You know that in almost every group there is an outsider. This is a person who is ignored and he himself does not know why he is in this group. Well I'm that person. I've been an outsider all my life. I do not know why. I don't understand why when I strike up a conversation in a group, I feel like I'm talking to myself, because no one can hear me. Sometimes people ask me "are you talking to yourself" and I feel awkward. Before, however, I was sociable, but after failed attempts to fit in, I began to feel fear. I began to feel ashamed to be around people. I've always been shy, but I've taken a deep breath and swallowed it. Maybe the problem is that I have a quiet voice and different tastes from everyone else. I was bullied at school because I was separated from everyone. Sometimes I was asked if I had head problems (autism). It got worse over time, but I did something that saved me from the depression I was facing. I made a fake profile for 1 year. I experienced many good and bad things and realized what I would be like if I had friends. Never mind that everyone left me except 2 girls. I have 2 best friends. Sometimes they take me to their groups, but I don't speak there at all out of fear. Even if my best friend tells me to talk, I just can't. I don't know what and when I'm worried I talk nonsense and my best friend gets mad at me. My other best friend wouldn't be mad at me because she has a lot to talk about, but I can't leave the other one because they're sisters.
This year I created a fan profile of a singer and joined many chat groups. At first I was confident, but as people began to ignore me, I felt sick. Sometimes when I ignore someone I write to him, and sometimes I think it's not worth it because they wouldn't do it for me. I don't know what's wrong with everyone ignoring me. I don't even want many friends anymore, because last year a lot of people came to me out of nowhere. I thought I had friends, and that was because I was an excellent student and they wanted to copy from me. At the moment they are sometimes nice to me, sometimes rude. For example, one hour they will make fun of me and talk behind my back, and another they will be like "* my name * see this.", "Did I come out well in this photo?" and the next hour "she's fat," "I feel like she's crazy," "why her eyes are crooked" (I have squinting and will be wearing glasses soon). Sometimes when my best friend is about to go out, she tells me. " And I feel even duller when, after a postponed appointment, I see that she has uploaded a story about how she is out with friends, but I understand her. When I'm with her, I can barely talk because my life is boring. Sometimes, even without an appointment, when I get up to do what it is like with friends, I feel like crying. I don't know why I'm jealous.
This also happens to my other best friend, but less often. And do you know which is worse? I feel annoyed because my friends have a busier life than me and they tell me they are busy and I keep writing to them. Well, since this month I don't write to anyone because I'm afraid of disturbing them and that makes me feel more depressed because I'm on the computer 24/7 and almost no one writes to me. What to do? I can't live like this. And I feel even duller when, after a postponed appointment, I see that she has uploaded a story about how she is out with friends, but I understand her. When I'm with her, I can barely talk because my life is boring. Sometimes, even without an appointment, when I get up to do what it is like with friends, I feel like crying. I don't know why I'm jealous. This also happens to my other best friend, but less often. And do you know which is worse? I feel annoyed because my friends have a busier life than me and they tell me they are busy and I keep writing to them.
Well, since this month I don't write to anyone because I'm afraid of disturbing them and that makes me feel more depressed because I'm on the computer 24/7 and almost no one writes to me. What to do? I can't live like this. Sometimes, even without an appointment, when I get up to do what it is like with friends, I feel like crying. I don't know why I'm jealous. This also happens to my other best friend, but less often. And do you know which is worse? I feel annoyed because my girlfriends have a busier life than me and they tell me they are busy and I keep writing to them. Well, since this month I don't write to anyone because I'm afraid of disturbing them and that makes me feel more depressed because I'm on the computer 24/7 and almost no one writes to me. What to do? I can't live like this. Sometimes, even without an appointment, when I get up to do what it is like with friends, I feel like crying.
I don't know why I'm jealous. This also happens to my other best friend, but less often. And do you know which is worse? I feel annoyed because my girlfriends have a busier life than me and they tell me they are busy and I keep writing to them. Well, since this month I don't write to anyone because I'm afraid of disturbing them and that makes me feel more depressed because I'm on the computer 24/7 and almost no one writes to me. What to do? I can't live like this. because my friends have a busier life than me and they tell me they are busy and I keep writing to them. Well, since this month I don't write to anyone because I'm afraid of disturbing them and that makes me feel more depressed because I'm on the computer 24/7 and almost no one writes to me. What to do? I can't live like this. because my friends have a busier life than me and they tell me they are busy and I keep writing to them. Well, since this month I don't write to anyone because I'm afraid of disturbing them and that makes me feel more depressed because I'm on the computer 24/7 and almost no one writes to me. What to do? I can't live like this.
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Hello! I am a girl of 17 and I have the same problems. It's like I wrote it. I will tell you what I think and in general what calms me in such situations: and it will pass! Life is like a wheel, today you are on the low, tomorrow you are on the high. Have goals and you will achieve a lot after that. It is very important to know what you want to achieve and in the end you will be surrounded by people like you who want the same. Don't get depressed, I know it's hard, many times you will despair and you won't see the point in continuing, but just then remind yourself that somewhere in the future something is waiting for you!
