Hello, everyone. An 18-year-old boy (Virgo) writes to you with many questions and no answers. Lonely and a little desperate. At 18, I haven't had a single love affair of any kind. As far as I can remember, I'm different in terms of thinking and interests. I never fit in. With a mother who is back from work, an unemployed drunken father and a younger sister with whom we are a little distant. I have a lot of acquaintances and 2 real friends who I love very much and are my support in every situation. As a person, I am a dreamer who is constantly searching for the truth about life. I'm bothering my head with all sorts of things. I am a poet and a writer. I read a lot and I love conspiracies. I'm a gamer. I think I'm one of the people with the strangest taste in music. Rock / metal classics plus blues and jazz classics. Otherwise, I mainly listen to hip-hop with all its legends from the pioneers to the new things (Immortal Technique 2pac Big L BIG lowkey KRS-1) these are my favorites. I also love the universe and everything related to space. Every good night to watch the stars I go out on the terrace, spit on a star, watch it for 2-3 minutes and say to myself "What kind of dream will you bring me today, darling". Then I go to bed and fall asleep. I used to bother with my own problems. Then I realized that we are nothing compared to the whole universe, and what is left for our problems. The thing I'm writing about here is a girl. I need help. It's unique do you understand? The most charming girl both in character and appearance. She is a writer, photographer, gamer and we match our interests. She's from my sister's class. She's quite popular in our small town, I'm not that popular. She's from my sister's class. I saw her live 2 times and the first time it was as if I saw my star in the sky, that's how I felt. I wrote and we wrote to each other on Facebook for over 2 hours for the first time and she said that she would write to me the next day, but for reasons beyond my control I was not at home that day. And so I wrote the next day but she said she would go for a walk I wrote a few times after that but nothing serious. In general, I'm a little shy (I've only kissed a girl twice, I'm a virgin) and I'm damn full of doubts, I doubt everything and especially myself. That bothers me. I don't look bad. Meaning and more unattractive guys catch boyfriends. I've always wanted to find the right one. Now that I think I've found her, I realize I'm not worth it because I'm a coward. And now I wonder if I should write to her or stop bothering her. Maybe I don't deserve it. And I will continue to be alone with the music. Cosmic
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And I'm an "unofficial" writer. We seem to be more sensitive as natures and we are always looking for the great in people and we cannot find the truth. Drop everything, leave the illusions for your lyrics, pay attention to your appearance, turn your head and boldly to the one you like. If it's yours, you'll understand. You don't have to tell her what hobby you do in the beginning. When I told them, they kept asking me if I would write about them, some with ridicule, others with respect ... it doesn't matter. You're not doing anything wrong. You are not a coward, of course, you are a good, well-mannered boy with values and such should be your chosen one, because when I look at your sets with these manners of drunks and drunks, I am not surprised that you do not meet a girl to grab your attention. You have time, you are not late for anything. You may meet her soon without guessing.
Don't give up .. just load up on the fact that some of you guys are "cowards" and are ashamed (of course it's normal) to lose the girl you claim to like ... if you really have sympathy for the girl in question - tighten up, gather more courage and invite her to go out, if she doesn't want a straight path, if the answer is yes, don't miss this chance! Just look tomorrow is already under the wreath haha - I'm kidding, but I hope it happens, something between the two of you!
You soar in the clouds. This is your problem, this is the problem of virgins and Libra. There is no way to know if it is perfect for you. You can only wonder if there really is real love and soulmates, etc. Drop that! Get down to earth, in reality, and look at the real chances of a relationship with this' 'unique girl.' If you think nothing will come of it, move on. There are another three and a half billion such uniques as her on earth. Get to meet her instead of just writing to her. And your interests, your taste for music and games are not as important to fit in with someone in a relationship as the views and the way you perceive things. You may both enjoy some things, but your worldview is very different from hers. You do not know if it is suitable after seeing it 2-3 times. Don't dream, I repeat. Try it, let's see. Write again. Good luck.
