People, I didn't believe it would happen to me, but here it is. I am already a mature man, 32 years old. We met her a year ago at a gathering. Terrible babe, exactly my type, at 27. And I really liked her as a character, we immediately found common themes and interests, it turned out that we like the same books. But in the end, when I asked for her phone, she cut me off. Then I found out that she had been engaged for three years and that her boyfriend was working abroad. I decided not to bother. The last thing I need are love triangles and dramas. Yes, but ... it happened. So, when I found out that she was engaged, although we met several times in company, I was more friendly with her. True, we flirted a little, but I didn't invite her out, nor did I write to her on Facebook. But whenever we met, we laughed a lot, talked, danced. And the trouble came shortly after the new year. We were at karaoke with this company, and it so happened that we both ended up having a drink. We talked, danced and under the influence of alcohol I reached out to kiss her. She pulled away, but I pulled hard. And this time he answered me. I was insistent, we pushed and ... I took her home. It was a little awkward in the morning to send her away. I said to myself, "What, friendly sex. It happened, I'm not going to tease her anymore." But it didn't happen. I couldn't stop thinking about her all day, and the next morning I called her for coffee, which ended up in bed again. And so for almost two months. There is a very strong attraction, sex is great. And it's not just sex. We talk, laugh, go out. See you 4-5 days a week. We went on vacation for two weekends. And I admit that I like her very much. But I'm sorry I'm really her lover. Sometimes, when we're together, her phone rings and she leaves the room. He must be talking to his friend. He told me about Valentine's Day that he would go to him because the tickets had been bought a long time ago. I wished her only a pleasant stay, especially since I do not recognize this holiday. But inside it burned me.
When she returned, I asked her to talk about the whole situation. I asked her if she wanted to be with him or with me? She didn't answer me. I asked her if she only accepted me as a sex substitute? "No, no, I like you very much. You're great." I told her that I thought her relationship was over. That if they were for each other, she would have gone to him, or at least we wouldn't have had an affair. She cried, told me that it was difficult for her, that he loved her very much, that they had been together for four years and did not know what to do. That ended the conversation. We've seen each other a few more times since then and I haven't waited for the topic again. I'm sorry, though. I feel guilty about her boyfriend, even though I don't know him. One deserves to know that their relationship is exhausted. Whether she breaks up with me or someone else, that's all. I'm sorry for her that she is disoriented and obviously a party. I'm sorry too - I want a woman with whom we can really be together, not hide. I'm thinking of giving her some more time and telling her to decide. That I can no longer be a tramp, and if he doesn't want us to be together, we'd better finish, go through it, and give myself a chance to find a woman who loves me. I'm sorry for her that she is disoriented and obviously a party. I'm sorry too - I want a woman with whom we can really be together, not hide. I'm thinking of giving her some more time and telling her to decide.
That I can no longer be a tramp, and if he doesn't want us to be together, we'd better finish, go through it, and give myself a chance to find a woman who loves me. I'm sorry for her that she is disoriented and obviously a party. I'm sorry too - I want a woman with whom we can really be together, not hide. I'm thinking of giving her some more time and telling her to decide. That I can no longer be a tramp, and if he doesn't want us to be together, we'd better finish, go through it, and give myself a chance to find a woman who loves me.
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You know, tear up and throw! I speak from experience! I fell in love almost at first sight! I let him know, I hoped it was mutual! He was interested and secretly watching me, but he did nothing ... he was just frying me on low heat! Everything became clear to me a few hours ago, we were at a joint party ... I realized that there is a woman, a baby, a home ... And in seconds I sobered up ... All my aspirations passed, because I want to be happy and I would not share it with another ... Go and you ... don't let yourself be played and used! Success!
Exactly the same situation with me, she and a friend have a 5-year relationship ... several times I went to extremes with questions and she said she couldn't just leave him like that. I also said that he took her for granted, she thought, but he still can't make a decision. For now we keep in touch, but I don't know why I'm jealous of others after I have a friend ... she is very confused. At least next time I will know not to rush to do things with a girl who is in a long-term relationship ...
I don't think you have to wait. Tell her that you do not want to be a second violinist, you like her and you are waiting for her decision. Put yourself in her friend's shoes, too. Think about whether one day you will be in his place. Probably their relationship is over and she doesn't know what she wants. I say this in good faith in order to make the right decision. Success!
It's your own fault that you pushed yourself where it's not your job and you were extremely aware of it, it's not your fault that you threw yourself on top And be careful - she will decide what to do with her relationship, no Who deserves to know what - you are not the person who will decide, especially since you are pushing yourself in other people's beds and lives
Happiness built on someone else's unhappiness does not lead to anything good. I am a little older than you and so far I have understood one thing - I do not deal with women who cheat. You will get together and in a few years you will be in the place of her current boyfriend. The very fact that her boyfriend is abroad and she is staying here is quite telling. There is always something rotten in such relationships.
Author: People, it became difficult. Number 4 is right, I got into a strange relationship. Yes, I fell in love with a committed woman. I wasn't strong enough to resist. But I don't think I'm the worst person on earth. Let's be honest - if they were for each other, I wouldn't be in the equation at all. She would be with him abroad or he here with her. So, development. She told me the other day that she loved me. That I'm the best thing that ever happened to her. I answered her the same. For the first time we did it without a condom. And for the first time we went to a party together. But ... she's still with her boyfriend. She didn't talk to him. She is tied to him on FB. I tried to talk to her again, but she ran away from the topic. I don't know how this happened. I'm not a dominant alpha male. I'm not handsome. I even think her boyfriend is a more handsome man than me. It's not about money - I make good money, he sure, too, but no one is rich. We just have a lot in common with her. I do not know what to do. Maybe I'll ask her to decide soon. And if he chooses him, let them be happy. I can't be a reserve all my life.
Author, tell me what's going on!