After 10 years together, the last 3 of which were living torture, I managed to oust the legal one (not without help). He always drank, but 2 years ago he lost his job and his hobby became around the clock. Soon after, he discovered the miracle of Facebook. He began to live in a fictional world of alcohol intoxication and to live as a virtual superman. At one point, its degradation began to become more than visible, starting with the morning trembling of the hands and ending with personal hygiene. Every day when I came home from work, I found the dirty dishes from lunch, an empty bottle and the open computer. Well, I couldn't help but look at what he was doing while I was gone. He started trying to take down various women, exchanged telephone numbers, and even one of them tied up and they saw each other. That was the fun part. After help from friends and relatives, I was able to kick him out of the house in the spring. I had completely forgotten that I had a spare key with my father-in-law and one day I found my house half-empty. Anyway, drunken work under someone else's pressure. I changed the lock. I found a lawyer and decided to try in a good way - to discuss it and divorce by mutual consent. But he did not pick up my phone, nor did he answer via Skype or e-mail. I went to them, he was on all fours, the house with broken furniture, a moldy pot on the stove, empty bottles and butts on the floor ... it was an idyll. Although drunk, he said that he would give me a divorce only if I paid a 5-figure sum .... the argument - because he had bought the cabinets for the kitchen where he lived for 10 years :) A month ago I filed for divorce, he categorically stated that will not sign the summons. Ten days ago, he called me one night with screams, screams and threats that he wanted a divorce immediately. In short, ours found some drug addict (unemployed and living as a nomad with "friends") who settled with them. He wiped it in a neighborhood pub. Apart from the fact that extortion and psycho attacks continued, the amount for the cupboards doubled. She said she would find me and send people to beat me if I didn't pay, and he would personally destroy the house. It is clear that the pot has found its lid, and it is only a matter of time before the father-in-law returns from the villa and throws them away. As for the finale, I'm not afraid of it. He may be an alcoholic, a liar, a complexist, but he is not aggressive. Precisely because of its complexes, however, it is susceptible to other people's opinions. My divorce claim is based on his alcohol dependence. But the reactions lately are starting to scare me. In tandem with the young lady, I don't know what they are capable of. Do I want to calm down, whether to seek help or become aggressive until all this hell is over. Your "Cassandra" :(
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Immediately to the police !!! You file a domestic violence complaint and demand that they issue a restraining order. I still don't know how to get your "roommate" into "domestic violence", but I think the police will help you. If you have a file and the divorce will be faster - SUCCESS!
And in the beginning didn't you see what you were taking? Or you call him superman then, then he changed. How do we always understand the negative as change? How come a man who got married didn't change for the better? If you were alone, you remember he wouldn't make it to this hall. So you are the reason, I even dare to say, that in most similar cases of "change" the woman is to blame.
No. 1, thanks, the restraining order has been prepared, but there is no adequate reason for police intervention. It's all phone threats. My lawyer, thank God, is understood and actively cooperates. No. 2, I think you're picky. Somewhere to read to say a bad word about my husband or expressions like "He always drank" or "He may be an alcoholic, a liar, a complex, but he is not aggressive" have you escaped between the lines? . I am talking about sick people, mentally ill people, addicts who have needs but no means. To excuse you for not protecting him because one of us had to work, or for not keeping him company in his drinking? Shame on you. That I am also to blame is indisputable, but here we are talking about threats to my physical health and my life.
Author, and there is a solution for phone threats. Share it with the police. Where are you from?
For now, you are doing the right thing! But the situation in which you find yourself begins to become slightly "dangerous". Divorce is a divorce - sooner or later you will get it. Time may pass because we all know how institutions work. In my opinion, your biggest problem is this gentleman and the "babe" in which they are with the combine. You don't know what they can do under the influence of alcohol and drugs. Even if the divorce case is pending, they are free and at any moment they can appear from somewhere with some misery. I don't want to scare you - just be careful. Just file a complaint with the police, release a restrictive one, both for him and for her ... and your head will be at least for a while and to some extent in this regard as well.
Thanks 4 and 5, obviously it will not be superfluous to acquaint the authorities just in case. I will do it tomorrow. I'm from Sofia, it will happen quickly. "Cassandra"