I have been living with my friend with whom I have been engaged for a year and a half, at one point in our relationship I became so jealous of him that I even went to the store with him, although he did not give me any reason for this jealousy. Several times we were on the verge of separation and I understood that without him I could not, I begged him to forgive me that I would change I would not be so jealous I would let him go out with his friends without me, but I never managed to change. I am so exhausted by the thought that one day it will not last that I lost 13 pounds in 6 months, I have a huge problem - I feel anger towards every woman who looks at him, I am obsessed with watching him, I make scenes for no reason and all sorts of nonsense more.
Everyone tells me that I have nothing to be like that given that I was terribly beautiful and I do not deprive him of anything, I give my best. I am told that there is simply no point in being jealous of him, that he would do nothing to hurt me, but if I continue like this, he will leave me. I know that it is not normal to be like that, maybe the reason is that I am 22 and he is 30 years old and for him these shoots of mine are childish. I haven't eaten for 2 weeks again because I'm worried and tormented, I want it all to end one way or another or for me to change or commit suicide, but without it, I couldn't go on. I know I have to go to a psychologist to help me in some way, I already know that I am for sedatives also because I soon had to drink and I felt great, I was a good person until their action passed and I became the same again. How do I want all this to end and lead a normal life and I do not know what to do please help me
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Go to a psychologist, it's a disease. And not just so you don't lose it for yourself.
Girl, take her in your arms! Is he the very handsome type of man to whom everyone clings and is that why you are so obsessed? If your answer is yes, then it is possible to always feel insecure about it. If not, she loves and respects you, stop thinking that way. It's all a matter of thinking, and sometimes one causes events through one's thoughts. Do you do anything but him? Do you study, do you work? Find a way to be distracted, you can't just think about it. And it has happened to me not to eat for a man a day, two, but two weeks is a lot. You will get sick, talk to him if you have reason to worry. Give him a little space, if you don't let him breathe, he may leave you for that, not for someone more beautiful. Beauty is not everything in this life, however, it is transient and boring. Good luck and if you need to go to a psychologist, their job is to help people. There is nothing shameful about going. Take matters into your own hands before it's too late. And what are these words about suicide !!! You can live without it and how! If he is not some God, you cannot think like that and belittle yourself. You have to believe in yourself and love yourself above all and everyone! Success! J. 24g.
I can't figure out what your problem is, since he didn't cheat on you or anything. You just have to stop being jealous of him and that's it!
Really go to the doctor will prescribe you antidepressants or sedatives and you will feel more stable, success! An awful lot of people have this problem
Your jealousy will kill love, and your friend obviously loves you when he endures all this! Believe me, patience will one day run out and then you will suffer from lost love. There is nothing worse than jealousy, even more than pathological jealousy. It's awful for some to keep watching and lurking. Understand that you are harassing yourself, you are harassing him, and you will ruin your relationship. Instead of wasting your time chasing and shedding tears, you better take matters into your own hands and try to be happy every minute you are together! And remember that if a person decides to cheat or continue his life with someone else, there is no power to stop him. To provoke and catalyze this process the most with your behavior! Good luck in the fight against jealousy!
6. Well, why am I not 22! I would change so many things in my relationship with my Man! The woman should be strong, but in front of the man she should look fragile, defenseless and weak. Men like to feel strong and even great, to be protectors and saviors. Be very fragile, defenseless, loving and even slimy in front of him. Believe in yourself! Kill all your complexes. When you get up in the morning, stand in front of the mirror and say: But you're cool! There is no second like you! You're just great! Today I will put every pickle in my pocket! Success!
I thank everyone, although it was very clear to me what I was doing and that I shouldn't do it ... it's hard to really talk and do things by force only because you know that if it's not like that you will lose your loved one ... Now I understand that I have to I started to play a role that I would get used to after a while so that I wouldn't be left alone ... to be torn from grief from the inside and the smile to sit on my face at the same time. Thank you!
You know, I'm also 22 and I had a similar problem, I didn't even get enough to eat, but I made various spy moves that I'm not proud of :) The only problem for me was, apart from the fact that I love him and that I feel too proud to be ignored, but over time I realized that everyone has a head on their shoulders and if a person decides to do something no one can stop him (believe me!). As paradoxical as it may sound on the subject of love, sometimes you have to be a little selfish. Men like fragile but confident women. You pass on your insecurity to him too. Be more confident! Love yourself so that he loves you too. I have suffered a lot from such things and I tell you there is no point in jealousy. If he allows himself to lose you - let him think! And you think for yourself! This is a long and difficult road, but in the end you will come out stronger! I wish you good luck
Jealousy will destroy you. I think that even without a psychologist, things can be fixed, as long as you want it. Once you destroy yourself, you will lose your relationship. Remember that if he decides to cheat on you - you will not stop him - so that he is not harassed - it is deadly / I know it from personal experience / I managed to heal myself - you will succeed too!
Once you realize what you wrote the problem is 90% solved. When you are not jealous of him, you will make him happy, he will even want you more. And jealousy always destroys and does not forgive. There is nothing shameful about a psychologist.
To tell you the truth - this is yours, it's scary ... tighten it up a bit, yours, if it catches you lurking like that - how long do you think you'll be together?