Hello, my name is Antonia, and I am 25 years old. For almost a month I have been dating a man / boy / aged 30. I have known him for almost 2 years, during which he obviously pursued me, but the truth is that I did not want to have any relationship with him, for the simple reason that there are quite great opportunities. His family owns companies all over the country, indeed the opportunities there are enviably huge. And I don't think a man with his abilities would have serious intentions for an ordinary girl like me. I study, I work, I don't have rich parents, and I don't drive an expensive car. But ... ironically, I got entangled in the nets, and that's where the whole nightmare begins. As there is a saying, "man, from what he runs away, it catches up with him, so my work is the same." Everything was fine before I slept with him. After sleeping with him, this man was looking for me now, now stopping. He says he will call, then he doesn't call for days, he turns on unexpectedly, then he disappears again, and so 1 month only after the first sex, we saw each other again, I acted as if nothing had happened, for the simple reason that I have no right to I hold him accountable. He asks me different questions, knows every step I take, where I am, who I am with, etc. He shares problems with his work, listens to my opinion on the given questions, even talks about children, how if he had how he wanted to bring them up, share my problems with friends. He offered me a job with him, saying that he needed someone to trust, but at the same time he did not give me a clear definition of what our relationship was like. I really don't care what kind of car he drives, or how much money he has, because in the beginning when we met, I had no idea what he was like, after I found out, I withdrew. Behaves well, sex is unique, I know he sees other women, I must be stupid if I think he was in a convent for 1 month. I think about him all the time, abe ... I'm suffering, I'm waiting for the phone to ring, but he's silent. I don't know how to act, I think that if I start working for him, it will be the biggest mistake if our relationship does not have any specific development. My friends who are familiar with the situation tell me that I have undergone a test period because I had great opportunities and wanted to see if I was worthy of it. But I think this is the pinnacle of simplicity, a person either wants to be with you or does not want what these test periods, stress tests and so on. Complete stupidity! Please express your opinion, in your opinion, how to act, does it make any sense to wait, to pass the test, or to wish him good health and luck in business, and where he is from ...!
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Dream of such a man being left with only one woman ... life is not a fairy tale. Only in fairy tales does the prince stay with the princess. In real life, the prince has a harem.
What tests, complete stupidity as you said. If he doesn't know his money, he hardly wants to be with only one. I don't see the point in wasting your time. He wouldn't show up in a month if he had serious intentions. The other option is: try to keep your distance from him and do not give up. If then it does not recede, and you attract it even more, then there really is something. And I wouldn't advise you to start working for him if, as he said, he wants something 'serious'. A woman should not be dependent on a man. At least that's my opinion. Success! Girl, 17 years old.
The irony is that if you say goodbye to him, you will pass the test. I guess the test is how much you'll walk after his ass. Because if you follow his ass, he will decide that you are with him for money and opportunities. That's why don't accept the job. Say you want to be independent and achieve what you want on your own.
It will not be easy for you with him. In short, you will have to tolerate narcissism on his part. He will go after other women, shake, drink. If you are strong, you will explain to him without anger or emotion that you want something else in life (which will put him in a situation where he wants you even more and takes down your stars to the last). The choice is yours, and the tempting element for both of you is more than challenging and 90% with a bad ending.
Well, Antonia has the same story with me. only with the difference that my "millionaire" is not Bulgarian and is not from here. It was the same with us before he slept with me, he didn't leave me alone. Now we are 1: 0 for him and he is an idea calmer. As I said, it's not from here and that further prevents us from seeing each other every day. But what I think of this type of men from my personal experience is that they are used to having a lot of everything. Yours is 30, mine is 28. I don't think they've made a living yet and are just not ready for a serious relationship with a woman. Although 30 years is a completely normal age for a serious and even marital situation, but still men are not in a hurry as much as we women. Or at least this type of men. However, the mentality is also very important and in what environment he grew up ... My opinion about the slightly wealthier men in Bulgaria is not very good, because in our little Bulgaria everyone "knows". There are 10 rich people, let's say, and 100 gold diggers have stuck to them ... I think you understand me. And somehow most of the Bulgarian men are very confident that they have money and very nice women around them. So my advice is to arm yourself with a huge friction if you can't easily give it up. Don't be insistent and let things happen. The man should be the active and the provider, and the woman the Receiver. Success! Don't be insistent and let things happen. The man should be the active and the provider, and the woman the Receiver. Success! Don't be insistent and let things happen. The man should be the active and the provider, and the woman the Receiver. Success!
