I remember as a child we stood with my girlfriend and talked for hours what we want to be the first boyfriend ... tall, blond, blue-eyed, smart and very crazy: D We lived with the idea of this man, at least me, and for this reason until at the moment I have never had a boyfriend and I am already in 11th grade. I had the exact idea of what I wanted the perfect boy to look like, and I compared everyone who spoke to me with the image in my head, and I cut them off later because they didn't match, no matter how nasty it sounds. Until a few months ago I met X, let's call him that. Honestly, this boy is made to order. It is so perfect, even more beautiful than in my imagination! And with some blue eyes, cobalt blue, like I had never seen before, when I looked at him and sank ... We went out together, he spoke some beautiful words to me, I thought, that I hit 6 of the lottery with Mr. Perfect until I actually realized what a womanizer he is! The school has several "toys" on each floor. But all the girls are beautiful - like dolls! He walks, hugs them, kisses them, crushes them, most of them pull because they know what he is like, but I see how they look at him. I don't know if there's a girl who doesn't like him. Even those who avoid and deny it I see when their eyes light up. Anyway, I found my master, I didn't look at any boy for so many years, because I was waiting for Mr. Perfect, he came and broke my heart: D Now, no matter how many times I hear his name, my mood worsens, I started to lose weight ... I guess that X has no idea he's hurting me, and I don't think he would care. I was another toy that bored him for 2 weeks. And now the dumbest thing is, that I still continue to compare all the boys with him and cut them off again. I got my prince with the magnetic look and the white Audi A4, he made fun of me and yet I still didn't learn my lesson ... how stupid should I be
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You found a copy of the prince. Search for the original.
You're not that stupid, you're just a normal naive teenager.
Hello! You look at things very superficially, he was handsome, he had an Audi A6. Don't be overwhelmed by these things, they don't complain about the soul of the person against you. Don't worry about not having a boyfriend so far, it's not a loss. I didn't either, but I'm 18. There's nothing shameful or funny about that, don't take it that way. Of course, I had feelings for someone and I had someone in mind, but that's okay. It's the same with you. Don't define your relationship with someone as a relationship, look at things realistically. You raised this boy too much in your eyes, don't, there's no ground. Cute boys a lot, and women even more .. Just the fact that he speaks such beautiful words to you at initial meetings, clearly emphasize his intentions. Not always, of course, but judging by your descriptions, he's the type of boy, who take down the stars of each. At least in one he is sincere, he shows his essence. His behavior towards the other girls betrays him and he knows it, but does not hide it. He tried with you, don't tie him up. I think you will be disappointed if you continue with it. You already, if you want and accept the fact that nothing serious will come out, but still want to try, it's up to you. As I look, you are not in love, but you have created in your head an image in which you are trying to fit this boy. You say perfectly, from where to where? What is perfect? Does it spin girls? Or the car? In fact, we cannot judge him if it is right for him and he wants such a life. Here you decide if you want to be one of the ladies on his list. Think about what you want. Someone who treats you like everyone or someone, who will appreciate you and make you feel special? I do not suggest any ideas to you, I share my opinion in a friendly way. What you do is up to you. Greetings! Q. Where are you from? M a L k A t A
That's how it grows ... Unfortunately with a negative experience. There is no Mr. Perfect and Perfect. Everyone has their flaws. And you try to love and respect you. It doesn't matter what his eyes are.
"How dumb should I be?" A LOT. But don't worry, most are.
1. https://www.quora.com/Is-it-possible-to-have-cobalt-blue-eyes 2. If he is a whore, then he is not perfect 3. This is what happens when you live with some idealized image in your head and you don't give real people a chance. You have found the master. I hope it's for a lesson and to understand that the perfect appearance is not a guarantee of good character at all (not to mention compatibility between you, etc.) and to have already given up the image of the "prince". 4. After reading your last paragraph, it became clear to me that you have not learned anything, and I answer your question how stupid you should be - quite a lot. PS To know that the "white Audi", and any other car in general, breaks down after 7-8 years, and the character of its owner will have to put up with it as you chose it. Out of curiosity to ask, for those 2 weeks in which he paid attention to you, did you let him go?
People like you deserve it! When you do this with valuable guys that you are not able to appreciate, do not expect "this perfect" to appreciate you ... there will always be "more beautiful" and "more" than you, you are hardly anything special, more soon you are a superficial immature girl, I hope you realize in time, because the beautiful "packaging" is not the most important and they will still break your heart F, 19
From experience I will tell you that the Russians play it cunning lisungeri, at least I know such. I liked them too, they are rare, but black-eyed people turned out to be more serious and passionate in my life ... And I'm glad that there are several thousand with such an appearance, because we would be an extremely unpleasant place to live. He goes to the Scandinavian countries and looks for Russians.
In principle, 98% of boys / men are women and / or unable to love, so this should not surprise you. On the other hand, you pretend to be in this situation by looking for "Mr. Perfect", and you have to understand that there is no such thing. And in general, what do blue eyes and blonde hair have in common with a good relationship? True, there must be physical attraction and everyone has their own ideal of beauty, but there are also quite attractive dark-haired and dark-eyed / green-eyed boys and if you look around, you will notice them. Without offending me, but you're still childish with this "I remember as a child we stood with my girlfriend and talked for hours ...". In my opinion, it is better to emphasize important qualities such as intellect, respect, responsibility, etc., and not so much to physical gifts, money, cars, etc. Because, if you fall in love, you will see that these things do not matter and you will love the boy next to you as he is, even if he is not blond and blue-eyed. Black Sabbath
I don't think you are completely sure what kind of person you are attracted to and want next to you, and it is normal after 1. you automatically look away from everyone without these characteristics; 2. you are too small and do not know each other as well as you think. You may have a real fetish for boys with blond hair and blue eyes and not be attracted to others at all without them, but I highly doubt that. You're aiming for some 2% of the world's blond hair population - and by adding blue-eyed circles; a character to like; close to your age; unbound; high; male iii ... well it gets pretty unrealistic.
