Hi, I just wanted to share something that weighs on me. We have been with my friend for a year, of course, everything is OK, but there is something that worries me. His family seems too religious to me. There is nothing wrong with that, and I am a believer, but I have a feeling that theirs is a mania. Everywhere icons, prayer books, he has a little sister, they enrolled her in Sunday school. My friend started serving at the altar, he observes every fast, in every free minute he goes to church, when there is a problem he immediately starts praying, I already have the feeling that I am going crazy. When we fight, he claims that the devil has inhabited me and that it is not me. I love him very much, I would give everything for him, I don't want our relationship to fail, but I don't know if I will be able to endure all this. Don't get me wrong, I'm not an atheist, but I think everything has to have a limit.
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Drop it. A normal young man in the 21st century to believe in gods, angels and devils ...... tragedy.
An interesting topic. If an atheist likes you and is not trying to change you (is he trying to wash you away?) Then everything is fine. Especially if we are talking about Eastern Orthodox Christianity. I hope you don't mean any sect? In the same way, you must accept it as it is. It's bad if he starts beating his religion on you. Hey, I can't stand it anymore. I run with 300 of them.
Get rid of it now and don't look back! Find someone normal and start a family with him, but he will definitely leave him, you will ruin your life if you stay with him and if you have children and theirs! Is that what you want? Drop it until it's worse!
Obsessed with Buddha .. lol This one ...
Well done to the boy for being such a believer.
You think right. Your friend is not just religious. He is a fanatic and a dogmatist, everything he does not export automatically turns into a devil's work. It is the thinking of people who consider themselves always right, directly related to being "completely devoted" to God, which in itself makes them "sinless" in one way or another. Find a normal boy who will appreciate and love you without trying to force you. Which will show understanding without accusing you of being evil as soon as you do something he doesn't like.
do not deal with such, find a normal man
he is religious and you are not. whether this is exactly your problem - I do not think. my advice is wait, in time you will either be drawn or you will break.
Run!
Number 1, I won't even ask about your beliefs. Without that belief, you would now be Muhammad and beating your wife because you would believe he is not exactly human. Author, it is obvious that he wants to live with this faith. If you don't like it, find an ignorant hero who believes in flowers, roses and Greta Thunberg.
The eternal stupid advice to lose it ... I didn't expect anything else. At the slightest problem - "get rid of it!" ... I'm not a believer, but I think that in one relationship people should respect the beliefs of the other, because it supports his personal worldview and he needs it, and not try to change each other. For example, in Arnold Schwarzenegger's family, the two are from different parties, so they never argue about politics! So with you. Neither should you try to persuade him, nor should he baptize you. If you irritate and anger him, then you cross some of his invisible boundaries, and he perceives it as an encroachment on what is most valuable in him - his belief that the devil is undercutting you, and maybe in some sense he is right. Because I remember a joke that the woman was made by the devil's tail .... Try not to irritate him,
Tell him to sign up for a gym and stop the fanatical outbursts.
Drop it, find a decent drunk who will beat you only once a week, or better a transsexual, with whom you can polish your nails together ... No, wait - there are a lot of decent women lately, where you can line up between 2 3rd and 3rd place. Good luck, may the power be with you!
Well, God also needs a little rest, somehow it's not nice for your friend to occupy it only with himself. And so, holding him, in short, how he expects you to protect you from the devil. Or maybe his prayers are lame ... I know
As number 6 says, find someone who will love you the way you are. Your current one simply uses religion as a tool to "train" and "educate" you. Probably his parents did the same to him for years, and maybe they still do. Run to keep your psyche.
№11 - because your advice to blame the author and live on thorns all her life is a hell of a lot more meaningful. The fact is that there is an incompatibility between her and her boyfriend. You don't have to fight people all the time to make it clear that they won't succeed. It is normal for two people to have differences, it is not normal for each of them to accuse her and call her obsessed with the devil - it is pure and simply ugly. This is not behavior that someone shows to a person they love. You and the author are looking for something specific - a woman who likes to be controlled and dominated. Normal people seek reciprocity and understanding, not accusations. If we're going to lean on jokes, here's one - look at yourself before you start judging someone. It seems to you from afar that you are just a misogynist.
To number 11: What do you advise her not to contradict him and to tolerate harassment? There is nothing wrong with being religious as long as one does not use religion as a means of manipulating others as one does. I had a boyfriend who liked to tease, to blame me, to get angry if I didn't want to spend time together non-stop (I hadn't seen friends for almost half a year while I was with him), to ask me for a report on everything . The result was separation now I am much better off without him. There is no way to get it if there is a difference in the values of systems in two people. It is clear that he likes to impose himself and uses religion for this. For me, it is pure mental harassment, which tomorrow may turn into physical harassment. A religious fanatic went to kill her father and her crazy husband two years ago.
I think, author, that you have found a wonderful person and I hope you do not waste this chance. However, it is obvious that you are irritated by the faith that this person has. There is no exaggeration in faith, in no case is it appropriate to talk about obsession. Of all that has been written about man, the mere fact that he talks about the universe, etc., I do not like, but it does not even mean that it is not true. But remember that your friend is also human and can make mistakes in judgments and reactions, but in the end he looks like a wonderful person. It's a pity that you are saddened by his need to be close to God, I hope you find peace in your life, but I don't really see a problem. Just a discrepancy in your faith, but why do you think your way of believing is more correct and "normal"? They are not one and two who have wasted a wonderful person in their life, I don't think it will be good for you if you become one of them. Be happy and tolerant of each other. And in the Hymn of Love it says exactly what it should be ... justaman
Number 15, you're crazy. What training, what tool. I feel sorry for people like you honestly. The boy just found some incentive to be better. Some kind of ideology, not everyone wants to live "downstream", this boy is looking for his truth and has found it in the faith. The question is, if the author has such a problem, why, as a normal person, does not leave him, but writes such nonsense about him.
№19 if narrow-mindedness and dogmatism are your understandings of goodness, I feel sorry for you. People like you are constantly popping up in the comments, where they are just like the author's friend. When it comes to religion, everything is automatically good. But if it is a religion other than theirs, it comes from Satan. Your hypocrisy is shocking and disgusting. If a person needs an incentive to be good, then this person is an absolute hypocrite and it is better to avoid such. I prefer honest rubbish to covert and manipulative rubbish. And the most shocking thing is that people like you trust each other and take themselves seriously.