Hello! A 16-year-old girl writes to you. If I didn't love my school, didn't have such strong respect for my teachers, and had liked some other school after graduation in 7th grade to go to, I wouldn't be in that "class" like that now. of which I have been a member since the very beginning as a student. I admit that I am partly to blame, but I have not changed my decision not to apply then and so far (I am in 10th grade). I could do it, I had good grades from the prom, but I'm quite capricious and I didn't like any specialty, and on the other hand I'm very sentimental, I'm very attached and maybe that's a problem for me. As a person, I am quite closed in on myself. I don't like noisy places, many people in one place burden me. I don't have many girlfriends, that's not the problem. Just my classmates or are they normal, and I abnormal or vice versa. This confuses me a lot. They call me boring, annoying, bison. They (I'm talking about everyone except me and my girlfriend, about whom I'll write later): They come to school just to show off some new clothes, to eat (no matter in class or not) and to show off modern phones, as if no one else has them. Words like lessons, homework, notebooks and the like are incomprehensible to them. Sometimes I even ask myself why they come to school at all, just because of some absences !! Yes, they are physically in class, but in spirit .... With them and without them all the same, they come 10-15 minutes after the class has started, and when they come they only spoil the discipline and interfere with the work of the teachers. Here they are. If we pour, for example, the backpack of one of the girls (we are 6 in total), we will find everything else, but not a notebook. Perfumes, makeup and other things seem to be more important. The other is supposed to be a "classmate", but she is late the most because she goes to the big break to smoke cigarettes and still justifies herself. She is so distracted. The other 2 have not appeared at school for almost 2 or even 3 months. The other part is the boys. They are even bigger hypocrites and gossips than women:) Supposedly friends, and when one thing gets sick, all sorts of insults are poured on his back. My friend: The only person I communicate with. We've been in 1st grade together, we've had a lot of quarrels, but lately I've started to realize that maybe it's not all that great. We overlap somewhat in our reasoning, but she is very lazy. He is waiting for everything ready from me. It may be something very simple, but he will not try to do it but will say that he cannot. I've been feeling a bit jealous lately, he's trying to reach me on a grade level, and he's angry that it's not working. When a lady praises me in class (especially the lady in BEL), after the end of the class she starts to tease me that I'm not as good as the lady said. And all sorts of things like that. When we participated in a joint drawing competition - she can't, but I drew her drawing in part to participate, they chose mine and I won, she wasn't even happy for me! I had to put the prizes in my backpack, just so she wouldn't be upset that she hadn't won. For her, I'm like a vent who complains about the problems in her home, and when I want to share something, the topic immediately shifts. He doesn't even pay attention to me during the summer vacation. We are already 17 years old (I will make them mine on May 15), some have already started summer work. I also approve of that, but it was pointless for her. Instead of earning a few levs, she prefers to sit in front of her entrance all summer and play with the children there IN HIDDEN !!!! And not just to play, to watch them during the day like that. Can you imagine? !! Yes, maybe I'm wrong, everyone has the right to choose, but I'll save more for her. When we call her with another friend, she doesn't even pay attention to us, as if she weren't there. Once we didn't go out for a walk, get some ice cream or go to the sea or anything in the summer. These children (who are just neighbors) turn out to be more important to her than us and she prefers them as if she were their mother. But, so much for that, I wrote a whole firman. Me: Like I said, I'm very closed and shy. I like to learn new things, to learn, to listen to music and paint (so I relax). He is an opponent of cigarettes (which my class does not like). I don't wear make-up on myself, I dress quite normally for my age, I've never had a boyfriend (which if you don't have one according to my class makes