I don't know if others feel like me but I will be very happy for advice. My problem is that I feel terribly lonely, I always instill the same thoughts (nobody likes me, who cares about me at all? What do I live for at all, or when I start sitting in front of the mirror for 100 hours and shouting at myself, that no one wants to talk to me because I'm ugly) I have cried more than once because of these negative emotions that strike me from time to time. I'm quite anxious, I think about everything I do and I'm always afraid of making a mistake somewhere and becoming a center of ridicule (as a child the children at school always made fun of me and I got scared, stopped talking, shut myself in myself) and now I'm in 12th grade, and this shrunken behavior is not normal for an 18-year-old girl. Everyone thinks I'm weird because I don't talk much and I'm silent most of the time, and I feel bad because I know that this way I will never make friends with anyone, but somehow we don't get along, I don't like them at all and I'm very dumb. About a month ago, the girl we usually go to school with started to get up from me, I didn't know what the problem was, but I thought we were friends, you could say that it hurt me a lot. She dumped me and started dating another girl, they got along and I stood and watched them have fun, I was dying of boredom and I wondered if they even noticed that I was next to them. I don't know how to shake off this and the thought that the people I consider close also leave me saddens me even more. I respect my friends and I'm not one of those people who easily forgets someone, I may never forget them. How can there be such people offf but we somehow don't get along I don't like them at all and I'm very dumb. About a month ago, the girl we usually go to school with started to get up from me, I didn't know what the problem was, but I thought we were friends, you could say that it hurt me a lot. She dumped me and started dating another girl, they got along and I stood and watched them have fun, I was dying of boredom and I wondered if they even noticed that I was next to them. I don't know how to shake off this and the thought that the people I consider close also leave me saddens me even more. I respect my friends and I'm not one of those people who easily forgets someone, I may never forget them. How can there be such people offf but we somehow don't get along I don't like them at all and I'm very dumb. About a month ago, the girl we usually go to school with started to get up from me, I didn't know what the problem was, but I thought we were friends, you could say that it hurt me a lot. She dumped me and started dating another girl, they got along and I stood and watched them have fun, I was dying of boredom and I wondered if they even noticed that I was next to them. I don't know how to shake off this and the thought that the people I consider close also leave me saddens me even more. I respect my friends and I'm not one of those people who easily forgets someone, I may never forget them. How can there be such people offf and I thought we were friends, it could be said that it hurt me a lot. She dumped me and started dating another girl, they got along and I stood and watched them have fun, I was dying of boredom and I wondered if they even noticed that I was next to them. I don't know how to shake off this and the thought that the people I consider close also leave me saddens me even more. I respect my friends and I'm not one of those people who easily forgets someone, I may never forget them. How can there be such people offf and I thought we were friends, it could be said that it hurt me a lot. She dumped me and started dating another girl, they got along and I stood and watched them have fun, I was dying of boredom and I wondered if they even noticed that I was next to them. I don't know how to shake off this and the thought that the people I consider close also leave me saddens me even more. I respect my friends and I'm not one of those people who easily forgets someone, I may never forget them. How can there be such people offf that the people I consider close also leave me sadder even more. I respect my friends and I'm not one of those people who easily forgets someone, I may never forget them. How can there be such people offf that the people I consider close also leave me sadder even more. I respect my friends and I'm not one of those people who easily forgets someone, I may never forget them. How can there be such people offf
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Just because you're locked up doesn't mean someone has to be sewn up for you forever. People come and go in friendships, and that's natural. It is normal for someone to feel bad from such an event. You did some analysis yourself. After school you will go to work or study somewhere where they will not know you and know that you are closed or have ever been mocked. Therefore, try to communicate normally, do not stand silent, show some initiative. For example, to offer to see / go out with someone for coffee, at home, etc. It is very important to have some interests / hobbies and to look for like-minded people. Start the change on your own.
The problem is this: People as social beings always strive for personal gain. This is the principle on which most friendships, relationships, acquaintances are built - in other words, all interpersonal relationships. The bitter truth is that very often at some point in a friendship (between two people), one party inevitably becomes bored with joint activities and conversations, as a result of which the relationship is broken. The logical consequence is for the dissatisfied party to look for new experiences as well as new friends. In fact, the described process of distancing takes place gradually and sometimes without the other person's knowledge. After all, this is just a hypothesis of what may have provoked the alienation of the girl, and if it comes close to the truth, then this fact should not cause negative feelings in you (of course some people are more emotional and find it harder to overcome this type of affect). So I think it's time to overcome the separation with the girl in question (it's been a month since then…), and if you hold on to her as a friend, you should definitely try to talk to her in private and calmly about what happened to clarify the situation. And about silence, loneliness and fear of other people's opinions: Usually people are wary of those who are different from them, because they do not fit into the notion of established stereotypes of society. That is why outsiders are treated either with total hatred, mockery and mean tricks (some of which you have experienced on your back) or with complete disinterest. From the opinion you have expressed, I understand that you want to re-fit into society, fearing that you will lose the rest of your loved ones or that someone will openly hurt you. In order for the described unpleasant experiences not to become a reality, I offer you two alternatives for action: 1) Stick to your own values, without being influenced by what others would think of you and without allowing negative emotions to damage your self-esteem . Try to focus all your energy on maintaining the most important friendship for you (whether it is with your peer or family member). Do not lose self-control due to difficulties in your life. Have more faith in yourself and do not underestimate your temperament. Even if the environment in which you study is unbearable at the moment, you will soon be finished and you will have to adapt to new conditions and you will have the wonderful opportunity to start fresh and make new contacts. 2) When left alone, a person has more time for thinking and cultivation - including more opportunities for rest from the outside world. Contrary to the beliefs of the majority of the population, a loner can establish harmony with himself, but usually unity is not easy. So consider how much loneliness you can handle and make the best decision for your own personality. In conclusion, I will say that each person represents an individual who has a unique character. In general, silence is not accepted as an advantage of temper nowadays, but you should not change this trait of your character just because of public opinion. In short: speak,
And the question on the other side is, "How can there be people like you?" Well, I'm sorry, but most people are consumers. They go to others to take something from them, to flatter themselves, to seek her attention, her compliments, something else. In short - to eat bits of their existence, figuratively speaking. And what you offer to others is BAD or just uninteresting, then why should someone look for you for something? Do you think that they should pay attention to you just because you exist? I'm sorry, it doesn't work. They themselves seek attention, and if you do not provide it to them, do not flatter them, do not offer them your time, your body, your work, your knowledge, etc., they very quickly lose interest. If you met your double, would you be friends with him?
I do not agree with number 3. I always give a chance to others, I communicate with many different people, including people with disabilities and I have no problem with that. The problem is that people have become very ferocious, including me, and in order to survive I have to keep some things quiet. Friendships are lost. This is my advice to the author. Not to expect eternal friendships, not to mention that when something seems perfect, it usually isn't at all. Unfortunately. Please do not reply to this message. I do not discuss this topic anymore. Thanks. I'm not the author!