I am the most ordinary teenager like everyone else, I am a strong student and I have friends, but I also have a big problem, I am constantly influenced by other people's opinion about almost everything! Ever since I was a child, as far as I can remember, people have been forcing their opinion on me, whether I wanted it or not! They always tell me only what I'm not good at, what they would change in me and how I should behave, look, etc. When I was a child, I didn't listen to them at all, I just tried to listen to my music and I almost didn't fuck about it which they jingled at me. Somehow I have learned, when I listen to what I like, to be transported to my world, where everything is what I want and I have no problems. When I went to school, I had problems with class, I was teased because of my funny name, because I was weirder because I liked and still like different things, I have a primitive way of thinking. At first I wasn't so conscious, I just wanted the teacher to walk and I was always cowardly, at least as a child. But then I got sicker, why did everyone treat me like that? Am I so lost and ridiculous that I don't deserve normal human behavior? I started complaining, arguing with classmates, I came home crying almost every day and thousands of other problems. Yes, children are nasty, and that's typical petty behavior, but back then I was a kid and I was naughty. After a while I moved to another school, not because of bullying, I just decided to go elsewhere and at first well, I found friends, but you know that when someone is a good student, then he is a bison? Well, I ended up in one of the weakest classes in school and I became the "bumper of the class" without a problem. and from there new taunts followed. First, just for fun! At first I didn't sleep at all, I was even proud that I was doing well, but gradually people started to get very angry! They started tossing things about my appearance, my way of dressing, my gait, my demeanor, and of course, they kept fucking me for being a jerk! Every time I had a high grade, I was like that and I was very bad, and if I make a mistake somewhere, then I'm stupid and I'm bad again! I said to myself, "What so much! They just justify their laziness and think they're cool, but they actually prove that they're dumb, limited and have no opinion of their own, they just imitate someone without even knowing why!", But just in one moment you start to like to be constantly planted complexes and harassed for the fact that instead of putting on makeup, you want 6 in chemistry! I used to like myself somehow, I loved my style precisely because it is different and not only did I not care that people didn't like me, but I was also happy that I was different and unique in something! Ever since I started junior high school, I somehow took the insults more maturely and they just stopped! I haven't been teased since 9th grade that I'm a bison (now I'll be 11), but I still have high success, I've changed my vision to some extent and now even a lot of people enjoy my style, which is because I want to n., but there is another problem. People argue a lot with me and often try to make me stupid again, they always force their opinion on me, they try to irritate me, they are always lurking to make a mistake in anything! I keep wondering how I look in people's eyes, whether I'm doing the right thing, whether they like me or not, it's awful! I want to stop thinking about what people will say about me, I have an opinion about everything,
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Mmmmy, why are you interested in yourself, you said that you were great when you were different from others. with something original. So don't worry about those who are lurking to make mistakes, people are like that (not all of them, of course), but you have come across such people. Just do everything for yourself. I know it's hard to ignore people's opinions, but just live for yourself and learn. Smile at fate and it will help you :))
Do as you please and don't care about the opinions of others. You live for yourself and be happy. Don't deal with people / things that irritate you or are unpleasant to you. This is what I do. That's why the old say that the young are completely selfish, but I don't care if I'm selfish or not. The important thing is me and I'm fine. :) And try not to have a different way of thinking. That is, you can have it, but be in front of the herd as part of the herd. It discards the different. That for a good student to be a bison is not OK. I also have good grades, but the point is not to punch them in the face of others, because it irritates them. Get good grades, study and persevere. In my opinion, the problem is not so much in your opinion or assessments as that you are not nasty. You have to be a little nasty to be respected by others. Otherwise, if you are too sweet and kind, they get on your head, but be careful not to overdo it. In general, watch where the wind blows and adapt.
It hurts me that you're crazy about other people's opinions. You need to start writing gay novels. Greetings from your mother's opinion !!!
Ask yourself, is it worth changing for someone? If you have real friends they wouldn't care about your appearance and the style of music you listen to .. for example .. I was also (and still am) different from most I've met but when they said something to change I said that I don't care about their opinion and they'd better save it. The most important thing is to stick to what you like and not bother to show it
Hey, believe me if you want, but I'm just like you. I will also be in the 11th grade, and I was teased until the 9th grade. I cared, then I stopped caring, and the taunts stopped. But yes, there are still people who hint at their opinion, and instead of trying to accept you as you are, they blame you and try to change you. I don't understand them, but you live life without paying attention to it! :)
Author: Thanks for the serious comments! I know that other people's opinion should not be important to me, but the truth is that I just don't know how to stop looking through other people's eyes. I didn't care before, but for the last two years I can't stop wondering or thinking about myself without asking what people think, and they always remind me that I have negative traits and that I need to change them. I don't want to change anything, I just want them to see that I have positive traits and to tell me without having to ask and wonder.
Honey, so am I. I'm a 14-year-old boy and they constantly pick on me .. because I sing, my friends say it's envy .. I don't know .. and I, like you, take everything inward and I'm interested in other people's opinions ... "Well, now if I do that, what will they think ... ??" and I really want to overcome all this. I'm different because I'm an actor and everyone tells me I look gay ... and I just drool and behave to entertain people, BUT I'm NOT gay! So I think maybe everything will be overcome in time .. Good luck !! :))