I decided to try it next time. I also took a few drops of Spanish fly and a spray for a stronger erection, I generally try everything. I'm well excited in the morning, at noon too, from time to time and in the evening, when I get aroused myself, the girl comes and at least 30 times it happens to me while we kiss and touch, but I never hold him for a long time 100% from there start thinking that my penis is not ok, because of 15, 5, 16 cm with normal thickness, when I saw it softer and I just became more complex and started to think that she didn't like it and then I couldn't lift it. Lately I sleep very little around 2-3 maximum up to 4 hours. For 7 days, maybe 6 sleep like that. I've been trying to get out of the hole, drinking grandma's teeth for a week, eating bananas and drinking a concentrated pomegranate juice, some kind of supplement. I try everything, and finally nothing. My ex and I tragically started my sex life about 2 months ago, but I don't think I had this chronic fatigue, but rather I was worried, and then we had sex for hours. Now I'm not going anywhere with any girl to start,

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nati_diaz_69 answered · August 30, 2020

   It may just not pick you up, these are hormones, pheromones, that is, maybe there is no chemistry between you. My husband and I just kiss for a minute and he's fine, and I'm ready. And so it has been for the first time, for years.

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toyotaid answered · August 30, 2020

   I say that from a kiss I lift it 100 times and from a whistle and from everyone and at the first one I came back and I couldn't go there. I attribute it to lack of sleep and the fact that I more or less forget the gentle warm feeling of the vagina and get used to it with my hand when there is more drought, as well as the slight worry of failure .... but how to fix it. I can't help but like the girl haha, as she is much prettier than her ex and narrow, etc.

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paulduncan answered · August 30, 2020

   This is not the number one problem, if you haven't read it, you've tried it for sure with the former filthy bastard

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giraffeinspandex answered · August 30, 2020

   In my opinion, you shouldn't think about how it won't happen to you or how it won't stay erect at a time when you're both doing your job. Just think about her, about what you like most about her body to say. The more you think about your job, the more you will suffocate and you will not succeed. Try to think of something else and good luck :) -girl 21

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lillmorty answered · August 30, 2020

   Wait, wait, did I misunderstand something or did you "try" with your ex while you have a new girlfriend?

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lrggirl4u answered · August 31, 2020

   Be open with your partner first. Second, try this before stuffing yourself with junk. Love game, whatever you want but without penetration. This, I read it as a recommendation from a sexologist in such a case. That's how they solved the problem. Do not drink supplements. Try to play sports.

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fkzeljeznicar answered · August 31, 2020

   from the author - I tried with the former, because we had not yet clarified our relationship with the new girl. We were supposed to be for that, but this is the least that happens (I'm referring to the sex itself), because tenderness, kisses, oral caresses, etc. are ok, and 2, 3 weeks ago I tried with the former, as well as 6 days ago to sleep with this girl, I tried again with the ex and nothing happened. I can't stand it physically, it seems. And so ... At the moment I don't want to try anything with my ex, because I started to feel some more serious sympathy for this girl, otherwise there is always the offer, but I don't want it.

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socialblade answered · August 31, 2020

   Dude, why don't you tell your current one to go hang out with an ex to make sure she doesn't have a problem? If you make such attempts instead of seeking help or sharing with her, then why shouldn't she do the same? Instead of dealing with your soft dick, to go find a man to fix it well? Your problem is psychological and relatively easy to solve, but I don't think a girl deserves one like you. And not because of your soft attribute, but because of the way you solve problems. Today it will be your soft dick, tomorrow it will be something else and again with the former. That's not how things work. If you want to be reassured, every man has had erection problems with fatigue, nervous tension, sometimes with a new woman or others. But I don't know anyone who has solved the problem like you.

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jessy_kain answered · September 01, 2020

   And why do you prefer to cram in pills and supplements, rather than sleep normally! ??

