The story is not much different from many others and I share it to make it a little easier for me. For years I went against my personality, where alone, with the help of drugs and a bunch of other vices, where thanks to a bad friendly, family and human environment in general. Gradually I realized where, how and for what I was wrong, I dealt with many problems and I am generally satisfied with what has been achieved so far. But at the moment it is especially difficult for me to move forward, because I am woven of complexes, gravitating mainly around my low self-esteem, constant self-suggestions, completely unnecessary self-pity, etc. It is very difficult for me, I want to believe and continue to fight for a better destiny, but there is always something to stop ... If the reason is not in me, then there will always be someone outside - there is enough hypocrites and enviers, and quality people seem to stay far away ... Loneliness is a bad choice, but is there a better alternative when a person is too sensitive and cannot tolerate malice in everyday life ! How can I learn to ignore the latter and at the same time stay good, without a drop of grief or aggression, to act and get rid of it all? How can I learn to work on myself, to love myself and to love others at the same time? Thank you for your attention :) to love and to love others at the same time? Thank you for your attention :) to love and to love others at the same time? Thank you for your attention :)
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There is no perfect - and you are not. You can't ask us to do such a thing, you have to feel where your mistake is and work on it. In that case, I would tell you to ignore everything else and be alone with yourself. Take a break, go somewhere to relax, meet different people from those you have known so far. So you can succeed, just change the environment for a while and when you go back to the "nest" just destroy it and build it on the top branch :))).
I fully understand you, because I am in exactly the same situation and I cannot find a way out. If you still want to talk to someone with a problem like yours, write me your Skype.
I can't judge how real your motivation is and how determined you are to change and start your life over. What has passed I do not know how much is left in the past. The battle is very difficult. Only a person with a very strong spirit and determination can fight. You have to break all bridges to the people you have been connected to. How will this happen? Can you do it? If the answer is NO - then every moment can be fatal for you and you will lose this battle. The past must disappear and you never return to it. Is it possible to screw this up? I would advise you to rethink your value system and the spiritual principles you can follow first. May fate be favorable to you and may you meet the right people. Once you have come to such thoughts - then there is something good in your soul and something pure. Keep this little thing that not all people have in them. You are a sensitive person and you are vulnerable. Do not give up and do not despair. For nothing in the world do not allow the past to obsess you and do not repeat the mistakes made of weakness, reluctance, irresponsibility or fear. Life is better than death. And if you need to share something - you can always do it here with us.
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From the author: 1. I know this, it's just very, very difficult, because even if I don't feel part of the situation, it's there physically and it's not easy to break away just like that - you have to be blind, deaf, or have amnesia. I more or less care about people, whatever they are good or bad :). 2. I don't want to make my skype public, give it to yourself. 3. Your advice looks more like a threat to me ahahaha. As it became clear to you, the greater percentage of things in this direction have been done, at least as far as I have been able to do. The bad thing is that there are people who intrude on your life, even though they are unwanted. I can always tell them this directly, but I risk getting bad, even insulting them. There were also smarter ones who prudently withdrew on their own (I suggested it to them indirectly, of course :)), to let me go my way. But the world is made up mostly of fools :). Rather, I am trying to move forward gradually and I think this is the right choice for me. If I start doing things with a swing, I won't get her anywhere, I know her well and that's not my way, he never walked with me (I can't understand why all women like him so much: D). 4. I could hardly have read more nonsense. Self-blame is exactly the same as self-pity, only with the opposite sign. If one helps you with one, it invariably hurts the other. On the contrary, one must act rationally, to judge where one has sinned alone, to judge how far another's mistakes extend. The search for guilt only in oneself and only in others is equally unfounded. GG that this is the right choice for me. If I start doing things with a swing, I won't get her anywhere, I know her well and that's not my way, he never walked with me (I can't understand why all women like him so much: D). 4. I could hardly have read more nonsense. Self-blame is exactly the same as self-pity, only with the opposite sign. If one helps you with one, it invariably hurts the other. On the contrary, one must act rationally, to judge where one has sinned alone, to judge how far another's mistakes extend. The search for guilt only in oneself and only in others is equally unfounded. GG that this is the right choice for me. If I start doing things with a swing, I won't get her anywhere, I know her well and that's not my way, he never walked with me (I can't understand why all women like him so much: D). 4. I could hardly have read more nonsense. Self-blame is exactly the same as self-pity, only with the opposite sign. If one helps you with one, it invariably hurts the other. On the contrary, one must act rationally, to judge where one has sinned alone, to judge how far another's mistakes extend. The search for guilt only in oneself and only in others is equally unfounded. GG I could hardly have read more nonsense. Self-blame is exactly the same as self-pity, only with the opposite sign. If one helps you with one, it invariably hurts the other. On the contrary, one must act rationally, to judge where one has sinned alone, to judge how far another's mistakes extend. The search for guilt only in oneself and only in others is equally unfounded. GG I could hardly have read more nonsense. Self-blame is exactly the same as self-pity, only with the opposite sign. If one helps you with one, it invariably hurts the other. On the contrary, one must act rationally, to judge where one has sinned alone, to judge how far another's mistakes extend. The search for guilt only in oneself and only in others is equally unfounded. GG