Hello, I am a 26-year-old woman. and I have a daughter of 7. I don't have a man by my side and although I don't lack male attention at the moment I don't want to commit. However, I masturbate quite often, and as I tell you often - 5-6 times a day. The thing is, I'm ashamed of my child, I'm a mother after all. Of course, I would never let her see me, but I'm ashamed to do so. I just can't stand not doing it, I get nervous, I get irritable and I just think about when the right time will come to do it. I know it's because I don't have a man by my side and I don't have sex, but it seems like if I did I wouldn't feel as guilty as I do now. The problem may seem insignificant to me, but do you think it is inherent in a mother?
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See, first revise your attitude toward human sexuality in general before harming your child. Read literature on the subject (please, not religious!). Read about human sexuality, about masturbation in particular, and finally realize (she gave birth to her wife after all) that sex and sexuality are human. Just as we drink, eat, sleep, we have sexual needs that want to be met. If we do not eat, sleep, drink, do you think this will not have a negative impact on our health? So it is with sexuality. Keep masturbating and don't be ashamed of it. One day your child will be 10 years old and ask about bees and birds, how can you explain to him? There is a lot of literature on the market / and for children /, all kinds of good books on the subject, take an interest and fight first with your distorted attitude towards sexuality, so that one day you can protect your child from your mistakes, to educate him, for example, to know how to protect himself from unwanted diseases and pregnancy. In my opinion, you are consciously or unconsciously to blame for your early pregnancy and your existence as a single mother. Get rid of this guilt because it is unfounded. Be proud that you are coping with the most difficult task in a woman's life - motherhood and learn to love yourself and your body, because only in this way you will be able to give the necessary love to your child, and to find valuable life partner. Yes, masturbation does not hurt you, on the contrary, but it can not replace true intimacy with another person, sex and intimacy with a man / woman /. Young woman, do not deprive yourself of one of the most important things in a man's life. Forgive yourself for the mistakes of the past and realize that today you are different, grown, mature, strong and you will not make the same mistakes. Do not beware of love, men, sexuality and do not instill guilt in your child. 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Masturbation is human, normal and it is very good for you to do it, but do not replace the relationship with a man with her. If one day you find out that your child is masturbating, be prepared and be humane and understanding, instead of instilling guilt where it is not and should not be. Every man and every woman, every teenager masturbates. The most important thing is to be able to educate yourself first, and then your child sexually, so as not to become a young grandmother and not to repeat the mistakes of the past, and this does not happen by depriving you of sex life, quite the opposite! be prepared and act humanely and understandingly, instead of instilling guilt where it is not and should not be. Every man and every woman, every teenager masturbates. The most important thing is to be able to educate yourself first, and then your child sexually, so as not to become a young grandmother and not to repeat the mistakes of the past, and this does not happen by depriving you of sex life, quite the opposite! be prepared and act humanely and understandingly, instead of instilling guilt where it is not and should not be. Every man and every woman, every teenager masturbates. The most important thing is to be able to educate yourself first, and then your child sexually, so as not to become a young grandmother and not to repeat the mistakes of the past, and this does not happen by depriving you of sex life, quite the opposite!
I do not understand why you feel guilty in front of the child? sex is a human need, having a child has nothing to do with sex. you may be afraid that you are not a good enough parent, that you are not doing well on your own. Personally, I don't see the connection between sex and how good a parent a person is. think about exactly where the problem with the child is (except for the fact that you don't have a husband, you know that)
Given that you are unlikely to find a man to fix you 5-6 times a day, I do not support the above opinion. I would even say - on the contrary. Then you will probably have remorse for him too. You will have to hide from him, which will further complicate your life. Sexual needs are strictly individual and there is not much room for advice. Well, there must be others like it, and it would be best to share just such, and not all moralists and omniscients. I do not understand why you should have remorse for your child? !! In all cases, however, you must not allow it to understand this need of yours, because at this age, and for a long time, it will hardly be able to perceive things in the abstract.
n. 3 - obviously you are not a woman, but you are a man and you have no idea of female sexuality. A woman can cum 30 times during one sexual session. Masturbation is far from the sexual pleasure that a relationship with a man brings us. It is quite natural for the author to masturbate so much because she is a woman without a sex life. If she had real sex with a man, she probably wouldn't? is necessary. Sex with a man is much more satisfying for a woman even without an orgasm than masturbation with 30 orgasms. Nature knows its job. The author just needs a sexual partner and masturbation will become just a supplement, not a substitute for sexual? life. There is nothing shameful or wrong with a woman's needs. Every understanding and educated man will enjoy the thought that his partner is masturbating and is sexually satisfied,
Just. Find a man.
Well, I feel guilty, because for example, if the child sees me, it will not be a very pleasant sight for him, right? I know this cannot happen, but I speak in principle. And as I said, I don't want to get involved at the moment, because I've been very disappointed recently, and I'm not one of those women who will start chatting with everyone without any feelings. But it's just different if I do it with a man, because everyone does it or has done it, that's how children are created, it's the most natural thing between a man and a woman who love each other. And masturbation is something else. It's more like something ... I don't know exactly how to express myself ... maybe lewd. The author
It is normal for a mature, healthy woman to have sexual needs. What you are doing is neither bad nor reprehensible. You have no reason to be ashamed. In my opinion, however, the fact that you so often need self-satisfaction speaks eloquently that it is not enough for you. People before me are right that you need real sex with a man. It is best to look for a suitable partner. Besides, you don't have to commit, you can only see each other for sex. Since you are not married, this is hardly a problem. I think that with a real partner, you will feel more satisfied :) Good luck! BM
Why blame yourself for the girl, if you do not have a husband, he will love the child and will be a great father.
I'm 3. Your main problem comes from the fact that you find masturbation lewd on your own. This is not the case at all. On the question that your daughter can "catch" you ... What if she "catches" you, how do you really do it with a man? Recently, a gentleman was talking about the horror of how her daughter found them just as she was cunnilingus. Whether you look for a man for "this" is up to you. Another question is that when you look for it, will you surely find exactly what you need. To be a good sex partner, to have no bad habits, to like you in the whole essence and a bunch of other important things ... I can't agree at all with those who say "find a man". I wish you with all my heart, but not at any cost! And until then - do as you please, well - smart of course -;)
Up to 3 and 4 - I've brought them up to 40 times in one day :) So, dear lonely Mom, find someone like me :) YD