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andrzej50521417 answered · September 01, 2020

   The girl to help you. You lie on your back, relax, and she gives you blowjobs. If you want to even close your eyes and at an unexpected moment it will climb on you. A few successful times to relax and calm down and then a rifle. I speak from experience. But there I took the initiative for this game. I don't know how it will turn out for you. And find a way to rest more. If this does not work, it is best to see a doctor. I do not approve of the fact that you are with a new girl and "run" to the former, regardless of the reasons, but that's another topic. ж30

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imomsohard answered · September 01, 2020

   And for a while he stopped masturbating completely. However, if this has happened before - pay attention. ж30

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jsilva_033 answered · September 02, 2020

   by the author - 9 you are right, whatever we talk about. 1 time I slept with my ex 6 days before her and nothing, once again there was after that we had not clarified and things did not become more serious and I had a whistle from the former, where I was at max. My dick is hard every morning and at noon, but my libido has dropped. 4, 5 months ago I was fine. And I accepted the present for the former, but I told her that it was 6 days before her and it will not be again. I cut off the former, so it's no longer a topic of conversation. 10. I have a chronic headache and tinnitus, I haven't slept well lately and I need sports, I can't. 11. That's how it turned out the most and best, to be honest

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ameliems answered · September 02, 2020

   I read to "I even tried twice with my ex" and almost fell off the chair laughing Otherwise there are doctors, go to the urologist.

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mimi_applebaum answered · September 03, 2020

   Well, you with so little sleep, not only in sex, but nowhere will you feel good. Get her and get a good night's sleep for at least 7-8 hours. Insomnia accumulates and exhausts the body terribly. I'm pretty sure that's your problem. And the fact that you slept with your ex while you were with a new boyfriend I will not comment on it .... very stupid!

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stehwang answered · September 03, 2020

   From the author This with the former can no longer be. I clarified with her and already told her that there is a new girl. He tried to bring me back with sex, as always, but this time it didn't work. Not only because I failed, but I don't want to. After the new girl became more serious for the last 20 days, at least I didn't have intimate contacts with my ex, no! Otherwise I had good sex with the new girl, I was fine downstairs after a few days of running and a little adherence to the regime and sleeping for about 4-5 hours at least, but in general I did not have enough air for more time, but unlike other times I hinted, that I am not such a drummer. Well, the next day I failed, of course, but I attribute it to fatigue. In the morning and at noon I am extremely well downstairs. While we were lying down and kissing all the time, I was stiff, but we were watching a movie, etc. It happened in the evening, supposedly woody and again I didn't last long and somehow spoiled the good impression of the previous day. I continue the program in compliance with a diet and in general more sports and I hope things will get better. While we were doing it, like people the other day, it was literally as if she was holding my hand as I had inserted it, I felt it so well, even with my ex I wasn't like that, but I didn't have enough air. Otherwise thanks for the advice. This was not ok for the former, but 20 days ago, this girl and I did not know what we are and what we will be. We were supposed to talk about sex, and that at least happens, but the spark ignited other things. I do not leave it as it did not work, but I tried as much as I could to compensate. In general, I gave attention, warmth, tenderness and so on. I like her, my way to the former is already CLOSED!

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wayfairde answered · September 03, 2020

   Hey great moralists :))) What if he slept with his ex! In fact, he hasn't "slept" with the new one yet;) I've had the problem for a long time, although it doesn't really matter to me - you could say I'm old. Once, however, a former head grabbed me in a drunken head. Because I know her ... I hurried early, soberly to tell her not to deal with me. I even told her outright that I couldn't. Of course she didn't believe me and ... check. Male what kind of sex happened ... To my attempts to convince her afterwards that I hadn't lied to her, she replied: "OK, we'll check again" ... Now I'm running away from her "like the devil from incense". After all, I'm married and I have to be decent. So - most of you here say it is mandatory. Otherwise I stopped trying to "fulfill my marital duties" and I take care of myself in my old age. I hope you are satisfied?

