I have a problem ... I'm a girl of 17. My best friend is in love with a boy, let's call him Ivo. The three of us have been going out for a while, me, her and him. We are all very good friends. Things are going well between them, they have little left to become more than friends. Of course I am very happy for them. However, my problem started last Friday. My best friend was sick and only Ivo and I went out. We went all day, in the evening we went to Rock Cafe, and then to a party. We had a great time, we talked all the time about music, which is a favorite topic for both of us, he behaved hellishly sweet and sweet. At the end of the party we danced together, drank together, we were together all the time, just the two of us. Everything was ok, until the next day when I saw him and he hugged me I felt butterflies in my stomach and my knees softened. I don't know what happened to me that night, but I've been like that ever since. My best friend is recovering, the three of us are moving again, but I already feel differently. Please advice: Do something to understand Ivo's feelings and if they are more than friendly (of course they probably aren't, then I guess we'll be friends again), let's go, but this way I'll hurt seriously my best friend OR to withdraw, despite my feelings, to stay with Ivo only friends, then probably they will leave, and I will feel terrible, but this is the better option not to hurt my best friend and I really don't want to hurt her, but I don't know what to do with the damn feelings. "So, my question may seem silly to you, but it's important to me!" the three of us are moving again, but I already feel differently. Please advice: Do something to understand Ivo's feelings and if they are more than friendly (of course they probably aren't, then I guess we'll be friends again), let's go, but this way I'll hurt seriously my best friend OR to withdraw, despite my feelings, to stay with Ivo only friends, then probably they will leave, and I will feel terrible, but this is the better option not to hurt my best friend and I really don't want to hurt her, but I don't know what to do with the damn feelings. "So, my question may seem silly to you, but it's important to me!" the three of us are moving again, but I already feel differently. Please advice: Do something to understand Ivo's feelings and if they are more than friendly (of course they probably aren't, then I guess we'll be friends again), let's go, but this way I'll hurt seriously my best friend OR to withdraw, despite my feelings, to stay with Ivo only friends, then probably they will leave, and I will feel terrible, but this is the better option not to hurt my best friend and I really don't want to hurt her, but I don't know what to do with the damn feelings. "So, my question may seem silly to you, but it's important to me!" probably not, then I guess we will remain friends again), to leave, but in this way I will seriously hurt my best friend OR to withdraw, despite my feelings, to stay with Ivo only friends, then probably they will leave and I will feel terrible, but this is the better option not to hurt my best friend, and I really do not want to hurt her, but I do not know what to do with the damn feelings-. "So, my question may seem silly to you, but it's important to me!" probably not, then I guess we will remain friends again), to leave, but in this way I will seriously hurt my best friend OR to withdraw, despite my feelings, to stay with Ivo only friends, then probably they will leave and I will feel terrible, but this is the better option not to hurt my best friend, and I really do not want to hurt her, but I do not know what to do with the damn feelings-. "So, my question may seem silly to you, but it's important to me!" and I really don't want to hurt her, but I don't know what to do with the damn feelings-. "So, my question may seem silly to you, but it's important to me!" and I really don't want to hurt her, but I don't know what to do with the damn feelings-. "So, my question may seem silly to you, but it's important to me!"
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Another deluded league ... then why were there no real friends! Does a dance and a drink make you fall in love? Love is for a time, friendship for life. She's had feelings for a long time, don't fuck her. Your man will come too.
Hey, number 1, calm down! Author, to tell you the truth .. I don't know .. If she is a real friend of yours, don't take it from her, because true friendship is very rare, although it is difficult to hide your feelings like that. Maybe it would be best to try another boy, no matter how hard it is
I don't think you should take it away from her, but step away from him (that is, don't see each other much) until things happen between them and you pass;) After all, a true friendship is much more important than a boy. because guys a lot of real friends - a little! :)
It depends, author, it depends ... But you look like a smart girl to me. You should know the factors. However, in my opinion, what you are describing is rather sexual. If by that you understand his feelings you mean to ask him you are wrong. If something happens between you and you don't hurt your girlfriend, be more passive. Go out / alone / with Ivo, have fun, drink, dance ... And you send signals and hint to him. If things didn't work out until your third date, either kiss him or give up. (And wait for a reaction for three more meetings, and if you feel like it, then kiss him.) If it happens, be discreet - you don't want to hurt your girlfriend after all. :) And in order not to choose your girlfriend, then you are superior to her and there is no need for you to be upset. The better one wins. Always. Even in nature. And if you are better, act as such. No sense in telling you now - I don't wanna ruin the suprise. that there is no point in trying to win the boy. Have fun with it as much as you want ... Then you can give it back to her. :) And if it turns out to be something worthwhile, admit it to her and move on. I don't see her taking action on him - at least you always go THREE. I'm sorry, but this is not serious and I don't see any self-confidence and attractiveness in her behavior. She couldn't have "marked" him like that and not act. (That shouldn't stop you either.) And he won't be waiting for her for the rest of his life ... Probably the boy is your age too - well, honestly, he doesn't know much about which one of you he will be (hormones play a role). You are probably both equally charming - the more aggressive and cunning will win, respectively. If you want something in this life, you have to take it. They will not serve it on a baking sheet in any case.
Does your girlfriend like him? After all, the choice is his!
If you love and respect your girlfriend, leave the boy. Personally, I think it's just a simple attraction; e But still, as number 5 says - the choice is his :)