I have no idea how to formulate all this. I want to express my feelings here, because in real life there is no one to do it to. My parents are careerists and they don't pay enough attention to me. I have no real friends. I'm 17 and so far I haven't had a serious boyfriend, I've only had my first kiss, but I don't even want to remember that moment. I'm beautiful and people admire me, but that doesn't make me feel better, I feel empty. No one is trying to get to know my personality, they are just using me. I want to have sex, but there is one thing that stops me. I don't even know how to explain it. I imagine having to deal with a boy in time, but he won't know it's my first time and I'm a virgin. You will say, tell him. It's not that simple because I'm ashamed. I don't want to be surprised, that I am still a virgin at this age (by this age I do not mean 17, because it is not known when she will be, maybe at 20+). When I think about sex, I cry. It's the same when someone makes romantic gestures to me. I feel strange. Separately, I have no experience. I can't live with this loneliness. Why is it so easy for other people and not for me? !! I just want a little love and attention.
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Don't worry about the fact that you don't have that much experience, if some people start to gain experience, there is no stopping. You want love, it's normal to take a little longer. It's just that obviously your "sensors" for feelings are stronger than your peers and you don't wander from relationship to relationship. I understand your torments for love, simply because I have had them and that is why I advise you not to bother unnecessarily. As for virginity, in the worst case, she just won't find it important, and she may see it as a plus. Do not direct your possible future love to the question of why you are a virgin now.
Girl, now is the time to think about a good education that will give you a good career in the future, and therefore a better standard of living. There you will meet more valuable people, and you will now have more intelligence to choose a more suitable partner. And you, instead, think only of sexual intercourse. We had friends whose daughter became pregnant and gave birth at the age of 16 - a color pregnancy. She married her boyfriend / he was 18 /, their "careerist" parents supported them. After a while a second child was born to them, then the boy left her and lived with another girl, and she could neither study nor understand anything from her youth, she remained a housewife without education and profession and if it were not for her parents I do not know how he would survive with his children.
Girl, at 17 we all felt weird one way or another. Watch your school - everything will fall into place. There is no man who mocks you because you are a virgin. Hey, how times have turned - once the girls asked how to lie that they are virgins, and now - how to lie that they are not :) If this will reassure you - there are no single women, especially beautiful :) It's all a matter of whether you make the right choice but also make a few wrong ones is not a tragedy to die for.
It's hard for everyone, I guess, but you have to be open to opportunities and not hesitate if you want something to change. (Why are there two identical topics released at the same time only the male and female point of view is different? Isn't this some kind of experiment?)