Okay, I know my story is a little confusing, but I'll try to be clear. I know I'm gay since I was little, but there's a girl we're good friends with and she's super cool as a person and a character. She is one of the few people who knows about my sexual orientation, in fact they know that I am bisexual. (I was ashamed to say I was gay) Like I said, she's great and I love being together. In general, I like to experiment and whenever I have had the opportunity to kiss or fuck a girl, I did it, not because I am attracted, but out of pure curiosity. Recently at a party with this friend of mine we kissed and quite passionately; and I liked her, I realized that I like her and I have real feelings for her (I think a lot about it), it is clear that she likes me and other people are they told me. Like I said, I've kissed other girls, exactly 4, I also touched them, but this is the first girl I have feelings for. It's not like I'm imagining because I was in love with a man and I felt the same way. The problem is that girls don't attract me sexually at all, not even her. Has anything like this happened to you and how did you do it?
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What do you mean "They don't attract you sexually" - you kiss, you ask, but do you have an erection or not? Otherwise, I think it happens to other gay men, they even get married and have children - it's just easier for a man to have a relationship with a woman, and not just because of society, just because of the prospect of a normal family, and women are more consistent in a relationship and more monogamous than men, more family just. It's hard to have a gay relationship with a man for a long time - one of you will still blame. Besides, not all gays have a tender soul, and most are male. You have obviously found friendship, understanding, a deeper connection with your wife. In your place, I would just let go - see what will happen, do not set big goals and expectations, but I definitely advise you to try with her in bed what will happen. Don't promise anything and if you can't "lift the plane" satisfy her in another way or just stay hugged and at least you know what your orientation is. I don't think you'll lose her as a friend. Talk to her even in advance. You have nothing to lose. Maybe you are really bisexual and fall in love with the person, the person, not the gender. Just because you've had sex with men so far doesn't mean you won't have fun with women. Try. Every person is different. Maybe you're lucky to be bisexual. I say lucky because there is nothing to lie about - being gay is not easy. Not because of society, but simply because of the impossibility to have a normal family one day, children with your mother and father, a normal family and life. You have nothing to lose. Maybe you are really bisexual and fall in love with the person, the person, not the gender. Just because you've had sex with men so far doesn't mean you won't have fun with women. Try. Every person is different. Maybe you're lucky to be bisexual. I say lucky because there is nothing to lie about - being gay is not easy. Not because of society, but simply because of the impossibility to have a normal family one day, children with your mother and father, a normal family and way of life. You have nothing to lose. Maybe you are really bisexual and fall in love with the person, the person, not the gender. Just because you've had sex with men so far doesn't mean you won't have fun with women. Try. Every person is different. Maybe you're lucky to be bisexual. I say lucky because there is nothing to lie about - being gay is not easy. Not because of society, but simply because of the impossibility to have a normal family one day, children with your mother and father, a normal family and way of life.
I tried with a girl and it was a disaster, it didn't happen to me at all, and I was super inspired because I had instilled in myself that I only thought I was gay, so this option was dropped. After this incident I felt so ashamed and humiliated that I even had nightmares for a while .. haha
Calm down, you can have children with two fathers, and as it turned out, what's wrong with having three. The author, don't you pee, I see that you are something disoriented?
I'm gay too, but sometimes I fantasize about having sex with women (oral). In my opinion, there are no completely heterosexual or homosexual people - we are all more or less bisexual.
At -15/16 I think I'm a lesbian. I thought so because boys did not attract me in any way to the difference from girls. Someone will always get dressed, make a hairstyle that suits her, Eddie who has a very nice face, and the boys are not the same. Maybe it was because they were idiots, and that killed any sympathy or attempt. So how did I know I wasn't a lesbian - I kissed a girl voluntarily and on her part. I didn't like it, I didn't feel anything, I even felt sick. While kissing a boy was another experience. Have you tried being with a man? I'm giving you my story as an example to see that not always what you think is true until you try
And did you go to a prostitute? I ask because I am heterosexual, but some time ago I went to a prostitute because I had a long period without sex. The girl looked good - sexy and so on, but I did not. He must have been giving me blowjobs and playing with my cock for about 10-15 minutes to get on. It was never like that, I felt quite impotent. So, after I went overboard, everything was ok, but I was very surprised why it didn't happen to me at first. I wasn't particularly stressed, I was even inspired. So you can try a cute escort girl to play with you for a while. I think it will have an effect.
Maybe you're really bisexual. My soul has no sex, and you fell in love with it, with its character. Don't think so much, just go with the flow, see what will happen to it. In time, you will probably start wanting it. I am a girl and it has happened to me that sexual attraction appears after the emotional one (usually the opposite, but there are always exceptions).
It's okay, dude, how you both push and kiss women, but they don't attract you. Out of curiosity only. I'm a straight man, I don't mind gays, but I didn't start out of curiosity to cuddle with boys. Nor with unattractive women. Don't put labels on yourself, you may not be completely gay, but you really will. Give the chick a chance when she has emotion, give it step by step, it must be confusing for you. Do not rush with sex, kiss, hug. In time you will feel if you want it and you will go to bed. And if you see that it doesn't work, you still go for what attracts you. Alive and well and don't cut your chances with women just because they've attracted boys so far.
Well, it may not happen the first time. And have you tried with a man that you know you're gay? In fantasies it is one thing, in reality it is another. Revive your love with this girl and enjoy life.
The author We talked a lot with this girl, I said that I am not very sure about my sexual orientation and she decided to give me a chance, she told me that she likes me a lot and that sex is not the most important thing for her and now we are boyfriends. Last night I invited her to us and we had a few drinks and we decided to try. We kissed, we pressed and then I licked her and satisfied her with my finger and it only happened to me for a while, but she was having fun again, she made me French and then it happened to me, but immediately after that it fell to me. She finished while I fucked her with my fingers, then I finished with the chick, but it was hard for me. Then we hugged and talked all night, we were generally nice, but the sex was lame ... He told me not to worry, because I was a super cool person with me and it's great and that made up for it. So far so good, but I realize that in the future this will be a problem for both parties, and I really like her as much as she likes me.
Thank you, author, I think your sex will improve too. If it has happened to you for a while, then it can happen for more. The key moment is the introduction !!! Probably when you think about the introduction, even if it just goes through your mind for a while, you fall. It is a defense mechanism, a very deep psychology related to the mother and father on a deep archetypal level. But I think you will succeed and the fact that the girl likes you will help you a lot.
You have to be very stupid to dump the person you love.