I Feel Socially Disabled

   Hello Friend. You are currently wandering in the dark and you think it will never be dark, but this is not the case. And when the sun rises, you will wonder what caught you, that you voluntarily wandered alone during that gloomy period !? In fact, after every night it dawns, whether you want it or not, whether you believe it or not - just a natural law. In this case, however, you can help yourself and speed up the end of the dark period. Especially when you change your way of thinking and your perception of the world. A simple example: "Now I see most have friends, they don't need others, everyone has their own circle of people and they don't need others." - Absolutely wrong! People are constantly making new acquaintances, old ones are fading away, and so on. even without feeling it and realizing it. Everyone will want to communicate with you, it just depends on YOU what you will offer in communication ... Even if you don't like rings, if someone offers to give you a gold ring with a diamond for $ 10,000 for no money, you will take it, right? At least to give it to someone who will be happy, or to sell it and use the money for some of your own purposes ... So my thought is - if I offer you something in communication that others need, they will communicate with you. However, just standing and waiting will not change anything ... It will change that at some point the pain will become so strong that it will force you to come out "in the light" in front of people. Instead of waiting for this, try to "voluntarily" change things for the better. For starters, you can find someone like yourself and try to communicate with him, even though you both know each other in advance, - it immediately begins to fade. Good luck and know that each of us has gone through similar periods in his life! Ray - it immediately begins to fade. Good luck and know that each of us has gone through similar periods in his life! Ray

   Help yourself, God help you too! Nothing will change if you do not want and do something to diversify your life. You probably roll up and isolate yourself, if you don't have a place in student companies now - when? Don't just follow the course from school at home, move, there's no way you can't find a soul mate. Winnie the Pooh

   You were hoping things would change ... who will change them for me, me ?! Act on the issue. No one will come knocking on your door and say "I want to be friends"! Talk to your colleagues, open her mouth! As long as you have these gloomy thoughts, nothing will change! Do not feel sorry for yourself, but act, no one will do it for you. "then too early I refused to tie something with someone in the class" - Eee that's the problem! Don't give up, keep going! You refused then, at least not now! Happiness will not come alone, do not wait for it! Meg *

