My story begins with the fact that my family is divided. I am a fourth child and at the same time I am unwanted and rejected and I have a little brother who looks at him like a painted egg and at the same time he is a 5th child. And from there I began to think. My mother told me that I am not a wanted child, she doesn't love me very much now ... When my mother started working, I had to look after my 1-year-old brother all day and this continues and so far the thing is that when I look at him they don't let me I go out with friends and I'm already 14. Every time my grandmother tells me that I'm going out, she starts calling me and forcing me to stay at home. Mom knows this and does nothing. In my opinion, it is not normal to look after children for 14 years, I will do that when it comes when the time comes.
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You are 100% adopted. There's nothing else your grandmother told you about.
You may or may not be adopted by one of your parents ... In any case, I don't think their behavior is normal .... But there are much worse things ... You have a roof over your head and food on the table ... Whatever happens in 4 years you will be an adult and you will be able to move out.
It is not bad to be made to clean - it is useful and educational for you, but in no case should you be entrusted to be responsible for a child, for the simple reason that you are still a child. It is absolutely irresponsible to entrust a child to a child! Children should be watched by adults. Having 5 children, yours should hire an assistant if it's so hard for them, but they shouldn't, because they are supposed to have assessed their possibilities before creating you. Your grandmother should have no say, because she is not part of your family, even though she is a close relative. Your family consists of your mother, father, brothers and sisters. The other relatives are not your family. Let the day come when your grandmother really allowed herself the freedom to let you go to school for only 2 hours, even challenge her to do it - then it becomes easy for you,
You can't help but go to school. Find the story of psychologist Ani Vladimirova, there was the same case. Let your mother watch her. Be strong, talk to your mother in private, tell her you want to go out. And with your grandmother, there is nothing to explain. Share with your mother. Tell her how you feel.
Thank you all very much !! But I went to a psychologist and had called my mother to talk to her, but she did not want to. Exactly out of dislike and care at home and isolation, I had become involved with a pedophile and went to a psychologist for a while .... was worried about taking me for tests When I told my mother that I was not in good health she laughed at me and did not believe me and told me to stop talking nonsense She did not care how I feel isolated and incomprehensible ever ...
You record your grandmother's words on the phone where she makes you not go to school, and after you go to school, you play the recording to your classmate, the principal, and the school psychologist, and tell them how they treat you and enslave you to your brother. If there are people on the spot, they will immediately signal to the social services about your problem and they will take you out of this poisonous situation. The other option is to go to Child Protection on your own. And without that you are unhappy with them and you feel unnecessary. This cannot and should not continue like this! It's one thing to help take care of your baby from time to time, it's another to make them watch you all the time at the cost of sacrificing your education and your future. Your seriously crying for a fight shouldn't have created many children since you can't take care of them!
As for whether you are adopted, in my opinion, you are not more of an extramarital affair of your father and mother, so I do not accept you 100%. Adopted children are usually wanted and their parents look after them with a lot of love because for years they have tried everything to have a child. An adoption procedure is quite cumbersome and sometimes takes years to find a suitable child, which makes them even more desirable. The daughter from a friend of a grandfather's second marriage was adopted because his second wife could not have children and he had two older than the previous marriage. If my grandparents hadn't told me that she was adopted, I wouldn't have guessed at all, they had always treated her like their own child, she grew up very loved and always happy, she was an excellent student and after graduating she started working in a travel agency.
Author: This with the school has threatened me only once But I think there are enough reasons to go to social I have many more things My mother is lazy but it became everyday Bring this and that and in 5 minutes I do not feel OK and this feeling not wanting to go home kills me I am constantly called accused of something I have had cases my grandmother called me to go home to put my little brother to eat or let him have a baby, etc. I feel used to everything
As I told you, tell your class teacher and the school psychologist immediately. Tell them that you love school very much and you don't want to miss classes for nothing, but your grandmother and mother threaten to stop you because they want you to watch your brother around the clock. In order for them to believe you 100%, challenge your mother and grandmother again on the issue and unknowingly secretly record them with the phone, then send the recording to the class teacher and the psychologist. Tell them about the other harassment they are using. They will immediately report them to the social services, because education is compulsory until the 10th grade, and you are 7 or 8, and forcing you not to go to school is a crime. We do not live in Third World countries where children drop out of school every day to look after their younger siblings because their ordinary parents have not heard of protective equipment.
They can't do absolutely anything from school, and they hardly care. Only the social can do their job. If I were you, I would have left a long time ago.
Number 10 can help if they want. 6-7 years ago, a friend of my classmate escaped her father's long-term domestic violence thanks to the adequate intervention of the school psychologist in her new school. When they noticed that she came to school with a blue eye, they called her to him and she told him about the situation at home and he immediately signaled where necessary. The same day, the police took her out of her home and placed her with another normal relative.
But the school where she was accepted after 7th grade was and still is elite and safe and that has had an impact. Number 11
I will talk to my psychologist at school I will explain everything and I want this nightmare to end To go to a normal home where I will be wanted and loved Thank you very much you really helped me !!!
I usually go to school but I think she said it just to stay at home. There is no physical violence, but my psyche is definitely crazy. Most of the time I sit at home studying alone or listening to music. She gives me normal care. I also need a little love attention because if I don't have their support, I don't have anyone else's support. Because of these things, I have become more nasty and mean than before to people. I don't want to be like that. I'm still young, I'm not 18 to live without their care, but I'm 14. There are times when things get better and then everything is back. I'm in a circle and I don't know what to do except what you told me. ..