Hello! Please publish my story if you have the opportunity, because I already have the feeling that I have to commit suicide! Here is the situation: I am a 16-year-old girl. My father left my mother when I was a baby, and since I can remember we have lived alone. My BIGGEST dream is to have a family with my mother and father. And this is about to come true! My mother has been dating a man for about a year (a great and very decent person) and a month ago we moved into his house. And when I found out that he had a son my age, I was right in the seventh heaven! "I'm going to have a great family" I thought ... yes, but NO. This boy (his son) just can't stand me, sometimes he insults me, sometimes he ignores me. I understand that it may not be easy for him to accept me quickly, but how can I make him like me as I simply HAVE NO CHANCE! He has a cousin with whom they are constantly together ... they have the same interests, they listen to the same music. He just WORSHIPS her, and I can't find the time to say a word to him, and what's left for him to like me ? What can I do to get closer to him? I don't want to live with a person who calls me "muffin", "chalgarka", "ligla". I just want a normal family, I don't want to disturb anyone! Should I talk to his cousin, or what else should I do ...? I just want a normal family, I don't want to disturb anyone! Should I talk to his cousin, or what else should I do ...? I just want a normal family, I don't want to disturb anyone! Should I talk to his cousin, or what else should I do ...?
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You are right - he would rather find a common language with his cousin, but respect and attention are earned, they are not required. Maybe at the moment it is better to distance yourself a little or a lot, to find your hobbies and friends, not to play on his nerves. And he is puberty, it is not easy for him. Read books, go out with friends, practice and let him take the first step. Try not to take much of his time with his father, not to intrude where you feel you are not wanted. At 16, it's time to realize that your mother's men will never be your fathers and stop looking for one. You will soon be 18, you will graduate and take your own path, do not strive for impossible things. Neither your mother's husband will be your father, nor his son will be your brother, nor his house will be yours - just look at your life, focus on learning, girlfriends and if they both want to be a part of it, let them lend a hand first. You have lived and lived 16 years without them - listen and dress as you want. They will not change for you, be true to yourself, because you only have this.
I understand you very well, and I think you should talk to his cousin first - and I hope she comes out an understanding person. And he's naughty now, I'm sure you understand. As you described yourself, you don't do anything to ignore or irritate him ... There was a movie like this, to know that he will get used to you ... Especially when he sees you every day, he just can't help but accept you. Don't act childish, don't irritate him with music or anything in the coming months. You will be OK! :)
Hey, my advice is to find out what he likes. A year ago I met a boy who didn't like me at all, and I wanted to meet him (as a friend). He insulted me most regularly and "hated" me because I listened to chalga. But a month passed, two I decided to listen to his music, we started writing to each other, discussing groups, etc. The strange thing is that now I listen to this music and I like it, and until last year I said that it was "psychiatric". ', this does not mean that I have given up the chalga of course. Now we are very good friends with the boy in question, I hope he understood the meaning of what I wanted to tell you, good luck :))
Emmy, you act like a brother and sister. Don't think that blood brothers and sisters don't hate and insult each other during this period of growing up. He will get used to it, over time. And I don't understand what you're trying to get closer to, behave naturally and kindly, don't intrude on him and don't irritate him.
,, Squeeze your rags,, your stepbrother must understand that you are part of this family and have to accept you.