   I see you've already received advice. Lots of talk, no direction for real application and dealing with your problem. Clichés, metaphors, wisdom; benefit 0. I was in your situation, but unlike you, then I did not know about such sites and there was no one to give me even stupid advice, supported by folk sayings. I will offer you my experience, and from then on you decide what to do to improve your social life. (I don't pick on anyone, I just know in difficult times how useless it is for someone to pour wisdom on you. And not that I have anything against wisdom, but they are suitable for another stage of development.) When I was in 8th grade and moved to a new one school, I failed to fit into the team. At that time, my old friends had also started new ventures with new people, but they managed to make friends and somehow we moved away imperceptibly. So I was left completely alone and there wasn't even a single person to go out with. This went on for years, I had reached the bottom and I didn't see how anything could change. At one point, it turned out that I was so far behind everyone that I had nothing more to lose, and that was exactly the turning point in my life. Rejection and neglect no longer frightened me. Anyway, I encountered them every day. And my curtain fell. I started pushing wherever there were people. To talk to old acquaintances, to invite them for coffee. To tell them even fictional stories, if only the conversation would be interesting and continue. I didn't stop for a second. It didn't work out the first time. I suffered a lot of disappointment from more arrogant people, but I did not give up. I kept smiling and greeting everyone, no matter how difficult it was for me, everything turned to me internally. I continued to invite my acquaintances and not so familiar guests, to cafes, to the cinema, to the zoo, concerts, discos and whatever I can think of. I listened to them, helped, I was positive and friendly to everyone. Gradually the phone started ringing and I was invited. I had imperceptibly made so many acquaintances that I didn't have time to see and talk to everyone. I started collecting them together in restaurants or wherever I went. Incredibly cheerful companies were formed. I also found a mate. There was nothing left of that timid little girl, closed in on herself, but I know how many failed attempts and even humiliations, shame, beams, and whatever you can think of, cost me all this. I do not regret for a moment. Now that many years have passed since then, I have already sifted the people around me. I kept good relations with most of my friends at the time, I don't keep in touch with anyone at all and we don't see each other. However, those with whom we got along and kept close friendship are still with me. I can't imagine my life without them. Sometimes I think about the time I was alone and I see that it was not in vain. Now, when I see someone who reminds me of me at that time, I immediately give him my hand and my sincere, selfless friendship. And although I have a lot of commitments (even I'm late for work right now), I would never miss a person in need. After sharing my experience with you, I hope you get what you need from him. Fight, boy. No one will come looking for you unless you show that you exist. This is from me, I hope I helped you. I kept good relations with most of my friends at the time, I don't keep in touch with anyone at all and we don't see each other. However, those with whom we got along and kept close friendship are still with me. I can't imagine my life without them. Sometimes I think about the time when I was lonely and I see that it was not in vain. Now, when I see someone who reminds me of me at that time, I immediately give him my hand and my sincere, selfless friendship. And although I have a lot of commitments (even I'm late for work right now), I would never miss a person in need. After sharing my experience with you, I hope you get what you need from him. Fight, boy. No one will come looking for you unless you show that you exist. This is from me, I hope I helped you. I kept good relations with most of my friends at the time, I don't keep in touch with anyone at all and we don't see each other. However, those with whom we got along and kept close friendship are still with me. I can't imagine my life without them. Sometimes I think about the time when I was lonely and I see that it was not in vain. Now, when I see someone who reminds me of me at that time, I immediately give him my hand and my sincere, selfless friendship. And although I have a lot of commitments (even I'm late for work right now), I would never miss a person in need. After sharing my experience with you, I hope you get what you need from him. Fight, boy. No one will come looking for you unless you show that you exist. This is from me, I hope I helped you. I don't keep in touch with anyone at all anymore and we don't see each other. However, those with whom we fit in and maintained a close friendship are still with me. I can't imagine my life without them. Sometimes I think about the time when I was lonely and I see that it was not in vain. Now, when I see someone who reminds me of me at that time, I immediately give him my hand and my sincere, selfless friendship. And although I have a lot of commitments (even I'm late for work right now), I would never miss a person in need. After sharing my experience with you, I hope you get what you need from him. Fight, boy. No one will come looking for you unless you show that you exist. This is from me, I hope I helped you. I don't keep in touch with anyone at all and we don't see each other. However, those with whom we got along and kept close friendship are still with me. I can't imagine my life without them. Sometimes I think about the time when I was lonely and I see that it was not in vain. Now, when I see someone who reminds me of me at that time, I immediately give him my hand and my sincere, selfless friendship. And although I have a lot of commitments (even I'm late for work right now), I would never miss a person in need. After sharing my experience with you, I hope you get what you need from him. Fight, boy. No one will come looking for you unless you show that you exist. This is from me, I hope I helped you. I can't imagine my life without them. Sometimes I think about the time when I was lonely and I see that it was not in vain. Now, when I see a person who reminds me of me at that time, I immediately give him my hand and my sincere, selfless friendship. And although I have a lot of commitments (even I'm late for work right now), I would never miss a person in need. After sharing my experience with you, I hope you get what you need from him. Fight, boy. No one will come looking for you unless you show that you exist. This is from me, I hope I helped you. I can't imagine my life without them. Sometimes I think about the time when I was lonely and I see that it was not in vain. Now, when I see someone who reminds me of me at that time, I immediately give him my hand and my sincere, selfless friendship. And although I have a lot of commitments (even I'm late for work right now), I would never miss a person in need. After sharing my experience with you, I hope you get what you need from him. Fight, boy. No one will come looking for you unless you show that you exist. This is from me, I hope I helped you. And although I have a lot of commitments (even I'm late for work right now), I would never miss a person in need. After sharing my experience with you, I hope you get what you need from him. Fight, boy. No one will come looking for you unless you show that you exist. This is from me, I hope I helped you. And although I have a lot of commitments (even I'm late for work right now), I would never miss a person in need. After sharing my experience with you, I hope you get what you need from him. Fight, boy. No one will come looking for you unless you show that you exist. This is from me, I hope I helped you.

   Let me give you an idea too. If you have the opportunity, you can go to a psychotherapist, he will be your friend who will definitely help you find friends and feel very good :)

   You know that if you have a problem with everyone, obviously the problem is you! No one has to think about your entertainment. And everyone needs another friend! When you look at some companies, you should not think that someone from there is ready to share with everyone in the company. I share with 5-6 people.

   You are not a social invalid, my man, you are one of the millions of social weaklings. You just don't have "social muscles" and you don't have to run. Every workout hurts in the beginning, and you are afraid of the pain. Excuse me if I oversimplify your melodrama. The others are not your problem. Number 4 gave you good advice - to go against the pain (mistake - against the fear of pain, real pain may or may not). Who are you actually disappointed with? From people? Maybe by yourself? There's no way you can't be if you know you're wasting your life without living the way you want to. Instead of going home in the evening and indulging in self-pity, you can do something different, right? You can go to a club (yes, but you don't know anyone there). You can call an acquaintance (yes, but he can refuse you). You can talk / invite a girl (but she can cut you off). Or go out with your colleagues (they may laugh at you). I'm not trying to read you, I just know the logic of the loner. Just don't wait to get to the bottom to "dawn a new day." First of all, there is no bottom, I find it very funny when I hear this expression, especially about superficial problems. There is always below, you know. And second, the new day may dawn, but only for a short time. Then the night will be even darker. So it all depends on you and how much courage you will gain. Self-confidence comes from evaluating one's own actions. If you act against your own values, your inner voice becomes your enemy. It's so simple. Improve the quality of life and your actions and self-confidence will only come. If you are confident in yourself, it will be through your cock if you have friends, boyfriend, etc. That's when they will appear.

