I give straight. The title already states the problem, which is why I am writing here with a request for advice and opinion on how to end my contact with this person with whom I have sex without feelings. In recent years I have accumulated a lot of personal problems, I have lost many people close to me, stress at work, a difficult separation from the boy we were about to marry and I know that these things do not justify me in any way, but at some point due to everything what I had accumulated I found something like a vent. I had sex with a boy I don't like. Two or three times. He also has no feelings in that I'm sure. Now he is looking for me only for sex, but I have no desire. I liked sex with him, I have nothing to blame my soul, but I do not imagine a relationship based solely on the physical. That's why it's good to end things, just how do i tell him? In your opinion, how should I act, should I stop answering him completely?
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If you're happy too, and he's happy - both free ... why stop anything? Live your life today and now, because you live one life and you don't do anything bad to anyone if you have sex. Your body is yours! Your life is yours. Don't worry about the boy - men know how to separate these things and if you can't fall in love with him yourself, you won't continue to meet on a "friendly" basis. Yes, I have your problems ...
I can't understand your question. Just tell him you're stopping here. I guess he's not stupid, he'll understand your words. It seems to me that you are just looking for attention with this topic. I can't believe you can't think of a way to act.
Emmy and I, when I was young and alone, spent 3 or 4 years with a lady like that. No one fell in love with anyone, no one hurt anyone. It was nice - I just felt normal when I was sexually satisfied. Besides, I had a clear mind and reason when I chose my real partner, not some hormones to force me and lose my mind.
Very often things start with sex and then ignite feelings. If you both like it, keep it up, but try to communicate spiritually as well. Go to the theater together, go on a trip together, have a picnic, and gradually you will connect spiritually. Or you can go further. Success!
I support number: 2 What you ask you tell him that you no longer want to see, hear and look for, and so much what are you doing that you do not know you are just looking for our attention here nothing else. When you do everything in one night, will your pussy grow? What are you wondering and whining you tell him that you don't want to look for you and so you are two free people if you want you will make a cake if you don't just tell him you're not 10 years old so you don't know, and besides telling him I don't see what else can or should you do. Complete stupidity is this topic get out of the world of the Internet and live outside is much more fun than writing meaningless topics for attention. Most of the topics here became like this complete nonsense I had written a topic when I really needed adequate advice so my topic was not published,
And I do so almost every day :)) with the difference that we have a serious relationship! Tell him you're looking for a serious person next to you so you don't want to do it anymore. I do not feel strong feelings for my beloved, there is no thrill, no sexual desire, I will continue because I hold on to him and I do not like it. It's different to have sex with a man you love sucks because now another woman is happy for him but what to do obviously love is not given to everyone. I can not understand you fear you are not to fall in love .. or what if this is a problem better end.
And what's wrong with that. What is it for you to love him, don't wish for that.
And how are you sure he has no feelings? Are you in his head? I know it sounds amazing, but men are not insensitive beings. After sleeping with you, even if you are not in love, it is assumed that you have respect as people at least. If you want to end the relationship, talk to him, explain things to him. It just sucks to stop any contact at once. I would be offended if I were him. Talk and keep a normal relationship.
Attention from whom? From anonymous people who, apart from advice or comment, can't pay me any other attention? My dear №6, and even if I deliberately looked for one, it happens to me that even you, who are grumbling against this story, take your time to write a small comment. :) If I put a yoke on someone to write me a comment and read the story - no, right? Everyone does it voluntarily, including you. I feel hints of malice in your words, who the hell makes you comment that you didn't miss it and don't take your precious time to some other needy story than mine? Or it hurts us, it itches us - we don't like something, but we have to comment on it in vain, like that. A typical Bulgarian feature, hey. Thanks anyway for your time and comment, as well as everyone else! About the problem - I wanted to share with someone to relieve my purely human conscience, but also to read the opinions of people who have thus begun their relationships. Nothing more. Have you calmed down now that you understand the purpose of this story? And don't worry, I work in 3 places, you didn't define me correctly. But we should always talk without being acquainted, right? Come good evening and Happy Holidays :)