you a kind of traffic jam), I don't feel the need to have it. I go to school with the idea that I will learn something that will be useful to me in time. You can see for yourself what a huge difference there is. I'm very stubborn, when something doesn't work, I don't give up and try until I do it. I am critical of myself and others, I hate injustice, I try to treat everyone properly. Well, I have negatives too, I'm not perfect, and I don't want to be and I don't want to look like I'm trying to make it. I tried to describe the situation to you more or less. With this "gathering," as I put it, of people for so long I have not been able to associate because I am different from the herd. I can't be something I'm not. I can't get drunk to the point of unconsciousness, I can't smoke, I can't go to a disco (which makes no sense), I can't make up, I can't wear a short skirt and I can't go to school to please others. And just because, for example, I don't have a Facebook account or any social network makes me less human than the others? !! I can't talk to people who are only interested in when a new mirror will be installed in the toilets to take pictures there. I can't, because I haven't smoked a hookah either (another "heroism"). There is no way. My idea was to show you more or less what I am, how I think and what kind of people I am surrounded by. Yeah, maybe I'm wrong, maybe I look like an aunt on the side, I know, maybe I'm the one who doesn't understand anything? !! I may be arrogant to some of you. I accept your criticism, whatever it may be. Every year before September 15th, I pray for a new student who looks at least a little like me. Even if there is one, he becomes like the others. I know it's all lost and it doesn't make sense, at least I got angry somewhere. I feel alone. :( Thank you! Thank you for coming this far and reading everything. I don't want so much advice as an answer: Are there people like me somewhere ?! Do I just think like that? Where could there be a way to find someone with my thinking. ... And last but not least: Am I or the others normal? * Please post it! Have a nice rest of the day! :) Every year before September 15th, I pray for a new student who looks at least a little like me. Even if there is one, he becomes like the others. I know it's all lost and it doesn't make sense, at least I got angry somewhere. I feel alone. :( Thank you! Thank you for getting here and reading everything. I don't want so much advice as an answer: Are there people like me somewhere ?! Do I just think like that? Where could there be a way to find someone with my thinking. ... And last but not least: Am I or the others normal? * Please post it! Have a nice rest of the day! :) Every year before September 15th, I pray for a new student who looks at least a little like me. Even if there is one, he becomes like the others. I know it's all lost and it doesn't make sense, at least I got angry somewhere. I feel alone. :( Thank you! Thank you for getting here and reading everything. I don't want so much advice as an answer: Are there people like me somewhere ?! Do I just think like that? Where could there be a way to find someone with my thinking. ... And last but not least: Am I or the others normal? * Please post it! Have a nice rest of the day! :) Thank you for getting here and reading everything. I don't want as much advice as an answer: Are there people like me somewhere? !! Am I the only one who thinks so? I wish there was a way to find someone with my thinking .... And last but not least: Am I or the others normal? * Please post it! Have a nice rest of the day! :) Thank you for getting here and reading everything. I don't want as much advice as an answer: Are there people like me somewhere? !! Am I the only one who thinks so? I wish there was a way to find someone with my thinking .... And last but not least: Am I or the others normal? * Please post it! Have a nice rest of the day! :)
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You're not alone. So am I. I don't smoke, I don't drink, I don't smoke weed. Things that almost all my friends do and when I go out with them I am ashamed of people. I don't think something is wrong with us. In time, they too will realize that what they did is not right. I advise you to make friends with someone from the neighboring classes. Good luck!
Your attitude is very arrogant and you take on something more, just because you don't have Facebook, you don't drink, you don't smoke, etc. Here's the problem.
