So I'm a girl of 14. My parents are divorced and I live only with my mother. She really tries to cope with everything and helps me a lot, but every day, a different man comes out of bed and in the morning. I don't know what to do, I don't know why she does it, whether she needs sex or money ... I've found her with men (uncles straight) aged 45-55, and with young boys a little older than me. She acts like this whole pig is normal, don't talk about it ... well, I'm sorry, but it's not normal for me. She's nice, well-groomed, she has a good job ... I just don't know why she does it. My mother doesn't like serious conversations, especially when it comes to her and her things ... I have a feeling that if we sit down to talk she will hate me. Some will offer me the option to go to another parent, guardian, relative ... but there is simply no one. My father lives with his girlfriend, they have 2 children, he doesn't want to hear about me, neither do his parents.
My grandmother (on my mother's side is in a nursing home), and my grandfather died. Aunts and uncles either don't care or we're at odds with them. It's kind of hell. And I'm a teen ... I explode, I cry, I feel superfluous, I harass myself, I try not to disturb anyone, not to be a burden, etc. I even thought about some kind of job, but they won't take me anywhere except for a waitress and it will be illegal. I feel bad, I've considered suicide attempts, but I just don't want to cause it to my mother, but I have amazing friends I can really count on. They support me. I also have a boyfriend who is an exceptional friend of mine, he has never abandoned me. This is my story, I would be grateful if you could tell me how to deal with my mother. :) Thank you.
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I think you're right - your mother is a prostitute, but so what? If he pays attention to you and takes care of you, it shouldn't matter who you sleep with or whether he takes money for it. Take care of your life, don't boil your nose in your mother's. How are you sure your father didn't want to hear about you? Did it occur to you that you may have been against him and that was suggested to you? Now you're a big girl, invite your father over for coffee and tell him about your life that you can't go on like this. He can't take care of his children and you don't care. It's just that, in my opinion, he doesn't want to have contact with your mother, not with you - you're his flesh and blood. I'm sure in your father's family, you'll have a better life if your mother, in addition to being a prostitute ... doesn't pay attention to you as a mother. I'm telling you - you're 14, but you can choose at this age which parent to live with. After 16 you can work differently, but advice - finish first and look after 18 to move out of your home, if you still decide to stay with your mother. With your suicide you will not write to anyone - the planet will continue to spin without you, but the worms will have more to eat ... Head up and do not give up, given that your mother's life is the best, from you depends on what will be yours.
number 1, but how "what of it" ... I do not condemn the woman's life and whether she is a prostitute or not .... it does not upset me, but to make my child witness such scenes is, to put it mildly, wrong and bottom .... ZARA 36
Number 1, couldn't you write something smarter? big Bad Wolf
... to raise money and buy you an apartment, I don't know how it will affect you in years to come, it's just that it's all mental and this woman definitely doesn't know what morality is, but at least I hope she learns what responsibility is. You and your father should be responsible for you, at least their conscience should be clear, they should provide you with a peaceful life, there are also child protection agencies ... I don't know how to help you, girl, I'm sorry, but I can't and I am in the same situation ... and some male users and so I get annoyed ... but everything affected me, somewhere for 10 years and now I still can not overcome this shock and hell, I have lasted a long time .. but I, like you, had nowhere to go ... I wish you to get out of the shackles of hell faster ... I would like to help, but there is no way, because I am still trying to get out and I can't ... .
I can't really understand how you feel about living with your mother. on the one hand you tell us that she is a nice woman and has a job, well but on the other hand she is immoral and suppresses you with her behavior - is that right? What do you want to change? How exactly does this affect you? Do you have food, a room where you can be at ease, amenities? How is your school going? Is someone harassing you, torturing you?
Aren't you exaggerating a little? I think your mother's personal life is hers. But once something in her behavior hurts you, you should tell her. It didn't matter that she didn't want to talk. You will always sit together to eat or watch TV and ask her why there are so many different men around her? Why not find just one friend and be with him? Say directly that you are uncomfortable witnessing this. Don't call it offensive words - you have no right. But just tell her how you feel. Apparently she doesn't realize it.