Okay, I'm going to write my problem now, but I want to warn you that anyone who laughs at me ... has the right to do so. I'm the old type of guys. True, I'm only 22, but I still think the girl should be as intact as possible. I have a girlfriend, but not in the sense of a boyfriend, although I'm in love with her. She doesn't know yet, but if our mutual friends don't shut their mouths, it will be ugly. So to the question - I say that she is a minor, but she is only 16. I like her, she excites me a little ... well, she excites me a lot, but it always stops me that she is actually a child. So my question is - should I confess to her and do it, even though she is 16, or should I admit it to her, but not do it, or should I not tell her at all Thanks in advance.
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Admit it, but don't force her.
Why do you say "he's actually a child". I don't think whether it's a child or not is determined by age. There are people who mature (I mean not physically, but mentally) earlier. There are also those who, despite the accumulated years, never become really mature people. I allow myself to communicate, because 9 years ago I was in the place of this girl. I was 16 and he was 21. And now, after all these years, I'm glad that then he gave me a chance to prove that I wasn't just a child. And now we are married - happily :). So I would tell you, if you really have feelings for this girl, to tell her. Because if you don't do it and after a while your life separates you will always wonder what would happen between you.
"from the old type of boys" - wtf? "the girl should be intact as much as possible" - wtf again "I have a girlfriend, but not in the sense of a boyfriend, although I'm in love with her" - and what is it then? But what exactly and to whom to admit? To admit to the child that you have a girlfriend who is not your boyfriend? To admit to your girlfriend, who is not your boyfriend, that a child excites you a little? To admit to the child that you are worried that he is a child? But that absurd situation. You're in a big movie, man, hold on a second. And this 22-year-old man. Grief, grief. Malee, these men nowadays ... Well, someone had recently written here in a topic: How far have we come, a man to write a topic on a site whether to have sex.
Talk to her. You don't have to rush to do it. This is responsible. And whether she is intact, she knows. If you value her childlike purity, let's say she owns it, you won't be in a hurry with sex. Let things develop naturally.
Oh, Mommy's cute. You are convinced that if you confess to her, you will have a choice to do it or not. What if she tells you not to deal with her?
I kind of have the weird feeling that all your torment about this girl revolves around sex, huh? !! If her years really bothered her so much, you wouldn't have such thoughts at all and you would face stupid dilemmas like this "should I admit it to her and do it, even though she is 16 or admit it to her, but let's not do it ''.
But it's criminal. She is a minor, you have no right to her. She may be a woman in appearance, but as a person she has not yet developed. She's not a woman, she doesn't know what she wants, she's still young, she's developing hormonally now, don't bother, and plus it's illegal. Ministry of the Interior, where have you been, NSCOC, what are we doing, sleeping, see what is happening here. We are starting to look like the Roma brothers and that's it. It was a horror, people, you are exposing yourself very badly, stop.