Women will prefer to share with other women a high-value man (millionaire, rock star, actor, etc.) than to live with an ordinary man without distinctive characteristics. Catch a normal boy, give birth to his children - live happily in harmony ... yes, but first you need awareness - to understand what is hypergamy, how it works in women, etc. Successful trip: P
Abe, let me have your problem! I can't attract the attention of an ordinary woman, I don't even dare to dream of a millionaire. A millionaire is running after you and you are wondering whether to marry him or not. Give the man a chance, don't go to the pan so he doesn't decide you're easy or a gold digger. Just explain to him directly 100% everything you think. Talk to each other face to face, in private, tell him everything you think, one to one. If he is serious, he will respect you, accept you and become his wife. If it's rubbish, it'll dump you. Is that good enough?
Number 7, I'm a woman and I agree with the first sentence. Before having a relationship with an alpha man who cheats on me and a beta who is only with me, I prefer the former. Number 4 is right.
Off when you start with nonsense - he was a millionaire, so he was anxiously with thousands of women and could not be with her, because she should not know what you are ... I wonder how many millionaires these wooden philosophers know? I remember three acquaintances of mine between the ages of 30 and 45 with wonderful families. Their wives are cute, smart, but by no means imagine porn stars or playmates - one is a hairdresser, the other is a web designer, and the third works with her husband. All three have not been seen with another woman, and two of them are closer to me and have told me that they do not care about affairs - they look after their family and business and that makes them happy. Yes, money attracts women's attention. Yes, there are rich men who take advantage of this and yell, but it's up to the man. There are loyal rich men, there are whores without money. The author, I don't know what's in this man's head to give you specific advice. But as you describe the situation, I assume that neither of you may be sure of the other's feelings and pull so as not to "pass". You say he persecuted you for two years. Apparently she likes you, I wouldn't chase a woman for two years just for fucking. But his behavior is complex. If a man likes you and has balls, you need to act and clarify your relationship. And I don't see why you tolerate something like that. See yourself, understand yourself as an adult and stop playing. If he can't give you a relationship, you decide if you want to be someone's mistress by the way. In my opinion, in the specific situation, his money does not matter much. Rather, you are prejudiced because of it. And you say that they are not his, but his parents'.
From 4 to 9 - thank you for agreeing with me, but regarding the second part of your comment, I will tell you "be careful what you wish for". Because infidelity is usually not just about going and melting your pepper, but there are consequences that you are unlikely to like. I guess you won't be thrilled to be dumped with 2 kids. For example. Or to roll around during the day with someone and come back at night without paying attention to you because he is emotionally and sexually exhausted for the day. Or make everyone think you're a fool. Or something sticks to you. These are just examples and very real. Then you will roar for a lochman who will have you at least as a person and spend some time with his children.
10, there is no power to convince me that there is no man who, at least from time to time, does not want something side. Whether it will cool down is another question. But it's one thing to look ugly, it's another to be sexy, which is more attached to the rich. Money doesn't make you a whore, it just gives you more choice. You remember, don't you? And for me, Pamela Anderson in her young years to fuck me, and I will not last very long, no matter how much I care about the family. And not only me, there are not many men who would withstand such pressure. And the poor just don't have to keep up the pressure. There is a difference between sticking to Pamela's push and Aunt Ginka's with the 2-haired wart.
From 10 to 12 - yes, every man wants something side, as well as many women. But there is a difference between wanting to do so. And I want to stretch my good colleagues, a little if I try, I may succeed. But I don't want to hurt my girlfriend and break up (sooner or later, of course). And Pamela Anderson didn't come to sit on my cock. If he comes, I'll think about it. If that makes me a lochman, so be it. Yes, if you come to the parade to put porn actresses, you will find it hard to resist. But I don't think that's the case even with ultra-mega alpha millionaires. Let's say a millionaire, if he goes to chalgoteks and cafes, yes, there will be a lot of temptations. My acquaintances look after their business, work hard for their work and spend their free time with their families. So there are people and people. And to explain to me that someone what awaits mom and dad is alpha, it's frivolous. In general, all these theories about alpha, beta and other letters of the Greek alphabet were invented by losers to justify their failures, instead of making an effort and improving something.
Number 9 - There are no alpha, beta, gamma and epsilon people. These are finger-sucking stupid theories of someone who has tried to make analogies between complex human society and some animal species, and even in animal species these fictional profiles have no analogue. Do not humiliate people by classifying them according to some stupid and imaginary system.
