Help me, please! For some time now I have been falling into so-called manic states, in which I am obsessed with someone other than my partner. I don't fall in love with a photo or something related to real life, but let's say with an actor from a unique scene in a movie and I start dreaming about how it happens to me. The last time I fell in love with an actor was watching him dance to a woman ... Since then I can't get it out of my head. I lose interest in my partner and start comparing him to him. My partner is a good boy, but lately he repulses me because he no longer flirts with me, does not pay much attention to appearance, although he has good genes and is weak and even if he eats a lot he does not become fat and greasy. I don't know what's happening to me, then when the manic state has passed, even if I see the actor, nothing scares me, but it's 1-2 months,
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Well, you lack flirtation, jokes, that's it. And since you can't get them with random people / because it would be considered infidelity / you watch movies and mentally tease the person who grabbed your attention and imagination: D. Not bad, it's normal. There are people who are more inward-looking and often neglect physical / real / life at the expense of the inner, you are obviously one of these people. No problem, you just miss adventures :–). Tell your friend that you need a revival in your relationship and that you need to do something about it !!!!
And how come at 26, when you "fall in love" with a celebrity, you don't want to go out for a few months? Don't you go to work? If not - this is part of your problem. You have too much free time and your brain is wondering what nonsense to invent to create some emotion for you. Talk to your friend to step up, but not critically, but with love.
I don't know what to tell you, because I've fallen in love with actors from different movies, which is really a bit manic, but I was 13-14 at the time, I had never had a boyfriend, etc. Just tell your boyfriend that you need more sexuality from him. There are men and women with your problem, but they go out directly and cheat. You obviously have a very strong sense of loyalty and that's why in the movies you fall in love with different people, which is a manic state and you find out for yourself, it hurts you, it brings you depression. Even those in your situation who go out directly and cheat actually do well, if only for themselves, because they satisfy their emotional and physical need for caresses. So talk to your friend to start giving you what you need, and if it doesn't work for him, just leave it.