Hello! I thought a lot and decided to share my story, so I hope someone will help me with advice. I have been married for 15 years. At first we were happy, but then things changed - somehow things go by inertia, you know how - because of the children, etc .... We have a friendly family, but due to financial difficulties, the woman went abroad 4-5 years ago.
We continued to see the man, to get together, and he is a real friend - to me and my husband. He is ready to understand you, to come to your aid in the most difficult moment, he is cheerful, he is funny, ... and a cool person in general. I don't know how it happened that about 3 months ago something flared up between us, we've had sex several times already, but it's not just sex. I think about him all the time, I'm just in love, and I think our feelings are mutual. He often tells me he wants me to be his, but I'm not ready for something like that, and I don't know if he's ready. We are both married, we have children ... for now, we manage to keep our secret, but for how long. If my husband finds out - it will be fatal for my marriage. I've never cheated on him before, but now I just don't know-how.
I don't know what to do. HELP !!!
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Stop seeing him! Pity yourself so as not to hurt your children
If his wife comes back you will see how it will end! Open your eyes! And I have a friend who thinks only of himself! It's very cool, but only for company! Manipulative personalities!
Stop here, because you will be tormented by responsibility to children and their future. Maybe you didn't notice, think of your husband, the momentum of marriage applies to him too! It is possible that he will get carried away. If you realize that he has an interest in another woman and you lose him, you will understand how valuable he is to you.
Stop there. You will suffer for your children. It is possible that you are just a comfortable relationship for your lover. Pay attention to your husband before he seeks another relationship beyond the banality of marriage.
For God's sake, you all say stop. But how, I'm in love as a kid - if we don't see each other at least once, if we don't hear each other on mobile phones at least 2-3 times, or if we don't play 10-15 arrows a day, we will probably both go crazy. I realize that something terrible has been happening lately - when we are together and have to separate, we both feel terrible - I feel his hugs getting stronger, I hear his heavy sighs, I read the sadness in his eyes. So I miss his caresses, his kisses - I've just never received so much tenderness. My husband is a colder person, more hurried, ... and in general I think that our sex life is not in order - 1 month, and even less often. And I'm "only" 35 years old - I need caresses and tenderness. And now that I found them suddenly .... ????? And it's not just about sex, he is simply the person I have always wanted to have by my side - to understand me, to support me, and most of all to make me feel a WOMAN-wanted and loved. But this man has a wife and two children - aged 20 and 24?!?! And I - a husband and son of 15 years. And we have not talked seriously on this issue - I feel how we both want, but we run away from the topic. I've always pulled the yoke in our family, and my husband was mostly lazy, I had to be strong and overcome everything. And I can't do that - I just don't have the strength. Now, along with my words, tears and tears - I feel so lonely and vulnerable - he is now at home, arranged and tidy with his wife - for both of them and their children, and at home - in the other room is my husband , we are close to me, but he is so distant and foreign. and most of all to feel a WOMAN-wanted and loved. But this man has a wife and two children - aged 20 and 24?!?! And I - a husband and son of 15 years. And we have not talked seriously on this issue - I feel how we both want, but we run away from the topic. I've always pulled the yoke in our family, and my husband was mostly lazy, I had to be strong and overcome everything. And I can't do that - I just don't have the strength. Now, along with my words, tears and tears - I feel so lonely and vulnerable - he is now at home, arranged and tidy with his wife - for both of them and their children, and at home - in the other room is my husband , we are close to me, but he is so distant and foreign. and most of all to feel a WOMAN-wanted and loved. But this man has a wife and two children - aged 20 and 24?!?! And I - a husband and son of 15 years. And we have not talked seriously on this issue - I feel how we both want, but we run away from the topic. I've always pulled the yoke in our family, and my husband was mostly lazy, I had to be strong and overcome everything. And I can't do that - I just don't have the strength. Now, along with my words, tears and tears - I feel so lonely and vulnerable - he is now at home, arranged and tidy with his wife - for both of them and their children, and at home - in the other room is my husband , we are close to me, but he is so distant and foreign. but we run away from the topic. I've always pulled the yoke in our family, and my husband was mostly lazy, I had to be strong and overcome everything. And I can't do that - I just don't have the strength. Now, along with my words, tears and tears - I feel so lonely and vulnerable - he is now at home, arranged and tidy with his wife - for both of them and their children, and at home - in the other room is my husband , we are close to me, but he is so distant and foreign. but we run away from the topic. I've always pulled the yoke in our family, and my husband was mostly lazy, I had to be strong and overcome everything. And I can't do that - I just don't have the strength. Now, along with my words, tears and tears - I feel so lonely and vulnerable - he is now at home, arranged and tidy with his wife - for both of them and their children, and at home - in the other room is my husband , we are close to me, but he is so distant and foreign.
WE LIVE ONE LIFE, SO DO WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY! ONE DAY YOUR CHILDREN WILL GO ON THEIR WAY AND YOU STAY WITH THE MAN NEXT TO YOU! AND THEN? I AM IN A SUITABLE SITUATION, ONLY WHERE WE HAVE NOT YET GOT TO SEX! BUT MAYBE THIS WILL HAPPEN SOON, BECAUSE WE HAVE BEEN PURSUED BY A THRILL FOR MONTHS AND IT IS NOT SMALL!
I am a child of divorced parents, BECAUSE THE SAME SITUATION, my mother fall in love -Good friend of my father and yet within the husband of his girlfriend She was also ABROAD children, and he was here, EVEN she came to live here. BUT ANYWAY, IN THE END, THE TRUTH WAS UNDERSTANDED AS IT ALWAYS HAPPENS, AND I FELT THAT THE WORLD AROUND ME WAS DESTROYING. THINK ABOUT YOUR CHILDREN AND IF YOU REALLY DON'T LOVE YOUR WIFE, SEPARATE YOURSELF, BUT STOP BETRAYING HIM, BECAUSE WITH EVERY BETRAYAL YOU WILL BREAK YOURSELF. IF YOU DECIDE TO DIVORCE FOR THE BETTER, DO NOT TELL THE CHILDREN WHAT YOU ARE DOING FOR HIM - IN THAT CASE THE LIE WILL BE NOBLE. YOU CAN ACCEPT THIS OR YOU CAN'T ACCEPT IT JUST THINK ABOUT IT. THINK OF EVERYONE NOT ONLY FOR YOURSELF AND STILL SUCCESS!
Live the way you like. There is no point in stopping at anything. You can't think forever. Life is one and short enough to think about anything. Children are children. My parents also recently divorced. And I'm happy about that. Let them find something new where there would be a thrill. Why are there still people who think that you have to live with the same person all your life ??? Love is a supreme feeling that just has to be experienced.
I am 23 years old and I also have a relationship with a married man. Honestly, I experience the moments, but I would not want to part with my wife. So, in my opinion, have sex with him, see each other, hear each other, but secretly. And if the love is real, in time you will be able to overcome all obstacles together. And you will come together. Don't rush. Just think ... is it worth dropping the safe because of a thrill. I am also madly in love, I think I will never experience this feeling with anyone, because our secret relationship has been going on for 6 years. But ... do you really know this friend of yours so well? Won't it disappoint you in time ...? Whoever cheats once ... repeats it. I know I'm repeating myself, but just live the moment !!!
Well - "and he is a real friend - to me and my husband. He is ready to understand you, to come to your aid in the most difficult moment, he is cheerful, funny, ... and a cool person in general. " - A great friend, especially of your husband.