From the author: I apologize for the spelling mistakes I made in the text. Thanks to everyone who commented. :)
I will not criticize you, this site was not created for such a purpose. Your topic made me a little happy and I say it in a completely well-meaning way. I was younger than you when I had the same thinking. In high school, things changed, I was still studying, I still didn't see the point of discos, make-up, pictures in the toilets and the mass criteria for being cool, but somehow I broke my view of things. I was critical of everyone, especially myself, until I once realized that this was not right and made me shy away from society. It's not bad to be different, it's not cool to be part of the herd, it's cool to have something in you that sets you apart and makes you feel at least a little special. The point is that everyone carries this "thing" in them. Some are ideal listeners, others have a sense of rhythm, others know how to study, still others can draw ... You can't judge others, that they are not interested in the things you are interested in. Accept everyone as he is and do not look for its disadvantages. Eventually, almost all the children around you will become more responsible with age. My father was a complete slacker at the age of 16, his stories are as comical as they are tragic, he was not interested in school. At 25, he already regretted not being a bison. At just under 25, I already regretted that for a long time I avoided any gatherings, that I was filled with hatred for my sets, that I didn't know how to have fun and relax. I was always nervous, I was always dissatisfied, I was still missing something. There were people with threes, and I was angry at fives. Sounds very stupid to me now. Things will change over time, you are too young to write off the success of others because they smoke, drink from time to time and try to be cool. You are not so different, you just do not know it and do not give a chance to meet these people. Everyone has emotions, everyone has feelings, not everyone goes out every day, the difference is that they do it. Don't judge others, live your life and don't think too much about deep topics. I don't think you're missing something valuable, but negativity will start to hurt you over time and you won't have a gram of good memories left. Your girlfriend is 16/17 and it's not bad that she plays hide and seek. It is not quite normal for your generation, but everyone has the right to choose how to relax. Believe me, maybe for her or for others, it's silly that your relaxation is with drawing and learning. Everyone has something strange in them, this strange thing is not even really that, it is just the difference between people. It will be so much easier if you, 16-year-olds, accept the strangeness of others without judging. I will answer your questions. Yes, there are people who are like you. They are of all ages. You even have sets that are with your vision and morale. If you do not believe, read this site and you will see. The thing is, you avoid all kinds of social events, most of you don't have Facebook accounts, you rarely meet others outside, and ... well, you can't meet. You will be surprised, but a lot of people think like you, just most are a little older and their thinking has come with age. I agree that now teenagers are a miracle of miracles and do not think about the important things, I agree about the nonsense you see, to some extent I think like you, the difference is that I do not care and I realize that everyone can be made puberty as he wished. I hope you find your place and feel better soon. You, too,
In short, author, everyone around you is in the mud, only you are on a white horse. No, it's not normal at this age not to be able to work with your classmates, not to have a boyfriend, to be so pessimistic. I think your classmates are normal, not you, as you ask.
Hi, I see that the school you chose does not suit you and it was a mistake to choose it. I don't know what city you're from, but you could certainly have gone anywhere else. So, I'm 14 and I have a few best friends (everyone has a few) and I'm very careful who I choose. I feel smarter than others (philosophically and in my reasoning), but I am surrounded by very intelligent people. I feel very sorry for you, but to comfort you -> to know that there are many, many, many people like you, some just did not find them, others did not show up. Abe, we are scattered everywhere: D But yes, you can make Facebook easier to write if you want. Lol, I'm not trying to take you down (clear those thoughts out of your head), I'm 14, remember? See ya.
Dear girl, I fully understand you. You and I have one thing in common, and that is stubbornness, the other is judging the others. Few people admit it, although most do. I'm 27 now and when I was your age I didn't listen to the older ones who told me that the world would not change. And I have to change my attitude towards others. At the moment this creates problems for me - I feel lonely at work, in relationships with the people I work with. Change your attitude, be smiling. It is not said to become like them. Just give free rein to your hobbies, the positive, while you are still building as a person. Tip from a grumbler;)
Thanks for your comprehensive answers !! :) Yes, that's why I wrote all this to see if I or they are wrong. I agree that maybe my behavior looks arrogant from the side, I will try to change as much as possible. Thanks especially to number 5 for the long comment :)
Being different doesn't make you crazy. The girls in your class are just the same, and you're different, so what about not putting on makeup, etc. It's important that you like yourself, As long as your girlfriend is obviously jealous and maybe she wants to be better from you, talk to her and delicately hint to her. Maybe you didn't understand yourself or she just saw that you were the smartest and she stuck to you. I have personally seen such cases in which you can pretend to be friends and stay with this vision, but in fact behind your back to talk to his girlfriends about you. If she were your true friend, she would listen to you. Good day!
Being different doesn't make you crazy. The girls in your class are just the same, and you're different, so what about not putting on makeup, etc. It's important that you like yourself, As long as your girlfriend is obviously jealous and maybe she wants to be better from you, talk to her and delicately hint to her. Maybe you didn't understand yourself or she just saw that you were the smartest and she stuck to you. I have personally seen such cases in which you can pretend to be friends and stay with this vision, but in fact behind your back to talk to his girlfriends about you. If she were your true friend, she would listen to you. Good day!