Well, you are quite stupid !!! For you, everything depends on appearance, and to meet a man with whom to build a relationship, there must be a balance between the two - character and appearance. For me, a woman, no matter how beautiful, if she wants to be like a doll, but if there is something I do not like too much in her character, I do not reflect her at all, the opposite.
Off people, what are you filming I can't understand. She told you about your Audi not like "oh he has an audi .... I'm taking it !!!" Don't call it superficial because you are 100%. In the 21st century, we are the hell who doesn't look at appearances. We are all like that now, if I like your appearance you have a chance to understand what you are like inside. Would you marry someone you don't like just because he's nice? !! I say again, if you don't like it, there is no way to understand what it is like inside. Author, we are with you, say speeches in the same situation and I will tell you one thing: Go with him. He is still the boy of your dreams. You will hike for a week or two and eventually you will get tired of the "perfect" and you will dump him or you. You have a chance once he's dealt with you. But don't do two things: First: NEVER let him go ... no matter how much he insists, tell him that you don't want to and that he can go on there (at the risk of staying with you only until you let him go, but even then he doesn't do it) and secondly, don't tell him that he is your first boyfriend. You said it yourself, he is a whore, he must have had dozens before you and after ... he doesn't need to understand that you are much more aware than everyone in the school where they push him and watch him undress him. You may be ridiculed for showing how crazy today's society is when it accepts "catching" a first boyfriend of 17/18 as taboo ... but that's it and I haven't had it and I don't want to tell anyone because this will become the news of the school. Think about my proposal very seriously because if you go with it you will end up hurt for sure but if you sit and think how you miss the chance too. As they say, eternal love is only unexperienced. Experience it, experience it and find the "imperfect" with the perfect flaws. I wish you success and write what happened. And I also deliberately did not put commas above (there are about a hundred) I was just bored and I say it so that some do not say that illiterate gives you advice. F15
Darling, if this makes it easier for you, I will tell you that there is really almost no girl on this earth who has not experienced something like this. Which earlier, which later, but we've all been through similar relationships. What to do is a part of life, but there is something good in the whole thing. You learn to distinguish real princes from frogs! And one day when you meet the Prince, you will be sure that he is and you will not stumble on a frog with a beautiful appearance, but hollow inside. And yes, you know, the funniest thing is that princes often don't look so glamorous at all, nor are they the richest, but they have something that frogs don't have. So darling, in time everything will fall into place, if necessary, and you will kiss 1-2 more frogs, but in the end you will find the Prince.
Just to support number 7 with an example from my life. Recently, from the next apartment, I heard the girl shouting at the boy that she was stupid, because no one had humiliated her so much before, but she continued to tolerate him. There are still no signs of separation, I guess he will endure it for a long time or forever. :)
It's just that your criteria don't have to be for such superficial work. You need someone to feel good with. And not where there is a level of coolness. I recommend that you delete the words "criteria" and "ideal" from your head. Pay attention to how cheerful and cool you are with the boy, not "how 'perfect' he is".
I understand you completely ... some time ago it happened to me with a boy, a little smaller than me, but he was behaving like hell. He started writing to me, we wrote to each other every day, he wasn't the most beautiful possible, but he was still nice. We exchanged numbers, it was from my school. He said that he had looked me in the eyes several times, but I obviously hadn't seen him: D. Literally 5-6 hours we talked on the phone, I looked very smart, we could talk about everything. He was listening to me. I'm very attracted to smart people, and he was nice too ... not that it's important, but he was also rich. A total of six in the lottery. We went out once and it was very cool. It got cold at times, but he always excused himself that he was furious, I knew he wasn't in very good company, and he had a lot of family problems. He told me many things about himself. Just a six in the lottery. I fell asleep and got up with a smile .. but after a short time it was all over, because we suddenly stopped contact. I was very tormented, I wondered what the reason was .. after some time, months, we stopped greeting each other, he removed me from fr, found a boyfriend, I watched he gave her huge bouquets, took pictures with her, told her how much he loves her but they broke up after a few months ... anyway, I had forgotten it. A year later, I had hardly seen him, we accidentally ran into a disco, we didn't say anything at first, although I saw what he was looking at me ... then he started walking past me, seemingly involuntarily touching me, but a few times it happened and I remembered that it was not involuntary. I decided to give it a try. He often went to the toilet, the dixotheque was outside and the toilet was a little further away. I was waiting for him near her and I was digging in my bodies, as if I happened to be there. He spoke to me, invited me to his table, We talked a lot of things, then he offered to take a walk together, I immediately remembered what he wanted from me and still accepted. We sat on a bench and talked again, there was nothing. And again, his intentions were clear to me. He was also drunk, I know he wouldn't even remember in the morning. Not exactly from my city, travels a lot, including abroad. I'm not in town either. And for this suffering before, I deserved to receive something, albeit once. He suggested we walk to an even more remote place. Right or right, I accepted. There we pressed, kissed and colored. He didn't have sex exactly because he was very drunk. I understand the truth - this boy is a womanizer. But also a very good artist. I talked to a mutual friend of ours and he told me the same thing, he didn't know that we were pushing each other, etc. I'm already happy ... it's a pity if someone else cheats to fall in love with him. In most cases, they just don't happen for sex, because they start blabbering on like that. But it's better than falling cruelly in love with him and being a womanizer, not being able to break free from my feelings and die of suffering.