I know this is not part of the answer to your question about the girl, but I want to add that you need to get closer to your sister. I'm telling you like a little sister. My brother and I are very close and that makes me very happy, you are of one blood and you have to support each other. So for the rest, why do you think you have to be super attractive to like a girl, have faith in yourself. Do not doubt yourself. My heart turned only when I read what music you listen to. Tighten up, you can start a sport, even if you have a good figure, the sport lifts your spirits, it will make you more confident. The girl stopped writing to him for a while and see if she would write to you. If he doesn't write to you for a week and write again, then give him another week, and if he doesn't write to you then, it probably won't work. How old is she?
Hmm ... You are quite complex and depressed, young boy and with low self-esteem, and it should not be so! Fight for what you want and pursue your goals and dreams. You are a sensitive and intelligent person and you deserve all the best in life. Be convinced of that! You should not be afraid and you should not give up your desires and aspirations. Learn to respect and value yourself more to make others value you. You are a valuable person, you are a person, you are priceless and you deserve to be loved, respected and happy! Pursue your happiness, pursue your desires, believe in yourself and believe that you are important, because you really are ... You are unique, unrepeatable and unique in yourself, there is no one just like you. How to approach the girl? "Well, be yourself." When you associate with her, open your soul and heart and be yourself, do not worry and do not be afraid of anything. Believe me! You are a good and respectable person and YOU DESERVE EVERYTHING BEST in this life. Just be honest, open and genuine. Invite her to go out somewhere - for coffee, to the cinema, no matter where, where you want ... Be calm and believe in yourself that you are the most worthy and valuable person and every girl would be happy to have you by her side. .. Believe it is so and so it will be! :) There are no impossible things, as long as one believes in oneself and has the strength of spirit to pursue one's goals to the end! Good luck boy! And to free yourself from the shadow of your father, who is also one of the factors that makes you feel so confused and insecure, find a job to be independent and help your mother, who has wasted her life on her back. get out of work in order to have something to feed you and the useless drone - a drunkard, your husband ... Be your support too, because your father obviously can't be like that ... Only that the fact that he is like that, in no way it should not make you feel guilty and ashamed of him. Everyone is responsible for themselves, so he is he, and you are you! YOU ARE NOT LIKE HIM, so you have nothing to develop inferiority complexes because of his behavior ... I know you will handle everything. Good luck young boy. :) that you have nothing to develop inferiority complexes because of his behavior ... I know you will handle everything. Good luck young boy. :) that you have nothing to develop inferiority complexes because of his behavior ... I know you will handle everything. Good luck young boy. :)
A man deserves everything he wants, ask her somehow, if you fit why not, and this writer: D to fix her spelling a bit
Thanks to everyone for the comments. I know that my father is not a factor in my life, but it bothers me, I have always compared myself to others and I said to myself that this is me and there is no way it will happen to me (if it is a girl). I know, the best way to make someone fall in love with you is to be yourself, I don't think I'm pretending to be someone else just to impress her. I will write to her today in a different, confident way and I will show her what I want, namely what will happen to her. I know that a negative mind will never bring me a positive life. I'm trying to change my way of thinking. I used to sink into conspiracies and problems that I thought about all the time. Maybe that made me smarter, but it didn't help me much in life. On the contrary, I don't soar in the clouds, I do it sometimes, but there is a part of me that is realistic and looks at things realistically. No, that there is some connection but did you know that the pyramids are time machines? Cosmic
Sign up, invite her on a date. Do not be afraid. Brave people succeed in this life, those who fight for their dreams. Women love confident men. If you don't overcome your fears, it can't happen to any girl. Don't think "will she like me", "will it work with her", but relax and try. If it doesn't work out, there are so many more beautiful women in this world ... I wish you success.
My sister is 2 years younger. Cosmic
And you number 6 fixed your punctuation.