And they are very funny to me when some theories start here about who you were alpha, who beta, gamma and delta. Wait, people, we haven't been monkeys for several million years, what alphas, what deltas? Or some evolutionary theories about how women liked men, because 10 million years ago, when we were monkeys, it was a sign of masculinity. Okay, but 10 million years ago it was a little different. Separately, there are subconscious patterns, spiritual attraction and a bunch of other things that also affect each other.
To number 10: Not that anything, but I know a lot of rich men - EVERYONE has lovers. Well, of course, no one has ever seen them with them - they do not walk with their lovers around the city center, for example. Apparently everyone (perhaps with one exception) has wonderful families. but only seemingly - the apple is wormy inside. Maybe there are exceptions - I have not met them. And on the subject of the author - a man who is impressed by a woman will not wait a month to call her. She can draw her own conclusions. Give it a little harder, author. Men don't like whining women hanging by the phone waiting for their calls. Play this guy a little, don't make him feel so sure you're tied in a towel.
to 14 and 15: You are not familiar at all. These are just words from biology, but behind them is the reality of the social hierarchy that exists in humans and has not ceased to exist. As I am quite short, with glasses and a crooked nose, 95% of women cannot perceive me as a potential partner, even though I make money (to compensate, of course). I want a woman who is sexy and feminine, but my "rank" does not allow it, so I will be content with an uglier one. It's the same with the more non-verbal women - they are satisfied with more crazy men. When they get drunk, they start looking for strong men and fall into self-pity (like crazy men with low self-control). A fact that I have seen in many women, including relatives. In high school I had a classmate - tall, blond, athletic, rode a motorcycle from 16 years old, dressed expensively. Well, guess the rank of this man and guess if he had my problems ... Life is not fair, we all have different start-up capital and although some of us can compensate to some extent, our hierarchy exists. In women, there is also a hierarchy (very basic observations are needed to make sure that in a group of 3-4 women there is a leading figure, there are servants of the leader, etc.). And the so-called hypergamy is a completely natural process - this is the woman's desire to be with as cool a man as possible (according to her criteria). This is natural and normal. When you go to buy a bag, you don't want to take a damn bag, you want a nice one. It's the same - when you put on make-up, you don't do it so that low and fat jerks notice you, but to stand out in your social group and attract cool men. Men also want a cooler woman, but there the desire is much more rational and is balanced against one's own rank and the rank of the woman, ie if you catch one who is too busy, who is much above your rank, there is a huge chance that she will catch a cooler man than you and to stay with your finger in your mouth. Otherwise, cycling over this topic does not lead to anything productive in the long run. Reality is what it is. You adjust and you survive or you don't survive, that much. So I just say - do not reject reality, and I tell other men in a similar situation to me - brothers (ahem ...), to do what we can to be successful, and not to complain that hypergamy hinders us. Hypergamy has always been and will be. there's a huge chance she'll catch a cooler man than you and keep your finger in her mouth. Otherwise, cycling over this topic does not lead to anything productive in the long run. Reality is what it is. You adjust and you survive or you don't survive, that much. So I just say - do not reject reality, and I tell other men in a similar situation to me - brothers (ahem ...), to do what we can to be successful, and not to complain that hypergamy hinders us. Hypergamy has always been and will be. there's a huge chance she'll catch a cooler man than you and keep your finger in her mouth. Otherwise, cycling over this topic does not lead to anything productive in the long run. Reality is what it is. You adjust and you survive or you don't survive, that much. So I just say - do not reject reality, and I tell other men in a similar situation to me - brothers (ahem ...), to do what we can to be successful, and not to complain that hypergamy hinders us. Hypergamy has always been and will be. to do what we can to be successful, not to complain that hypergamy is bothering us. Hypergamy has always been and will be. to do what we can to be successful, not to complain that hypergamy is bothering us. Hypergamy has always been and will be.
Well, the English millionaires are just waiting for one of Bulgaria to marry her.
It is clear from the shared story that she is writing a good, sensible and promising girl. Believe me, a smart man can't help but distinguish the normal girl who wants to work (there are also many dedicated ones who manage to work in all circumstances, because this is important to them) from the ordinary "gold digger" whose goal is to sit in front of the sofa with the Turkish TV series, to decorate himself with a few kilograms of gold like a Christmas tree, to smoke cigarette after cigarette and to look dumb. And my comment about this person is that people like him will "test" you all their lives, because they are insecure and, accordingly, insecure about the other's feelings. And you, if you want, go hungry, thirsty and ragged to prove to him how principled you are. Then there will be other conditions, after them new and new. Decide if this is how you want to live your life? The one who is for you will love, support and encourage you to work and develop and if he has the opportunity to help you in this - he will just do it to see you happy and fulfilled.
