Hello! It's very hard for me and I just want to pour out my soul. I'm 24, if that matters. He's 28. Well, my boyfriend ... or my ex-boyfriend, met someone a week ago. You wrote several times. Or so he claims. I felt that something was happening 2-3 months ago. He denies it, but I don't believe him. He didn't even tell me why. He didn't give me a reason. Is it my fault? Is there a problem in me? Am I tired of him? He just wrote me that. "Last week I met a girl from Sofia. I think you should have known. I don't want to do anything before I tell you. I will not block you, but we will write to each other less often and in another way. I don't want to spin both. We just wrote to each other a few times. Sorry if this offends you. Now you will say - "Why are you complaining, he told you. "Yes, but it hurts. I did everything for him, there were moments in which I have even humiliated myself. I always tried to please him, to be his. During those two years, he didn't even tell me once or show me that he loved me. I hardly heard a kind word. It was like ice. And yet, I did not look at another. He recently told me - "Well, do you know when I will find a girl like you - just never. So, a month later, he obviously found it. He quit his job a few days ago. He worked as an internet marketer. He took about BGN 900. He asked for an increase (BGN 400), but his boss did not agree. He told me that he would look in Sofia or Plovdiv, with a higher salary. There he would ask for BGN 2,000 or 3,000. Great, I wish him success. He will certainly choose to go to Sofia for the one in question. The strange thing is that when I offered him to go there together some time ago, he didn't want to. Actually ... I don't know if he'll find a girl to accept all his quirks, desires and sexual fantasies. But if he decided so, fine. Now you may be wondering what exactly the fantasies are about. Well, he liked to be a strict mistress, to fix him with a penis belt, to insult him, to write, etc. But that's not so striking. When I wasn't with him, he used to shine on porn, photos or gifs. No, he wasn't looking at the usual things. He watched dicks, shemales (a transsexual woman with a male genitalia) and the like. He had even taken a dildo. He seemed more aroused by these things than by a woman's body. Sometimes he wore thongs while shining. I thought he might be gay. He told me he couldn't be real with a man. He wanted everything only by fantasy and liked only women. Well, I thought ... shouldn't he, more or less, really want it? Whether consciously or subconsciously, it doesn't matter. Anyway. I assumed I believed him. I accepted him as he was. Strange as it may be. Now I wonder, what did I do wrong? What did he see in her? They haven't even seen each other. Am I like reading a book, not interesting? I ask myself and I can't answer. How do you throw everything away so easily? Am I anything? I'm sorry I trusted him so much, I told him everything. I had no secrets from him. It has never happened to me to be so honest with another. And finally what? Can he really be gay and not want to admit it? At all ... is it my fault? I feel very confused and deceived. I can write a lot more, but it will probably take a very long time. I hope my story is approved. Thanks! Am I like reading a book, I'm not interesting? I wonder and I can't answer. How do you throw everything away so easily? Am I anything? I'm sorry I trusted him so much, I told him everything. I had no secrets from him. It has never happened to me to be so honest with another. And finally what? Can he really be gay and not want to admit it? At all ... is it my fault? I feel very confused and deceived. I can write a lot more, but it will probably take a very long time. I hope my story is approved. Thanks! Am I like reading a book, I'm not interesting? I ask myself and I can't answer. How do you throw everything away so easily? Am I anything? I'm sorry I trusted him so much, I told him everything. I had no secrets from him. It has never happened to me to be so honest with another. And finally what? Can he really be gay and not want to admit it? At all ... is it my fault? I feel very confused and deceived. I can write a lot more, but it will probably take a very long time. I hope my story is approved. Thanks! And finally what? Can he really be gay and not want to admit it? At all ... is it my fault? I feel very confused and deceived. I can write a lot more, but it will probably take a very long time. I hope my story is approved. Thanks! And finally what? Can he really be gay and not want to admit it? At all ... is it my fault? I feel very confused and deceived. I can write a lot more, but it will probably take a very long time. I hope my story is approved. Thanks!
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Amy, your mistake is that you "humiliated" yourself because of him and did things you don't like and want, just to please him. You were too easy for him, there was no challenge. For the future, respect yourself more and put yourself first. And don't make the mistake of taking this one back if things don't work out for him with the new one and he wants to come back to you.
I completely agree. You are a real magnet for idiots. In this regard ... Do you want to go out on a date with me?
Well yes, he is a big idiot! Why did you do it at all?
He has not seen anything else, just some are like that and cannot be monogamous. Some are simply not for serious relationships and for one partner. They are called women. I knew one, he changed girlfriends a lot. He was confused, he didn't know what he was looking for yet. These are the most dangerous. Your ex is the same. Don't look for guilt in yourself, just a false boyfriend.