   I am your brother by fate. I am in almost the same situation (and I am a student). And I'm not in communication at all. I believe that you can communicate calmly, but there is simply no one! When you're not the standard Dude, you're just being rejected by others. When you're not rich, handsome, "playboy," when you don't fit into the fucking public-imposed framework, you're just completely ignored. When I left as a student, I didn't know anyone, and because I've been shy for a long time, I hadn't even said a word to my colleagues. And most of them were arrogant rich people ...! There were more decent ones ... I realized that I wouldn't be able to stand on my own and I had to betray myself ... Yes, when I took out my vulgar side, I forced myself and multiplied it by 10, it had an effect. Yes, people love simplicity, and it's scary when you're surrounded only by simpletons, because to survive you have to become like them. Yes I became garbage! But did I have a choice? pp: It is better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for what you are not

   Self-confidence comes from evaluating one's own actions. If you act against your own values, your inner voice becomes your enemy. It's so simple. Improve the quality of life and your actions and self-confidence will only come. If you are confident in yourself, it will be through your cock if you have friends, boyfriend, etc. That's when they will appear. ------------------ Very accurately written from number 7, I was just about to write something like that :) Author, believe me, people feel when someone does not have self-confidence and is not confident . That's not how you should be, no one should be. You say you're a student. What bothers you when others go for coffee and you go with them, as if who knows what conversations are held in cafes. Just relax, if you have to sprinkle nonsense and make others happy in your company, things will be fine. Finally, write down which city you are from, you can find a friend here, who knows. Good luck. But

   I'm a student and just like you I didn't open this mouth but there must be a way out, for example mark a colleague go out for coffee if he refuses me with a second third and so until you find a friend for coffee don't blow your breath and if necessary make up a story make the person happy with you because if you are a nice interlocutor he will for example invite you to a party after that you may like a girl .... SEE try to think positively I know you need support but first you have to stop thinking about nonsense don't bother so much everyone has problems you just run away from your happiness ..... life is a risk take a risk ..... here comes December 8 well go out with colleagues tell them for example and we at 8 what will we do where are we going or where did it come from but don't shut yourself in you have to have someone to go out with ......Whatever happens, know that there is no free lunch

   author: Good advice, but as far as possible. Yes, my problem is that I have no friends to some extent, I am guilty that life is like that now, but on the other hand there is a reason to shy away from most people, from those who over the years have been contemptuous of me. Also, the city is small, and in it people talk to each other without thinking any nonsense about me - this can not bring me closer to them. Well, I'll go out somewhere like this and what will I achieve nothing - that's what I did. In all this work I am superfluous. What can I do that even the few relatives do not call me. And to summarize everything in a few words - for me some bad inner opinion has been created by people, which on the other hand pushes me away from them and prevents me from keeping someone to myself, precisely because of these fears. I'm not a drug addict or anyone who behaves badly, but here, that these two things are liked more by people and are more recognized - I'm sorry to say that, but I grew up in such an environment. As for December 8 - most of the specialty celebrate it with friends from school - a convenient time for them to see each other. In general, everyone celebrates very fragmented - we do not have a prominent group specifically from the course itself.

   I'm number 11, if you think it's different with me, you're wrong, I'm wrong, I'm among 21 girls, these are not just girls but also intriguers, and I don't go out there, for example, but unlike them, I have a good job and I'm learning this. I wanted to complain and not all day long ohhh how much is the specialty stopper and as for December 8 I will not go anywhere if it calms you down ... everything will be fine until you find your place in this life it is so difficult then you will think about it ...

   author: I know the last sentence he said as you said to reassure me. What you are saying, I do not know how it can happen not here, not with these people. With each passing day I become more and more convinced of this. Yesterday I decided to walk around again to see what was happening and I felt even more superfluous. I can say with confidence that, unlike everyone, I have absolutely no PAST, I have no basis where to start.

   from 11 o'clock everything has its end and the sun will rise on your street

   from number 11 if you want write me skype hristina.hristova144 I want to tell you some things and take offense that it's not just you and how much worse there is but how many people suffer including me ..... write if you want

   Author and I am so and kfo, I signed up for sports and kfo and there they look at me without interest and everything rests on one "hello" with half a mouth, for many years it has been so, but I'm starting to not sleep anymore, and as for t pomegranate optimists I can tell you that it is very easy to say "Help yourself" blah-blah give if there was a magic wand to send you to my and his place, let me see how you will get out of this state, advice and grandma knows how to give. but first try it and then comment clearly !!!!

   RAy - It's very easy to say this, you know what it is, you don't seem to know, so don't express an opinion on the issue, I've heard such stories about Cinderella 100 times, but they are useless, my opinion , by another person similar to the author ...