Hello! I would very much like to hear your sincere advice, daring to ask you to refrain from moralism. At least I don't think it's helpful. My friend is married, we have been together for 2 years and we love each other very much. He has not gotten along with his wife for years, but he has children and cannot leave his family because the smallest problems for them will be financial, to put it mildly. So far, maybe a banal story ... The point is that I really want to get pregnant and a biological clock, what, but this is the most important thing for me at the moment. We talked to my friend about it. He also wants it, but he is in a much more complicated situation and does not know what to do. We very rarely have sex without taking care of ourselves ... Rarely, probably to make my wish come true ... I feel at a crossroads because I love him and I want to have a child together ...
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I will not read morals :) At least I have to do it, my story is not like yours, but I am still at a crossroads - both with my boyfriend. I can tell you to listen to your heart. If you want a child from him - talk to him ... silence is the biggest scourge of a relationship .... For all who will condemn you - do not judge others, because one day you may find yourself in their position. I am convinced of this - never say never! Success!
Hello. You write "he has children and cannot leave his family, because the smallest problems for them will be financial". If you give birth, won't they have the same problems, even on a larger scale? Will he not then return to his wife and leave you ... You may also come into conflict with him. Until he decides to separate from his wife, I do not advise you to get pregnant. Too bad for the kids.
Regularly, without his knowledge, pierce his condoms before sex ... the other option is, after sex, to take the condom out of the trash can, carefully with a teaspoon to remove its contents and push it where it should go. God will justify you, because the Bible also says - do not throw your seed on the ground ...
Thanks for the comments! The last one was really funny and almost got me out of my depression ... Otherwise he won't leave his family, and I justify it for that, really. However, the evening is really lonely!
This man dumped him. Or ask him to leave his wife. If he loves you he will. This with the financial blabber is not an excuse. He can continue to support them and see the children after the divorce. Everyone is divorcing. Think about whether there is another reason why he does not want to leave his wife, namely that he is fine with her, he is used to it and he does not want to change his life, habits, etc. If you love each other so much, if you are from 2 years together - I don't understand ... why he plays a double game. he is mean to you and his wife. The old ultimatum / or me or her If it doesn't work, erase those two years from your mind and look for someone who loves only you. You're still young, aren't you?
How come you love each other for 2 years, he doesn't get along with his wife, but he goes home to her? Loves you Maybe ... Take matters into your own hands and disappear! Then it will be even harder. I waited for 6 years for my ex-boyfriend to decide to have a child and when I found out that he didn't want it - from me or in general - I left him. And we loved each other ... But it's bad when the goals diverge. And he told you he wouldn't leave his wife. 5 is right-or / or? Otherwise, "Goodbye. I loved you, but I love myself even more." I wish you luck! Be smart and don't let them take your time with delusions! 2 years is a long time to take action. If he doesn't ... You have to be happy in love!
I am a married woman with two children and I think I could give you appropriate advice. I used to be in your position, now I'm on the other side. It is very difficult for a married man to decide whether to stay with his wife because of the children or they will separate if they do not understand each other. The truth is that the sooner this happens, the better for everyone. He will stay their father anyway, he will help them. The question is whether he wants it - to be really with you or he finds an excuse to stay with his wife. Ask him the question or or. Wait for him to make a decision and then think about children. Answer the question whether he is responsible. Be ready when you are with him to accept his children. Are you ready for that. First of all, he must decide. Ati clarified for himself those things I wrote you. Some time ago when I was in your situation I left the man alone because of his children and not to spoil his family. Now I understand that it was a mistake. If your friend is ready to leave his family I think there are no problems. But until then do not decide to have a child . I wish you all the best.
If he still agrees to have a child, then he really has serious intentions towards you or is irresponsible. You judge. Because you can understand best. Your heart will answer you. Inside you know the answer. When you decide who it will be with, then think of children. Good luck.
Are you sure you're not having fun with him?