Hello, I need side advice and opinions from people I don't know. I must be going crazy, but I'm starting to think I'm a victim of domestic violence. I already feel only disgust and fear for my husband. In plain text, he tells me that I must be completely under his control. I had to be crushed well enough to listen and know my place. I have to repeat every day when he decides that "I am a subordinate mouse", "I am nothing without you" looking him in the eye. This happens every day without exception. Sometimes several times a day. And in front of the child too. I can't see my girlfriends, I constantly turn down invitations to meetings during the day. Because when he is at home I have to sit with him and serve. According to him, all my friends are rubbish, even if they are family and do nothing wrong. He was angry that I was meeting them. My parents and relatives are also rubbish and miserable. Like me, I am a miserable woman who was incredibly lucky to meet him. I have taken over the whole household, but in the supermarket only he buys. I can't choose anything. That's why he mostly buys appetizers, meats, cheeses and then I fly like crazy to the neighborhood store to buy products for dishes and dishes. I clean, I cook every day. I consider myself a good housewife, I always have prepared, dessert, salad. And he just lies and stares at his phone or TV. I am afraid that if I express an opinion, shouts, insults and threats will start. At home I step on my toes and keep quiet, carefully choosing every word I say. His behavior is frightening for our child, he is small and still says what he thinks. She started telling him she didn't love him. And guess what unlocks great aggression, screams with a horse for at least an hour. It's like screaming at a man, not at 3 years old. Slaps, strong ones that knock him to the ground. Prohibition to eat, as he takes a delicacy and eats in front of him, but does not give it to him. I was horrified, I developed gastritis because of systemic screams. According to him, the child should unquestioningly listen to him and sit stuffed. The last time I shouted at him in the mall, so that people wouldn't see him, he pinched him cruelly. Whereupon the child began to roar even louder. He started threatening him that if we got in the car he would crush him in a fight. I also vomited a disorder from stress for 3 days. He doesn't believe me, he refuses to accept that I'm sick. It makes me cook at least. For these 3 days I did not touch anything. At home he turned into a pigsty, but did not touch. He just accuses me of lying down and pretending to be sick. He wants more and more perverted things from me in sex, I have no right to refuse. I also developed a fear of sex, I associate it only with pain and humiliation. Come on, don't get frigid. Women were like dogs, as you teach them. I'll break you, you'll become what I want you to be ... these are all regular words. You just have to be very obedient and humble, and you won't have any problems with me. And I forgave the infidelity 2 years ago, and I don't know if there is anything left that I haven't forgiven .. I'm afraid for the child too, for the fact that he started not loving him and saying, he says that he is afraid of him and doesn't want to there are dads. Lastly, I had to feel guilty that I didn't let him go for 3 days because I was sick. It's a hint, some kind of insults. You can't always get sick. My heart is still pounding, I lost my joy and smile. Once he slapped me, to this day he tells me that this is the fruit of my imagination and that this is a lie. But I know very well. On the other hand, he keeps telling me that "I don't want to beat you to know." Kind of like a threat and I know ... I think it's domestic violence. I don't want it to be so, but I'm afraid it is ....
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Run with 300, how do you stand with this one ??? Of course, you are a victim of domestic violence, this "man" of yours is even like a textbook. He totally crushed you, the child will also be mentally broken when he grows up ... Take your things, run to your parents and that's it. I have no idea what your profession is, but even if you become a cashier in a supermarket, you will still connect the two ends (if you do not pay rent). Literally the only salvation for both of you.
Listen to your child and run with 300 of this psychopath. And you're still not sure you're a victim of domestic violence !? Not only you, but your child too. Drop this lunatic an hour sooner, because one day the child will hate you too, because of the stress you forced him to live in.
My mother, if only you could hear me. It hurts like hell, Mom. The screams hurt me, the blows hurt me, my heart hurts. It hurts me the most for you, I want to jump like a lion and tear it apart. My mother, the most beautiful, the warmest, my protection, Everything you can never be a mouse! You are my savior, you are my sun, I depend entirely on you, my whole life depends on you. See what power you have mom, and you think you're small, that you're nothing ... Everything, it hurts so much to hurt me that I dream of growing up faster to protect you. Do you believe me? Do you believe that I will jump to fight him with all my might and without fear - for you. Do you believe that I do not like this life, you are dearer to me. I will give my life for you mom and push me and lock me and beat me I will drape, I will jump the fences, I will break down the doors and I will come again to save you. I only have you. I am afraid of him and I do not love him, he will destroy my Everything. I know it will break me too. I know that he will teach me to be silent, to be a coward, not to trust anyone, I know that he will not allow me to have a position and an opinion, I know how he will trade all my potential for an empty obedience. Last night I dreamed that I have a car and I take you, and we run very far, and he is not there and you smile, you do not cry. How nice. You don't know, but I live for it. You don't know so many things, Mom, because he taught me that I have no right to complain, that I have no choice and nowhere to hide, that there is no one to save me. Is there anyone to save me, Mom? Do you know that I'm not going to play, but I'm in a hurry to come and not be alone with him? Nothing, I don't need friends. 300 times I prefer him to beat me, please leave him, beat me, please, Dad hit me! Only she is the best thing in my life. He hates how I love you. I'm so scared he could kill you. He told me that if I didn't listen he would kill you. If I had died, if I hadn't been born, what was I to you for? I no longer know whether to fight, to calm down and how to save you? I'm a pathetic mouse, Mom and I couldn't change anything, I'll get lower than the grass and shut up, but I won't get used to hurting you. I will become an expressionless stone, I will look into nothingness, I will believe that I am Nobody. Mom, do you know what it's like to be Nobody? To have nothing good in your life, to have no friends, because you are ashamed that they will understand how you live, that you are a mouse that cannot save its mother. Wondering if you should go home or sit on the stairs in peace for a while longer. Yes, and that's what I do - I come, I listen and if it's quiet, I sit down to play on the stairs. Close enough to hear, I pee in Aunt Didka's pot and I sit hungry, I can't go to Hell. Only your crying brings me back. Forgive me, Mom, for not knowing how to save you. That I don't have a car. If I had a car, we wouldn't be here anymore. I want a car for every holiday. And nothing. I was small, 9 more years ... As long as I lived. So much fighting and screaming next to the car. It doesn't matter, I just have to listen a lot so it doesn't kill you for another 9 years and that's it. We take the car and it's over, we'll never have enough. I made it all up, Mom, I'll save you, you'll see! I will always keep you, and you me? So much fighting and screaming next to the car. It doesn't matter, I just have to listen a lot so it doesn't kill you for another 9 years and that's it. We take the car and it's over, we'll never have enough. I made it all up, Mom, I'll save you, you'll see! I will always keep you, and you me? So much fighting and screaming next to the car. It doesn't matter, I just have to listen a lot so it doesn't kill you for another 9 years and that's it. We take the car and it's over, we'll never have enough. I made it all up, Mom, I'll save you, you'll see! I will always keep you, and you me?
Your husband is a proven psychopath by all criteria, run away from him and save yourself and your child. Psychopathy is a personality disorder and is not curable, such freaks do not change as much as they promise. Save yourself and the child until he kills you, seek help immediately, but secretly from him. advice from a psychopath victim ... god bless you