Do not worry unnecessarily and do not analyze the behavior of your girlfriends. There is no point in that. I understand that you are a student. Now is the time to build character and determine what your interests are. Sign up for something you want to learn - chess, guitar, sports, dancing, drawing, ... Start to be more actively interested in the environment around you - science, politics, finance, medicine, psychology, cooking, ... Read more fiction, but don't overdo it. Determine your philosophical worldview as much as possible. I guess even before you got this advice, you did at least some of it. Once you become an interesting interlocutor, people can't ignore you. These are serious people. You're still in school, the selection there is too random, many of your classmates probably have no interests, moving away from the vicissitudes in the lives of their acquaintances, gossip, gaining a "higher" place in the hierarchy of the cool in the class. All this will fade and seem completely unimportant when school is over. I was in a similar situation at school, but then I found my middle ground. You should strive to become as independent as possible. Life is yours, not yours. Take yourself in hand, do not stay at the computer all day, be active. There are so many interesting things to do, as long as one does not focus only on one's current problems, as if they are something eternal. Friends will come by themselves, but there must be something to offer them. And one more thing, you better not go out with people with whom you know in advance that you have nothing to say or that they burden you emotionally. You don't have to befriend anyone by force, no matter who imposes what on you. Success!
It's the same with me, I fully understand how you feel and I'm like you, I always feel myself, and I'm an outsider for everyone, for groups without knowing why they reject me and even a stranger, lately I've started to become more silent and shy and I started going to places where there are no people to be alone because I feel better, because of that and almost no one writes to me and I don't know why not to go out. I don't always exist :(
Hey, I'm kind of like that, I even understand you pretty well. I know they've probably told you before, but as cliché as it sounds, it really comes from the head. From the habits of thinking and perception that you have developed as a result of this or that ... The nasty thing, however, is that when a long enough period has passed for you to believe in yourself, then it is difficult to look at things from another angle. You get used to the fact that you are such that they accept you and so they will answer you and you do not realize that you are blocking yourself and closing in a circle. I know it's easy to say, but be bolder. Look at yourself, forget about the others for a while. Sometimes it also helps to start thinking a little negatively in order to help yourself realize the limits of your personality and get used to defending them. (Only so that you don't forget who you are, of course.) Self-confidence comes, when you know what you love, you know why you love him and you don't need anything else. You just have to start listening to yourself and believing in yourself. There are always things that can disappoint us, the secret is in the difference between constructive and destructive self-criticism. In fact, everyone has problems, fears and complexes, whether he hides them through superiority and aggression, or is oppressed and not himself, depends on different things. There is always a lot hidden under the surface, I'm sure your friends are not the most confident. Even for this reason the groups are formed, then a self-proof begins. If they do not respect you as equal, it is because they try to convince themselves that they show others how strong they are and how much they don't care and don't care. deals with the "weaker". But it's natural, especially in the teenage years of self-awareness. You should not give in to him and suppress yourself. So, calm down, breathe freely and when you think about how you do not feel comfortable, imagine how they are the most ordinary confused people, realize how valuable you are to yourself and always upside down! You will adjust, there are always such periods that, when we go through them, make us stronger and more colorful. :) Good luck :))
You have to believe in yourself. Read more about how to sell yourself online. Life loves the brave and the strong - if you want something, you have to fight or you are disqualified. Get used to it, be strong and if you have to crush you - there is no other choice.
Well, you said that. On the computer 24/7 Well, this is suicide! Plus, in this fashion with girlfriends is so simple and dumb. I don't need any girlfriends. It is enough for me when I meet an acquaintance on the street, if there is something to exchange a word for, if it happens that we sit down for coffee, but to look for friends with whom to write, NEVER! Here is an article: Scientists warn: The world is gripped by digital autism The world is gripped by an epidemic of digital autism, in which young people are unable to communicate with each other live for a long time and withdraw from social networks. This was stated before the World Economic Forum in Davos by Andrei Kuropatov - scientific director of the laboratory of neuroscience and human behavior of Sberbank, quoted by BGNES. As early as 1997, the time spent in front of the screen began to be compared with the time which we used for face-to-face communication. Since the advent of the iPhone in 2007, human "screen time" has increased to more than 8 hours, while communication time has become less than 2 hours. This trend continues to intensify. And the result is an "epidemic of digital autism," Kuropatov warned. The scientist explains that digital autism is a condition in which young people are unable to maintain long-term psychological contact with each other and are not interested in the inner world of the other person. People become interchangeable because one stops seeing the qualities of each person individually. "Even during meetings, people prefer the telephone to communicating with the person they came to meet," he said. Kuropatov explains that this has serious negative effects on the psyche. If a person spends more than 2, 5 -3 hours a day with the phone in hand, his indicators of depression and suicidal tendencies increase sharply. There are people who, in their attempts to overcome depression, "enter" the phone to get rid of unpleasant depressing thoughts. "For most people, however, being on the phone causes feelings of inferiority, alienation, social tension, etc. In this sense, social networks are very painful ", emphasizes Kuropatov." "" "" "" "Conclusion, forget the internet and phones. Life is out. standing on the phone causes feelings of inferiority, alienation, social tension, etc. In this sense, social networks are very painful ", emphasizes Kuropatov." "" "" "" "Conclusion, forget the internet and phones. Life is out. standing on the phone causes feelings of inferiority, alienation, social tension, etc. In this sense, social networks are very painful, "Kuropatov said." "" "" "" "" Conclusion, forget the internet and phones. Life is out.