Hello, I met my current boyfriend two years ago, something very important is that the age difference is 15 years, but I rarely feel it as an obstacle. He is amazing, he behaves wonderfully, he is always super nice. We rarely fight, but there are some not so good aspects in the character of this otherwise so good partner. I like more extreme things, I find this good but also frightening if we think about the long-term relationship. Another thing that drives me crazy is that he doesn't save his money, but always gives it to hellishly expensive and meaningless things. I don't want to spare them for me, I'm not such a girl, I always insist on dividing absolutely everything into two equal parts, but when you see that one person has no control, it's a little infuriating. When you hint or explain something to him, whether it's a similar situation or a completely different one, he pretends to listen, hear and unfold me, and after a while I realize that he didn't take any of what I told him into account at all. Whenever I ask him about things from his past, he doesn't tell me anything, we rarely talk about personal topics and we share in general. Despite everything, I love him and I see that he is so different from all other men, I try to look only at the good side, but really when I think about the long term of our relationship, somehow I do not imagine that we are a sweet happy family, even though we have good relationships and respect for each other now. I really don't know what to do, on the one hand I don't want to break up because I'll never find a man like that, but on the other hand there is no thrill when she sees him and that exciting thrill of love. They have not disappeared, they have never existed.
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He is just years old and knows how to behave. That doesn't mean it's so perfect. Rather, it is disguised and untrue.
As you describe him, he doesn't look like a person suitable for a long-term relationship. It is probably no coincidence that he was not married at that age. At least he doesn't respect your opinion or at least you have quite different views on important topics, which would be a serious problem. How do you imagine him living his whole day living day and wasting money on nonsense, and you want to invest in something meaningful? In those years he has already built a character and will not change, and when I look he does not want. At least it doesn't look so perfect to me, but rather superficial, to be honest. If he was young, it would be understandable, but for him to be 15 years older than you, then he is not in his early youth and it is quite disturbing.
I think like n2 plus that it's mega stupid to waste time with someone who doesn't respect your opinion, and in this way you show disrespect to yourself. You don't love him, you just sank. Go out on dates with others and it will pass quickly.
To 1: Does it take any special "knowledge" to ignore the words of someone 15 years younger than you?
Live together and you will write. 15 years are not few, we are not in Hollywood. Expenses, children everything matters.
In my opinion, for him you are the woman who is close to him at the moment.
Obviously you have a thrill and an ideal for a man, but this is not enough for a long-term relationship, you should see the person you love to smile, if not externally, then internally, and you say that he is not there, ie you do not love him. , tva je Do not lie to yourself or to him, let him and everyone seek happiness in another
You don't have a thrill, you've never had one, but you're afraid if you could find a better partner or at least a partner like him, so you don't love him. Suppose you have been with him since he was 16, now you are 18 - it is too early for you to make serious marriage decisions, if you are 22, he is 37, it is foolish to let you share the bill, these years are expected to be able to show any masculine qualities of the kind of care for his girlfriend, as well as to be able to take care of his budget and think about more serious things than adrenaline. To summarize, you have an individual next to you whom you do not love, and who either wants to make a living before serious things (which hardly include them), or basically wants to live like that.
It doesn't sound perfect at all. Rather quite problematic.
Author, your friend is quite superficial. I don't think he takes you seriously and I don't think it's good for you to continue with him. And your difference is big.
FROM THE AUTHOR: Thank you for taking the time to comment! Any advice is helpful to me as you already know I am quite confused what to do. In fact, I'm still a sophomore, so he's not that old, so to speak. We do not currently live in one place, I study abroad and come twice a year for two months, everything in this period is perfect, really. He treats me like I'm the most special person in the world and I feel amazing. Sometimes, however, I wonder if all this nice attitude is not because we see each other less often and if it will always be so.
Don't confuse a good attitude with perspective. Good attitude is important and necessary, but if it is superficial, what of it? And he's not that young, so he's at least 35, and that's old enough to have some goals, ambitions and plans. To live day by day and spend nonsense would bother me personally, not because of the money itself, but because of his attitude to life.
Another "in love" with an idiot who doesn't care about her, but she hopes and convinces herself that he is the perfect one. Are there no normal women left in this country?
Everyone has flaws.
I have never seen a more feminine title on a topic in my life. Brother.
My girl, I don't know if you're aware, but it's impossible for a 30-year-old to wait for you once or twice a year. He himself knows that such a relationship is doomed, so in this line of thought he can deal prospectively with another / s. At this age, you wonder if it is in your best interest to wait or act. He is far from ideal for you, and you are still young to guess whether he will be ok as a man and a father in your relationship. There are no ideal people, you don't even know how good you are as someone's partner and future wife.
The more perfect a man is, the more dedicated he is in a relationship, the bigger the problems.
That waiting for you to appear twice a year is unbelievable. It's very easy for someone to pretend in such a short time, it's damn easy. Don't be fooled, you just have an unrealistic judgment about things, precisely because you rarely see each other and it's easy for the other person to pretend.
And where are you sure there is no official girlfriend?
To number 18, why do you think so?
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