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lucianaah answered · September 03, 2020

   From the author I confessed to both what was happening. I even went with the current girl to break up with the ex and she didn't want to let me go. When we hugged I was numb, but when I pulled away from her arms and looked into her eyes I cried a lot and she saw him. She was trying to bring me back, she was praying to me, she was writing to me all the time and she told me that I would never see her again and now I pray that she didn't do something stupid because she is without parents, alone and I don't know what could make her mad. And in general, she showed me photos of how she cut her veins and then many prayers for me to come back ... I didn't want to sleep with her a month ago, we had been dating this girl until then and we hadn't clarified anything. If I have to be honest, she's an ex (the previous one, not the last one) of my best friend (who, strangely, but I can't be jealous, is so close to me, and in principle it is accurate for that as well. The day before he slept with me she had invited him to them, and he refused and sent me the chat, and 3 days before that I slept with my ex and after ten days he gave me a blowjob. I couldn't take this girl seriously, because we talked like that and we only talked about sex, etc. The thing that happens the least, I have to admit, but there were feelings and sympathies on both sides, for that I stopped all contact with the ex, I admitted to the current girl that I was with the ex before her and she is looking for me constantly (I did not admit that she gave me a blowjob once when we already had intimate contact with her, but we had not clarified anything)! And she didn't admit to calling my best friend after a month of going out and writing to each other, but we hadn't had any intimate contact. He was generally with a girl she was jealous of. The one she was jealous of the ex (who I'm with now) fed her in a pub, I told her and she told me if she wanted to see that I could only have it for one sex, she admitted and invited him the next day but he did not go. For a month and a half after this incident, I think things have deepened and become more serious, but I have no faith in women that I would start to be so moral and honest, at least at that time I had no faith, understand me! And so. Regarding sex, I improved my shape a bit. I think that lack of sleep is the main factor in the evening, not to be on the level and you think that when I get a little tired, that I do not like it and I fall completely and I can not go back. A few days ago, the only thing that stopped me was that I had no air, but overall I was quite powerful downstairs and we changed a few positions and it was the best sexual contact for now. I eat bananas,

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mbctrending answered · September 04, 2020

   by the author I'm sorry, I wrote things a little confused and I don't know if you will understand me. The current girl the day before she slept with me called my best friend and wrote that if she wanted she would do it for one sex to see her (supposedly his current then), but then she did not tell me that she fulfilled it threatened, and he confessed to me. The next day I knew very well that she was alone and after the disco she would invite me to them, but I pretended not to know anything. I didn't take her seriously at all! Sex happened more or less, I had no air and I was really tired and since then we were supposed to be for sex, but there were much warmer feelings and sensations, it is obvious and felt. That's it. Now I felt the moment they had to admit and cut off the former, and yet I hope she didn't do something stupid. I just didn't feel it before that moment came, and the ex was obviously trying to seduce me with sex. He knew I was dating a few girls and he only shouted about sex and so on. When you are tempted, how do you react? Are you running away because of your morals and principles? The border is very thin, but I felt that I could no longer cross it in any way

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slaveadam_ answered · September 04, 2020

   by the author: Hello again I found out what the problem is. In principle, I am hellishly sexual, the worry is gone. As I kiss the girl, I get up, as I touch her arm, even as we write some dirty things and we're at a distance, I get aroused again, the problem is that I don't have the strength down there and I can't hold it. Everything is rooted in the pelvic floor muscles and thighs. I have lost weight from the stagnant lifestyle in the last 6 months and the fact that I am gaining weight and all the excess is exactly in this area. When I squeeze my legs and I'm lying down and I'm aroused I can hold an erection for a long time, when I relax my legs it drops quickly. Also, I can't hold on to the back when the chick is as long as before, something I kept 6 months ago without sleeping for days, like people. My chronic insomnia has been going on for years, not now. Exercises,