I really think he's gay, but he doesn't call. I know several men with such an orientation. It usually goes through exactly such stages before they realize and accept themselves. I understand that it hurts you, but if he's gay you can't be mad at him, because it's just something that is, he can pretend to be someone else, but not be someone else in his mind. You must be great after two years of trying to be kind of straight to be with you. And the fact that he tried to leave, as honestly as possible, only proves that he has respect for you. Go ahead and be more observant of such signs. And one more thing, don't do anything by force so that you don't feel used after such things. Just accept what you really want to try and if you really don't like something, say you don't like it. Success! I'm sorry that happened.
Yes, he may be gay. So you better not be with him anymore, believe me. You got lucky and got rid of bigger problems. A relationship with such a person, who both does not show you in any way and proves that he has feelings for you (probably not), but has "strange" tendencies, must be terminated. How do you imagine in the future to possibly start a family with such a person? Neither he nor you would be happy. Can't you afford more? Even considering what you've written, I wonder why you didn't end this relationship.
Accept that everyone has an opinion and their own understandings and life. What he wrote is correct, accurate and without emotions. Get out of the antiquity and the prism of the small town somehow. There are millions of men in the world and millions are more than this man. Try to get out of this place and situation, travel, meet new people and you will see life differently. Love needs two. To go where he wants, to be with you by force. Look for someone who will truly love you.
He is no man. Absolute pedal.
My first boyfriend had found another before we broke up. Somehow not to stay dry and to have someone to wash, clean and cook until a substitute appears. It's not good to do everything a man wants, you have to defend your interests. You can feel sorry for yourself and it hurts, but in time you will be glad that this is how things turned out. And something very important for nothing in the world if he wants to get together later or NEVER get attached to him! Also, very often our exes look for us after a year or so with the idea of sex or easy sex, when they are left alone. You will meet someone with whom you will be really happy and you will talk and discuss everything!
Hmm ... Well, maybe he met "someone" and not "someone". And as for you, to love should not be sacrifice, humiliation, but reciprocity. That is why you must love yourself first and not allow yourself to be in a situation where someone treats you badly.
Well, yes, it's your fault. For the things that happen to us, the blame is solely ours (I'm talking about people in general). If you do not learn a lesson from this case, you will make mistakes again and again and again and you will not be a magnet, but just a fool who everyone uses as and as long as he wants. It's stupid to do things you don't enjoy and find humiliating for someone else.
It's your own fault. You are the equivalent of those "good" boys who "gave everything", and in the end she didn't want them anymore. In some ways, you can't just give and depersonalize. You have to learn to want, demand and stand up for yourself. Think about it, would you be attracted to your friend if he behaved like a sole, if he ran to please your every whim as a servant, if he had no opinion, but only agreed with yours, if whatever you do, you always do it did you accept Anyway, an obedient puppy that lives for you? One gathers with someone because one wants to, not because one is desired. Understand this. I remember once I went out with one, it didn't work and I went to cut it. And he calls me, but you are the perfect woman for me. Oh yes, but he is not the perfect man for me. What argument is that then, he emphasizes his desires, not mine? So, learn to be wanted. There is no greater power than this. As for your desires in bed, it is quite possible that he is a latent homosexual. Who knows, she may be dating a man in Sofia. Even if it's not, these are pretty heavy fetishes. If you do not share them, it will be difficult for you, and he will always be subordinate to them. Another lesson for you, do not hang out with people with whom you have such general differences in bed.
Put yourself first as one of the commenters writes and there will be a lot of topics to open on the site. You just didn't get along with this one, you'll meet someone else. There is no need for radical changes in your character, do not be negative and you will meet the person for you.
Well, the similar attracts the similar - you know, this is a supreme universal principle.
I would be happy to set you up. There's some sex in you. The most important thing is not to become withdrawn because you have come across an idiot. And he, after doing such pedal tricks, clearly what he is.
People with people get together.
Well, let him go to Sofia to break his head!
You women like only women like you
Glad you got rid of this copy. His head is full of beetles and he obviously didn't take your relationship seriously from the beginning. He just experimented with going through all the crazy fetishes, then decided he could give them up to be with someone else. No one would suddenly end a two-year relationship with such an explanation if they had not prepared for it in the beginning.
As someone said, he will want to come back in time when this one doesn't work for him. Because he doesn't want to be alone and dry. He will tell you a lot of nonsense about how sorry he is, what a mistake he made, how he has not forgotten you. Pure lies and manipulations. An ex-boyfriend tries this way only because his girlfriend dumped him and hung up. They can easily feel what they want and their lies are visible for miles. Don't let him do it again, because once someone leaves, he will do it again.
You are young and life is in front of you. Glad you got rid of that copy ... I'm a 45-year-old man. I tell you again - Rejoice and thank you for not twisting a baby for you and then beating your jester. Next time, when choosing a man, see if he can be a man, not just what's in his pants. Good luck.
It would be funny if it wasn't sad.