Hello, I have never been jealous of my girlfriend before, but now I don't know if out of jealousy, I started to doubt a lot! We have been together for 8-9 years and until now when she is not with me I have never asked her where she goes, with whom, etc. 1 year ago, without wanting to, I caught her texting to someone 10 years younger than her (we are both 36 years old) with her saying "bunny"! The explanation was that they were calling each other that way, there was nothing / with them, how could I think that she had anything to do with "this paw", they were just friends. I grabbed him by the ears and he said to me: "Daddy, she's looking for me, what can I do We really had nothing to do with her. "He may have said it out of fear, but I think I believed him, but since then I've started to doubt her, but I'm not showing it! We haven't seen each other for a while, he's always making up reasons ,, sometimes even funny and it turns out that we are together for about 5-6 hours a week for 2-3 days! 3-4 days we don't even see each other at all! Otherwise "he loves me very much, I miss him and ..."! I doubt it can be seen with this paw, and not only can it be seen but I don't know what to do! I can get a printout of her conversations without her knowing, I can let people follow her and if there's anything they can catch her, but ... To be honest, I'm afraid I'll catch her and .... I love her !! Give some advice that I will go crazy already! To tell you the truth, I'm afraid I'll catch her and ... I love her! Give some advice that I will go crazy already! To tell you the truth, I'm afraid I'll catch her and ... I love her! Give some advice that I will go crazy already!
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I advise you not to send anyone to watch her, because it will get worse, really. Try to understand for yourself what is happening and whether you have any reason to doubt, but do not go to such extremes, so as not to make it worse. After all, you have to have at least a little trust in her, you've been together for a long time.
Lack of trust is contagious. Once you start showing distrust, conflicts will arise, tensions will increase, and then separation will come. If you love your girlfriend, try to have fun together, predispose her to openness, show her that you enjoy her friends. Don't be jealous. Jealousy is the murder of love.
"You still have to trust her a little bit, you've been together for a long time." It is on this basis that your doubts that you have been together for a long time can be based. What if she decided to look for a little different caresses from someone else. You know her best and you know if she's capable of that, but one piece of advice: Completely turn off the surveillance option, because if there's nothing between them and she accidentally learns that you're spying on her, it's very bad. For the receipt with the phone calls, it is better if you already learn something "more like that", sit down and talk face to face, explain everything and start fresh, but let's hope that your worries are causeless :)
If you ask me, after 8-9 years of relationship, the passion is gone. She needs fresh emotions, something new, and if you don't have children, I don't see what will keep her with you ... maybe money :))) But otherwise she's looking for it, believe me ... if it's not this little one , another will appear on the horizon ...
If you ask me, I'll just tell you that you have to keep one thing in mind. Don't send people, just one day you find yourself in the same place at the same time without a date ... and judge. Can it happen?
Well, your opponent is not so small, the age difference doesn't count at all here! In my opinion, I am a woman, a little cooling of the relationship and withdrawal on your part will work, if he appreciates you, will feel where the wind is blowing and will stick to you. If you don't appreciate it and the relationship has cooled down long before you notice it, you will seize the moment and most likely break up. But better alone than badly accompanied.
Invent reasons for her, so that you don't see each other, no matter how much you love her, do it to hurt her from her actions and then write down what effect it has. And if you feel bad that you won't see her, don't be afraid that you will lose her, currently indulging and sitting with folded arms, I guarantee that she will dump you in a few.
From the author: Thank you all! You are perfect! You really helped me a lot!
Find this little one and scratch him and then see what her reactions are!
Can the feelings after 8-9 years be the same again? As far as I know, there are still yours! You can only find out from her and her actions if she is still a weaver! Be direct with her, do not bypass things and facts!
Well, it's an old story, but let me write my humble experience for a moment, maybe I'll be useful to someone with something. I'm 20 soon I'll be 21 I have behind me two serious relationships one was 1 year the other 4 years. Looking at the story I can only say that I think the chick and it is already written I was the same way it's just a long time and somehow how to say you like something else, something different in such moments it is good to talk and say the feelings it's nice to have a separation so you will understand many things whether you will feel the lack of it, whether it will go with someone else I do not know, but it's nice to have her for a while. I wanted the former this time, but he did not give it to me now I'm with another and I'm very goth soon I had not experienced this feeling.
8-9 years is a long time. You haven't gone to another level (to live together and ala ball), so if she meets someone who will capture her in the free time you left, she will dump you. It may not happen, but it seems to be a matter of luck. In addition, women around 36 have a great need to feel liked, because the number 40 is extremely close and scary. The platonic (possibly) connection with the younger is an absolute proof of what is happening in the brain I. Bambi
Where have you been so far? In nine years you have not proposed marriage, you do not live together or have a child? I think that the fact that you do not develop a relationship makes her look for another. Small, big ... Someone to make her a baby .You didn't give anything, why do you want to be together? Either take a step or stop, even though I think it's too late
Give the girl security first with her, then look for the reasons outside. Buy a ring - maybe a silver one, women die for such things, fall to your knees and give it. This will be her vow to you that it is yours and she will There is a certainty that your intentions towards her in 9 years are serious. To know that bunnies and other pickles will disappear at the moment. Women love to be courted, and you have obviously neglected this activity and she is looking for flirtation elsewhere. She is hardly cheating on you. , just look for romance. Show that you love her instead of following her.