Number 5, thanks for the comment. I just don't have words. Very good! The author to listen to number 5 and will not be mistaken.
Number 5 said what you need to be told, I'll just add that you don't have to give in to your worries. Just emancipate yourself from all the turmoil of your daily life before contacting her and opening your mind. I think there is potential in you that will help you communicate with real people! Greetings 22 m.
Look, DON'T HURRY! You like the girl, but why do you want her to be yours tomorrow? Give yourself some time, give her time to get to know you, to see what kind of person you are. You say you have many common interests - well, take advantage of that. Talk to her about games, music, send songs you like, recommend a movie you like, then you will have a reason to write to her to ask if she liked it. There is no need to hurry so much. Start as friends. So what is this, hello and rush to the cafes. Invitations to go out, so invite her out. I'm telling you, give the girl a chance to get to know you before you show up as another country defender with "Hello, babe, have a coffee." Yes, I know what you say about the fact that the Internet interferes with normal communication. In my opinion, the more it hinders, the more it helps. Once upon a time, when there was no internet, people wrote love letters to each other. Remember Cyrano de Bergerac. The girl fell in love with him without even seeing him. If you haven't read the story, read it, or watch the movie. I tell you again, do not rush, so as not to frighten and repel her. I think you have many qualities to impress and win her. Festina lente, it is said in Latin, in Bulgarian - Hurry slowly! Good luck!! One Woman said
So we chat with her for a lot of 1-2 hours and send each other music, movies, etc. We click games together, so I think I'll continue like this, but how to invite her out not immediately, I ask in principle. Otherwise I will quote what she wrote to me - "where have u been all my life: D" and I in turn asked her "Can you explain something to me, can you?" She made a joke about being a writer and told me ask anyway, and I answered "How is it possible to be so charming" Cosmic
I think you're both very sweet and there's a good chance you'll get along with this girl. How to invite her out? So try a movie? You say that you have similar interests, there is no way we can't have a new title that we like. Well, if you have a movie theater in your city, I don't know where you're from. Or try to challenge her - for example, to bet that she can't beat you in a game, and to organize a tournament in an internet club - I see that there are more. Either record a CD with music you like or something she wants to have as music and invite her under the pretext of giving it to her. Well, of course, you can always just say, "Let's go out for coffee," I'm just giving you different ideas. Listen to her carefully, sometimes (often) women make hidden invitations, even unconsciously. If he says something like, "
Well, before I caught a friend, I had kissed twice, I was a virgin (although I went to strip bars and I was with companions twice, I just couldn't do anything in sex and one time they gave me a blowjob, the other time I was just talking), and I was terribly worried, and I'm skeptical .. if I catch a boyfriend he won't want to use me, if he won't cheat on me, if he will love me, if we will always keep good feelings without ever we separate and I always had doubts and bad thoughts and I refused girls at school because of pretensions for appearance, sometimes because of a little courage, but I also liked a girl very much, she paid attention to me, coloring, childish hugs and dreamed of her it happened and since then I just cut the girls, I didn't want relationships ... now I'm 23 years old and I have a first relationship, it's very difficult for me with my jealousy,with the fact that I want to be with her all the time, in the beginning it was difficult for me to give myself sexually, because I can be either infinitely gentle or like rudeness, and gentle if I have no feelings, there was no way to be, nor rude so as not to push her away .. in the kisses from the first time it happened, although I hadn't kissed for a long time ... in the end, calm down, I was very worried with this girl while we hug and kiss at the beginning, I was shaking all over , I hadn't had intimate moments with a girl for a long time, especially if she wasn't from bars, etc .... and I was just worried, I wanted something serious, but since I didn't know her I didn't know if she was serious. .. I relaxed after 2 and a half months maybe completely, now we are over 4 months together, but during these 2 months we went out every day, as now and if I don't see her one day I get depressed ..the lack of a girl next to me during these years definitely makes me catch up now, I can't do without her, I'm stuck, thank God it happened to me, I just want to be with her