Hello to the readers of Share. No. I am almost 18 years old. and I have the feeling that the whole world is against me. I have problems both at school and at home. The problem at home is my mother, who constantly and constantly insults me. He tells me very harsh words like "poor thing", "despised", "you're nothing to me", "shudder", "garbage", "God kill and punish you" and the like. The worst thing is that whenever he's not in the mood, he gets it on me. I just don't know what to do in the whole situation, but unfortunately I can't get out of us, I'm in 11th grade. At school, they call me a "drummer", "shudder", "autistic" (because I don't like to communicate much) and they curse me for no reason, kicking my backpack. Some call me "fagot", "gay" without giving them a reason and without having a reverse sexual orientation. It's really hard for me and I don't know how I'm going to move on. Please advice how to deal with all this!
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I had the same problem. Although my mother did not insult me, but rather my father. I'm sorry to tell you, but you will hardly be able to change the opinion of your classmates during the last two school years. I don't know how they raised you, but maybe this shyness and so on is because of your mother's negative attitude. I was taught for 18 years that I was slow, incompetent, and so on. that I had no self-confidence, even to this day I struggle with it (I am 27 years old). For me, everything changed when I became a student and changed the city and lived in a dormitory and then in a dormitory. That is, I removed my toxic parents and the old environment. I started all over again with new people we got along with and continue to get along with. Even if you don't study after school, find a job in another city,
I will tell you that periods like this are very valuable and in the future you will be grateful that you went through all the difficulties. Remember my word;) My advice is: 1. Limit time past people who negatively affect you. 2. Think about which criticisms are right, analyze yourself. 3. Find a cure for grief, something you love to do. It could be art, sports or other hobbies (not video games, because they only distract you from reality, no matter how enjoyable) For example, I got out of severe depression through fitness. 4. Start reading books and enriching your mind. The section is personal development, there are many people who change lives: Tony Robbins / Robin Sharma, etc. Success!
Oh, what a familiar feeling, young man, except I'm a girl. My mother also makes fun of me when she's angry and calls me a bitch and a bastard and shit. At school I also had similar problems, insults. However, you must erupt, this is the key to salvation. Once my mother and I had a fight and I grabbed the table and turned it over and shouted at her and we fought and from then on she saw that I was brave and stopped talking to me like that. At school, a boy insulted me and I abruptly got up from the desk and went to him and started beating him with fists and told him to be careful how he spoke to me and the whole class watched and they no longer dared to insult me, and he even became my friend. then because of my courage and to this day we are friends. Just show courage, beat one and everyone will last.
If you are ashamed to go to a psychologist to share your problem, you can go to the school pedagogical advisor. He is there for that. You can share with him, because if you go to fight it will get worse. At least I think so. Talk to a class teacher or try to share with parents, no matter how difficult it may sound. Good luck!!! I hope everything is fine!
When you are crushed from home, it cannot be the same with others. Collect money from now on, every penny. Change school will certainly be different and you will break at least one chain. Talk to a psychologist at school. Don't get attached to your mother's complexes. Collect money and next year look for a job while you are still at school, the moment you feel safe and have enough money in your pocket, move out. Your mother will shake, believe me. But you have to get out. Because of such stories I am abroad. Insults and pain are wounds for life.