Even if it is a fictional story, the plot is often widespread. Someone who made some money gives it to a macho man and knows that when he gets dressed in a suit, he leaves the keys to the expensive car on lease on the coffee table and the chick is in love. Unfortunately, the naive girls fall in love, dreaming that they have survived 6 of the lottery and arrange a luxurious new life in their minds. The reality is a lot of waiting and disappointment, a broken heart and loss of confidence in all men, lost years and cruel agony. Such a man, even if he stays with someone, makes children for her, he will never return home as an honorable husband. He will always hide his phone, he will always find the next one and younger and brainless, he will always be tired or with round-the-clock appointments and dubious business trips. Next to the author - find a hobby and stay away from it. If you can't, your head will hurt a lot
From 10, 16, that's your middle. There are people and people. If someone wants to squeak, they will. Yes, the millionaire with 20 models, the fat uncle with the neighbor Ginka. But it's up to the man. Your claim that all valuable men break is offensive to men. I am a supported man, with good financial opportunities and I do not lack female attention. I stare, I fuck, but I just don't want to do anything stupid. And I don't want to change my partner, whom I love with all my heart, for various "high-ranking" ones. And if I hurt her, I won't forgive myself. My father, without money, was a terrible whore. He ruined my mother, my second and my third wife. So, no, I don't want to be like that. Now, if you're only attracted to "bad guys" and it's easier to justify to yourself that all quality men are like that, that's your problem. But it's not good to categorize people that way. You will drive your harmful beliefs into a young girl's head and prevent her from having a normal relationship. 17, you are obviously well acquainted. How come a cool, attractive man didn't explain things to me like that. Honestly, I know men of your type - smart, have read various theories about the Greek alphabet and have a perfectly plausible explanation why they will not shine. With this thinking and attitude, not only "high-ranking", but no one will pay attention to you. The good news is that this can be fixed. The bad thing is that you are faced with a very difficult choice - to be right or to be happy? Many people like you prefer the former and do not want to give up their harmful beliefs, making them a reality. I will allow myself to give you some advice if you want to think about it. Do you want to go with women? Stop making excuses, stop filling your head with nonsense and most importantly STOP THINKING WHAT WOMEN LIKE. Work on yourself and develop so that you can be your best version ACCORDING TO YOUR OWN CRITERIA. You complain about your vision. Well, that's not very difficult to fix. - healthy food, sports, nice clothes. It seems absurd to my nose, but if it bothers you so much, have plastic surgery. But he does these things so that you are in good health and like how you look. Build your life according to your own beliefs and values. If you enjoy good cars - buy one. If you enjoy traveling - travel. If you prefer to save and invest - go for it. If you believe in a cause, work for it. As a prominent theorist, read a little about gender attraction. Don't listen to women just look for more serious information. For a woman, there is nothing more attractive than a confident man following his own rules of life. This will raise your rank, not all the nonsense you have listed. If you do things to please women, your job is broken. I saw him - a friend - handsome, with a good income, a nice car, a home. But he did it only for the women and it didn't work. At one point he clicked, pulled one, began to look at his life and surprise - the women came alone. Whether you will think about what I am telling you or you will develop another wooden philosophy, your decision. Do what makes you happy. I have found what works for me and I just share a point of view. not all the nonsense you have listed. If you do things to please women, your job is broken. I saw him - a friend - handsome, with a good income, a nice car, a home. But he did it only for the women and it didn't work. At one point he clicked, pulled one, began to look at his life and surprise - the women came alone. Whether you will think about what I am telling you or you will develop another wooden philosophy, your decision. Do what makes you happy. I have found what works for me and I just share a point of view. not all the nonsense you have listed. If you do things to please women, your job is broken. I saw him - a friend - handsome, with a good income, a nice car, a home. But he did it only for the women and it didn't work. At one point he clicked, pulled one, began to look at his life and surprise - the women came alone. Whether you will think about what I am telling you or you will develop another wooden philosophy, your decision. Do what makes you happy. I have found what works for me and I just share a point of view. he looked at his life and was surprised - the women came alone. Whether you will think about what I am telling you or you will develop another wooden philosophy, your decision. Do what makes you happy. I have found what works for me and I just share a point of view. he looked at his life and was surprised - the women came alone. Whether you will think about what I am telling you or you will develop another wooden philosophy, your decision. Do what makes you happy. I have found what works for me and I just share a point of view.
What if he's not in love with you - nothing, except that we spent so many megabytes to fill the site's servers. In a sense, the drama is in your head, does he even know who you are. And I'm in love with Brad Pitt and now what? !! What to do? Aw.