Hello! I am a girl of 23 from a big city. You may have all heard the classic story of the good girl who falls in love with a bad boy. It all started 3 months ago. I had a friend then, but our relationship did not develop as expected. The boy in question and I started to write only friendly at first. Then things got worse. He told me that he had feelings for me and wanted a relationship. I also liked him a lot, but I was afraid because I think he is a womanizer and I knew I would suffer. He looks very good - perfect body and beautiful face. I didn't believe he really liked me, even though we were constantly chatting and talking on the phone and he was looking for me most of the time. However, I was prejudiced because of his appearance and because many women were looking for him. After 1 month I decided to give him a chance and go out. He counted the days until we met. I didn't want to fall in love, but when I saw him it was too late. He is the most beautiful boy I have ever seen. He was very nice to me when we met. Then we talked on the phone all night. I know I didn't do well, but I hid from him that I was committed. At first I didn't think it was possible for anything to happen between us and I didn't tell him about it, and when I saw that he already had feelings it was too late and I didn't want to hurt him. I broke up with my boyfriend and then the other boy and I continued to see each other. Everything was wonderful when suddenly he stopped looking for me. I looked for him a few times after that, and he was cold and withdrawn, as if he were a different person. I asked him the reason, he told me he was confused and then I stopped looking for him. A few days later, he removed me from Facebook. I don't know what the reason is and whether it is possible that he found out that I lied to him. There's not a minute that I don't think about him. I never believed that it was possible to fall in love so quickly, and now I suffer and it hurts a lot. Even if it was my biggest mistake, I wanted to make it happen. I miss him terribly, but I don't know if it makes sense to look for him again, although I really want to. I hope my story is published because I can't share it with anyone and I really need advice.
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Honey, hello! I want to tell you first to calm down, whatever happened - happened. I guess there will be people who will attack you now, but absolutely ignore them! Unfortunately, this is one of the possibilities that can happen. You drop one for the other, and then the other stops looking for you. And you wonder if it was worth it? Why did this happen? First, if you have a friend, but someone else manages to get your attention, it means that you missed something in the relationship. You may not even be sure exactly what, but inwardly you were not well with this person. Don't regret what you made as a choice, because life is one. And believe me, you are currently in your most wonderful age !!!! The sweetest age in which one has to live, try and make mistakes, because this is life! Secondly, despite the development of everything, you felt that feeling ... Waiting for someone to call you, to write to you, to see you, this thrill that turns everything upside down. The emotion ... Third, darling, be strong and move forward! I don't think he backed off because you didn't tell him you were committed. If so, I guess he would tell you, ask you why, and so on. There is a chance that he secretly had a boyfriend or had several and at the moment she "tied" him another. I just guess ... Or he really only wanted one sex. Even if he has spent a lot of time communicating with you, this may be his strategy. He felt that you would "give in" to him ... It was only a matter of time before that happened. Fourth, don't look for him anymore. Have dignity !!! Don't be weak. You asked him, he was confused, he removed you from Facebook ... That's not how it's done! You behaved well, and if he did everything like that for no reason - then it doesn't happen !!!!! No matter how much you sink into it, to be in love, chick, time heals everything! As cliché as it is, this thought is completely true! Another will come, another will go, and you can be cheated on, you can cheat ... Well, we are young people! Fifth, if you happen to have the idea to return to your ex ... Don't, if you haven't missed him even for a moment. But when you think about it, sometimes these "fleeting connections" help you understand what you had next to you, what is real. However, right here on this site I read a very clever thought that I forgot, but it was something like - if you understand and love yours - you would never look and be with someone else, but if that happens - never go back to the first one! I don't know how much I helped you, but your topic touched me. I experienced something like this ... abe, not exactly, but .... Be healthy and happy! Be yourself and love yourself! :) F, 26
You should have told him. If there is a way to sit down and talk. Or you can get better.
And have you thought about the theory that he pretended to dump his friend?
Sefte! It happens to everyone.
What advice do you want ??? You knew he was a stripper, you knew he had 100 choices besides you, you knew what was going to happen, and you rode his baton again. Or he really thought he would change especially for you. "The bad boy who gets good because of the girl of his life." - a classic in the genre. What about the other dude? What is happening with him? The man will carry the horns that you put on him and so on. Women like you don't deserve sex, let alone a relationship. Then the women in the forum grumble that we put them under a common denominator, and in fact there are some 10% who are butterflies like you, who fucked 10 people and everyone is afraid of falling on one. My advice to you: Don't get married and don't have children. Why? Because if at 23 you didn't learn to think with your brain instead of your vagina, you will never learn. This way you will jump from downloader to downloader until you knock 30 and a rabid baby catches you. Then you will get pregnant by the first good-natured guy, you will give birth, you will get angry that you did not enchant the downloader (not that it is possible), you will start cheating and you will get angry. Naturally, the husband will be to blame, because the marriage "did not develop as you expected." You will leave the lives of both your husband and your children ruined. This happens every day, with many people, it will happen to you, because you have no honor and your word is not worth 5 cents. That is why I repeat: do not marry, do not give birth and do not damage the reputation of the other 90% of women. it did not develop as you expected. "You will leave the lives of your husband and children ruined. This happens every day, with many people, it will happen to you, because you have no honor and your word is not worth 5 cents. So I repeat: do not marry, do not give birth to or tarnish the reputation of the other 90% of women. it did not develop as you expected. "You will leave the lives of your husband and children ruined. This happens every day, with many people, it will happen to you, because you have no honor and your word is not worth 5 cents. So I repeat: do not marry, do not give birth to or tarnish the reputation of the other 90% of women.
This girl is exactly a representative sample of the modern "young lady" who wants and has the freedom to get dirty in every way, and finally, leaving her no choice, she fusses and seeks help and sympathy even from the people she harms. The whole generation is like that, the average loss of "virginity" among women in Bulgaria is 15-16 years, she at least tells herself what she has touched them, of course, with the desire to sympathize with her. This pessimistic lady does not ruin any reputation of women in Bulgaria, which is well known to foreign tourists as the cheapest and most profitable in the EU, but confirms and describes it.
I am the girl who published this story. To number 5 - I broke up with my boyfriend in the beginning, although I considered doing it much earlier, so I don't think I'm part of these women. This relationship simply had no future. It can happen to anyone to fall in love with this type of person. I want to say that there was no sex and he did not press me and we were both of the opinion that time should pass and we get to know each other. Thanks to number 1 for the objective opinion and understanding, it really helped me feel better and open my eyes to many things.