I Had Better Have Died

   Oh, come on, finally beat his clown. I will only tell you that no one runs away from what is sent. You are the reason for going through these torments, it is not his fault. So you either leave his life or you continue to suffer. It's very simple :)

   It happens to you to learn! To learn that neither human nature is what you imagine it to be, nor are families, relationships and relationships as they once were, nor are people and worldviews the same ... that you would die for someone it does not mean that he would do the same for you, although he claims otherwise. It hurts because you are trying to live in stereotypes. You try to own and control. Release the grip and everything will be fine! Otherwise, you will attract the same person as you, and then you will poison each other's lives, even if you seemingly strictly follow the "standards" and public views. He does what comes to him from within, and tries to present it to you as it would seem most apparent to you. It does not act by squatting or intending to hurt you. You can suffer terribly from the fact that he goes to the toilet and there aka, but he just could not live any other way. Do you spin? Rejoice that it hurts - it means that you are developing.

   The only problem is that you came across a psychopath. If you want to feel sorry for him, if you want to forgive him and forget him, but don't blame him too much. Here is the definition of a psychopath: A psychopath is a person who has no conscience, consciousness, but not because he lacks the intellectual capacity to understand the difference between right and wrong, but because he lacks the emotional connection with cognition, thoughts, etc. Some of the characteristics of this include a striking lack of empathy, a lack of concern for other people, a perception of other people simply as objects. When normal people process emotional material, there is a great deal of activation of parts of the brain that are designed to respond emotionally to events and respond to emotionality. In normal people it can be distinguished emotionally-saturated from a neutral event, but in psychopaths this is impossible. Parts of the limbic area and parts of the brain responsible for emotionality in general - the hippocampus, amygdala, in psychopaths do not function as in other people. Psychopaths are pathological liars. Their relationships with other people are practically defined by manipulation and exploitation. The psychopath sees no reason to be honest or caring, concerned about other people. They are usually very good at lying, sometimes they are able to confuse even experienced interrogators. Because they are incapable of shame or fear, their body language or tone of voice, and other similar signs, never betray them, as is usually the case with other liars. In fact, they are absolutely not afraid of being caught lying. When they are put in a situation to answer real questions and face real facts, they, without even pausing, they will rework their story to fit the facts and look consistent. This constant reworking of their story leads to contradictions that leave the listener confused. According to Hare, many psychopaths are charming on the surface and have an exceptional ability to show emotions (until they actually experience them) and have an incredible ability to manipulate others. A term often used is 'sweet-spoken', meaning an improvised speech skill that is often insincere or superficial, apparent. They have fewer social restraints and internal restraints, and are more extroverted, dominant, and self-confident. They are also not afraid to insult, reject or be disappointed. These things, when they happen, they reject them and do not feel discouraged from trying again. It should be noted that not all psychopaths have this "calm and smooth" charm, often with a bad upbringing some of them lack social grace, grace and elegance or education to impress people. Such psychopaths rely more on threats and violence to get what they want. Hervey Kleckley suggests that psychopaths lack the ability to understand what life really means.

   №1 made a great comment. There is hardly anything to add, but still - you should never ask yourself "why me?". He is very wrong. To you, because you really need to learn something. You have to figure out for yourself what. Otherwise, this will be repeated in your next relationships. In general, however, my opinion is that you have no place with this person. You deserve a lot more, and you can't get it with it. Analyze things and pack your bags. If you stay there, then you like to be driven crazy or you are a masochist. Eli

   I will tell you one thing: don't let them get on your head! This is not love! A person who does things with the clear awareness that he will hurt you does not love you. He can tell you many things, but words are just empty words when they are not proven by actions. What connection can come out of such a thing? Don't bother with such a person next to you anymore.

   A man who looks at you and tells you. that he loves you, and he walks and cheats on you, he is mean, mean, complex, etc. If he was a man on the spot, he would tell you, but look at you and lie to you ... GET RID OF HIM, IMMEDIATELY, HE WILL NOT BE CHANGE AND YOU KNOW IT

   love and sex in men are two different things, while we often connect them ... so you can really love dionea36

   The man is not a psychopath, 3, and you, the author, say the reasons for your failures. I quote: "And why does something like this happen to me? To me? The person who gives kindness to him, the person who always thinks first of himself instead of himself .... I am the one who would jump into the fire for him ... "One thing I have learned in my life so far and this thing saves me and preserves my psyche, and that is that I should never but never put someone else in the first place, except myself. !! No one else will think of you, author, as you do. So learn your lesson a second time and don't throw yourself into the fire for one "I love you." And when a relationship hurts you, it's a clear sign that you don't have to be a participant. Doriana

   Number 3 wrote it correctly only where he forgot to write that they can be very smart, which means that being smart has nothing to do with having a conscience and being a Man. A Man who loves you will do everything for you and will be ready to make the greatest sacrifices, let alone hurt the people around him. №3 wrote correctly between words and deeds, the difference is huge, you will understand them by deeds and not by words. To say that I LOVE YOU is like saying I'm hungry. Rejoice that such a creature is not your husband (s) because he will lie to you all his life and you will hardly understand because they are outspoken liars, even if you catch him in a mold they will still skillfully lie to you with something. №3 forgot to write that they are extremely big intriguers, they feed on it: lies, hypocrisy, hypocrisy, intrigue .... Rejoice, that you understood it before you lived a lie all your life. I also write in the feminine because such SICK BRAINS are of both sexes. One day you will meet the real Man, but woe to the one who has such a PSYCHOPADE. All evil for good ... I wish you success in LOVE!

   The same story, just put 2 small children on top. The better you are, the more they get on your head, the worse you are, the more they respect you. Too bad, but a fact! They even have the audacity to blame you! That's life!