Hello, please advice. I'm starting to fall in love with a 31-year-old man, I'm 18, he's 31, is it normal to make such a big difference, does it make sense to keep doing it, or is it a better option to end things now. I am asking for advice! What would you do if you were me, is the difference really huge or am I exaggerating a bit?
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And what's the difference with 13 years? Isn't it 25 or 35 difference? Fuck and just see get married.
It is not huge, but it depends on the person. If you are in love, then it can be your person :)
The age difference between my parents was exactly 13 years and I do not know a happier family than them. I had a wonderful childhood in love, and when I set out on my journey, I had the feeling that they were happy not only with my independence, but also with the fact that they would finally be alone with their love. My mother and father held hands like students all their lives, called each other "chick" and "dear," each trembling over the other, and when my father died a few years ago, she could hardly follow him. For her, who lost her husband, it was many times more tragedy than for me, who lost my father. So, author, I have a positive example of such a difference in age. And you are very young. My parents got married ten years after your age and they made a home and a child again and educated him, and were able to keep the fire burning with each other. But if you're just looking for a love affair, then age doesn't matter.
And I like someone with such a difference, but I don't think anything will happen, and neither of them is brave enough to take the first step.
I was 18 and he was 31 and married, I am already 32 and he is 45 we are together and we have gone through many vicissitudes good and bad, we have two children and we live great, the difference is in my plus, he loves me, he is jealous me, but we are constantly announcing vacations, discos, regular sex and it does not get boring, on the contrary, we fit perfectly in everything. Age is not a problem, just people are in spite of everything and if they do not retire too early
My husband and I are 17 years apart and we don't have any problems with age. My parents were 13 years old, and my half-brother and I are 14 years apart. Don't be fooled that he's 30 years old. It may seem that way to you now, but you will soon realize that around this age the real conscious life begins.
There is a problem only if there is a problem for you. Otherwise, from the point of view of numbers, it doesn't matter at all. The important thing is to match your interests and not lead different lives. I mean, you want to go to a disco, for example, because it's time for you, and he wants to stay at home and watch anything. If you have a lot of such differences, you get a lot of problems over time. But there are 18-year-old girls who have grown quite a bit for their age, as well as 31-year-old men who are their boys. Brother.
I don't think this is a striking difference, I'm also 19 and my friend is 28 and I think this is normal, it would be abnormal if your difference is 20 years :)
And if he was 18 and she was older, then what would you comment on, huh? Hypocrites, especially number 1;) Author life is in front of you, this is probably the most common sexual attraction! Knock a few times to get the thrill away and look to the future. Happy denouements like number 5 are a rarity! Now is the time to develop as a person, not to think about bonding with a person who up to 2-3 max 5 years (in the best case) can ask for a child from you. If it's like number 5 man, okay. But if she is like most men, you will become another desperate and angry Bulgarian housewife, hating all the free and happy people who pursue their dreams. Thoughts.
Don't you have ambitions - to study in order to have a better job, to travel, to see the world, to have fun? At 31, this is a time for family and children, as it binds you to give birth at 19, what will you achieve, you will spend your youth by the pot and shitty ass. When you are a woman in the prime of her sexuality, he will be on the threshold or in the andronaus (male critical).
For №9 Lately, happy families have been a rarity. Regardless of the age difference. How many examples of peers will tear their eyes out. It's all a matter of attraction. If there is, do not hesitate, if your interests are close, of course.
Whatever we talk about, this difference is big. At his age, people have to think about family, it's too early for you. You are at a different stage in life, it will be difficult to adjust
Let's put it this way - it's not a big difference, but because of your age it looks like that. You're just still very young, not to mention small. After a year or two, this difference will not seem "so huge". Another question is how comfortable you will be and whether at some point you will not "get away" too much in views and understandings about life. But even such serious reasoning does not make sense, at least at this stage. If the person fits you in many ways and behaves well with you, try.
In fact, the advice of 1 is not bad, but only if the 31-year-old in question is an Arab prince or something like that. The author and girls with similar inclinations are good to understand the essence of these men. There are quite a few topics on this site posted by such individuals who acknowledge how emotionally and mentally retarded they are. A recent topic like this: I wish I was 20 years old or a teenager now. It is also good to look at the opinion of 6 - an equally quite sincere statement, ending poignantly precisely with reality: Alpha. "
In fact, according to statistics, marriages where the difference is 14 years. are the most stable. So no problem. However, I see a problem in the fact that you are 18. You are just too young for something long-term with anyone.
If you were 25 and he was 38, it wouldn't be a problem. But at 18 you are still a child. Not bad, experience your relationship, have sex, enjoy. But it's just good to keep in mind that in 5-6 years you will be a completely different person. And there is a high probability that you will not fit. So, if it's just for sex and fun, come on. But a serious relationship at this stage would be difficult.