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   Take her somewhere on a weekend getaway out of town without the two children alone. She may do it with another and not feel like doing it with you after doing it with the other.

   And why did it drive you crazy? Tell us in more detail? Are you crazy that you want sex? This is strange.

   She is crazy. Once a week is a little. I'm your age and I have sex every day.

   Here we see your point of view, maybe your wife has a reason not to want you? Try to understand what it is. Take her somewhere, to the spa, if you can abroad, now comes Valentine's Day, surprise her with something, a romantic evening, even without insisting on sex. Even once you take her for a walk in the mountains, by the sea it's still something, give her a flower - not on a holiday, but just like that, or take a bottle of good wine, "Baileys", luxury candies, scented candles, create a romantic atmosphere, but don't rush to press her for sex. Maybe she misses the past when you were in love?

   And what can I say, being a woman and my husband does not want. He's still tired, if not something else. There's no way he's cheating on me. So sometimes I wonder if there is a mental problem or if it is not the opposite .... And not 3, 4 times a month, we do not do 1.

   One after another, the same topics. Hey, now we're going to throw in a bean to guess what you are like as a person, what your relationships are, what your probabilities are ... and the explosion theory. Well, ask your wife, not us. You don't sleep with us. Besides, he doesn't say chic - the next one. ж23

   From the author I am one of those who make surprises, we travel abroad gifts in beauty salons sexy clothes evenings she says she wants one day our daughter to have a man like you there is nothing I did not try and sex toys ...

   And when you start hugging her and kissing how she reacts, don't you go to bed together?

   If this situation is reached ... naughty :) Do I know with fairy tales ... in some families a miracle can happen :) in ours it didn't happen! work and a small child! Naturally ... it came to infidelity, separation, reunion.A few years "flowers and roses", but then he gave up.I talked, tempted, but ... Finally I took my life in my hands.Lack of sex filled with other things - dancing, new friendships! And he staggered again. Fuck! Divorce, and I'm still ok. But he no longer! And now, if I decide, I can have sex without being ugly!

   What do you hate to talk about? Well, take the children to grandparents / aunts / friends for 1 hour to watch them. Take something to eat and ask her to talk, tell her how you feel, what is the reason for her refusal. Most likely (maybe not) you don't touch anything, most likely the whole thing falls on her and comes up with 2 children, most likely she doesn't have time for herself, and for that the last thing she thinks about is sex . Really go on vacation even if it's just for the weekend, but both as long as it allows I don't know how old the kids are. Try not to lose touch with each other, believe me, washing dishes will make a huge difference, try

   Only a sincere and well-meaning conversation will help. We have been together for 9 years, we have 2 children. After the second birth, I also lost desire, was tired and did not feel beautiful. My husband tried very hard, but he was rather annoying to me, to be honest. One day he just told me, you see, I want you madly and I follow you as a teenager, I love you, I want you, I try, you're a rock, man. What if we need to see a doctor? I already dream of you taking the initiative and telling me - I want you. I don't know how unattractive you feel, given that I keep wanting you. You're terribly sexy, you were a woman, I can't lie down next to you and just fall asleep. Come on, imagine how attractive a man I feel when my wife won't even let me touch her? I don't want to lie to you, we are great people, to tell the truth. This can't be my sex life. To watch my beautiful wife walk around half-naked and sleep alone. As a child in front of a pastry shop. It can't happen, I'm a young man, you're harassing me. I don't threaten you, I don't want others, I just want sex, I want to remember what it's like for my wife to want me. If he is with my wife I will be the happiest, if he is not he will be a spectacular compromise even for myself. I was very upset, but it was true. I took offense, got angry, shouted for him to disappear when his sex was more important than his family. However, no matter how much you think about it, it was just like that. He constantly engaged his parents with the children so that we could stay together. He did nice things, surprised me with tickets for a concert of a performer he couldn't stand and stayed patiently for 3 hours. I fly there, and I hate it. Give me a yoga retreat to rest on my own. He offered to hire a cleaner at home. Well, you're not alone in that. After a period of denial, I decided to take matters into my own hands and see what was happening to my libido and why I didn't want the man I loved so much. Me and another did not want, de. I did my tests, my hormones were not normal. I started doing yoga specifically to raise libido, Kegel exercises, read several books on family relationships and female energy. Something that helped a lot was having sex on a schedule. I know, it sounds anti-sexy, but it's not. to explode. With the schedule I had time to adjust, to make my day easier, to take a shower, to put the children to sleep. Over time, my desire returned and my perception of the relationship changed completely. For many women, it may not be right, but at the moment I have sex with my husband almost every day, even if I'm not in the mood. I make this gesture, so to speak, for several reasons. 1. The main thing is that even if I have no desire, my act becomes pleasant after a few minutes. Telling me that he's been waiting all day for him to come and feel my skin and how I'm driving him crazy makes me feel so wanted that I forget I'm tired, depressed, nervous, and so on. He is a big sweet talker, I can almost never resist and after a while he asks me, now how is my love, do you want me to stop ... I don't want it to stop anymore. Rarely, but it also happens that I simulate an orgasm if it doesn't come from inside me, because it is always waiting for me. Indeed, on his part, unlike mine it was never a weaning, it was always completely in the experience. 2. He helps me in everything and has almost no requirements for me, except to be a loving wife. My father, for example, came home as a HEI inspector. We don't have such things, sometimes I feel the need to justify something, I haven't had time to cook, or something like that and the answer is - no worries, we will order something. Or calm down, good mothers have dust on the shelves and happy children. 3. From the breaks in months without sex, I learned for myself that the more time I do not have sex, the weaker my libido. My desire evaporates, as if sex has never been a part of my life and I don't need it at all. And when we have sex regularly and break up for some reason for a few days, then I can't wait. Something like " when her husband seeks her company, he shows that he is satisfied and grateful for her care - she is a happy woman, with a successful family, where to go and what to look for? After all, what does a person want? Love and approval. Unfortunately, we save a lot of approval and gratitude nowadays. Once I was shopping with a friend with the children and I heard two mothers wondering which puree is less harmful, the one with the modified starch, or the one with glucose syrup. And I cried, I told myself that my husband was alive and well, that I do not make such choices, but I take the best. We left the store and I called him, I told him - I know you work and I want to thank you for doing it. Thank you for being there. And my friend told Abe what do you thank him for working, very clearly that he will work, what do you raise his shares? Ah, who will pick them up for him and what if I pick them up for him, let me not tell you what he said ... I slapped myself, but gratitude is important. I have had many more occasions since I said it out loud.

   You don't satisfy her like people do. One hundred percent of that. There is nothing else. For her, sex has become a homework task like dusting and washing dishes. That's why he talks to you like that. He simply does not associate it with pleasure, but with obligation. I'm not saying you're selfish. You probably enjoy it. Maybe you're trying very hard to please her too. But if she ever pretended and pretended in the beginning, you may have misconceptions about how fast your wife ends up and what exactly she likes in bed. Now it is too late for her to make you literate, and she herself may have lost track of what is pleasant and what is not. Well, in that case, it's easiest for a sex maniac to make you lose all interest in these things ... Ask her what she likes and talk honestly about the quality of sex in her eyes, not the amount of sex in yours.