Most of you will probably think that my parents are harassing me and that's why I hate them, but on the contrary, I harass them. I keep yelling at them, insulting them and underestimating them, and I can't find an answer to why I do it. I am so angry with them for no apparent reason. I live in a small village where most people go abroad, and the children are raised by their grandparents. Our people have been working abroad for many years and they left me for the first time when I was two years old. I grew up raised by my grandmother, and I only talked to my parents on the phone. They go abroad for about six months, and the rest of the time they are in Bulgaria. When I began to enter puberty, this hatred for them appeared. When they are abroad and we hear each other on the phone, we hardly fight, but when they come home, some scandals start caused by me. This aggression on my part is directed mostly at my mother.
One year when I was in my mother's seventh grade and she had to go abroad for health reasons, she later told me a few years later that she was depressed and had been taking antidepressants for 10 years, and that was when she became more severe condition and therefore could not leave. I didn't know that then, and I fought with her almost every day, even once there was a fight, in which she complained to my father. After this case, things are not much different. Scandals and aggression continue every time they return home. Let me add that I am a child, my mother was pregnant before me, but at birth the baby died, after which she could not get pregnant for 6 years, but eventually she got pregnant with me and there was a great risk in my birth for her, due to complications from the first birth. As a child I was also a very problematic child, I was constantly ill, but she always took care of me. Although we live in a small village, with a little outdated understanding of her, I can say that she is relatively much more liberal than other mothers and I can talk about everything with her. I know you might think I'm a freak, but it doesn't matter because I feel the same way. She always made more compromises about their marriage to my father, because they are just very different, but I think this relationship between them is toxic, and if we lived in a city and not in a village, they would probably get divorced, but just here these things are not very well received. I just can't explain why I hate them so much? They are not perfect, but there are much nastier parents than mine. It's just that sometimes I'm very annoyed by their mentality and understandings. I know this is no reason to insult and shout at them, but I do. Maybe I'm a total mess with a lack of upbringing and that's why I do it, but to some extent maybe they have this guilt because for most of my growth they were not there. I'm already starting to wonder if I should go to a fortune teller or a psychologist, because I just don't know how to deal with this anger inside me.
The question that interests me the most is why the hell am I doing it. Where did my attitude towards them come from, as if they were rubbish, geeks and strangers, and not my parents? I'm already starting to wonder if I should go to a fortune teller or a psychologist, because I just don't know how to deal with this anger inside me. The question that interests me the most is why the hell am I doing it. Where did my attitude towards them come from, as if they were rubbish, geeks and strangers, and not my parents? I'm already starting to wonder if I should go to a fortune teller or a psychologist, because I just don't know how to deal with this anger inside me. The question that interests me the most is why the hell am I doing it. Where did my attitude towards them come from, as if they were rubbish, geeks and strangers, and not my parents?
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Hi, it's normal to get angry but parents, this happens when you grow up. It is also normal to have differences in your thinking and to be annoyed when they tell you what to do. I think you're more emotional and that's why you react that way. I would not go to a fortune teller, but the idea of a psychologist is very good. If there is a larger city near your town you can go there.
I have the feeling that many topics are written here by psychologists, probably with good intentions. An ill-mannered child cannot think like a well-mannered person and the actions cannot be like an ill-mannered one. The author seems to realize that she treats her parents badly, and yet she does not recover !? The writing style is not responsible for a rude person!
Misunderstanding and lack of connection and closeness is a very strong curse for a family, it will affect your future. Think about how your mother feels in this poisonous atmosphere, where there is no peace, and at the same time she suffers from depression. By your actions you suppress her even more and aggravate her condition. Depression is treated with love, not quarrels and harassment. Mother and father are the only people who will always be by your side and will always help you, under any circumstances. You can't imagine what it's like not to have a family, what grief, pain and emptiness it is! You don't realize why you're behaving this way, you say the reason is in you, but you still can't change. So you should seek help from a psychologist, and if necessary from another specialist. Otherwise I haven't heard of a medium,
You need healthy men's slaps. If I am your father, I will re-educate you very quickly and you will become very quiet. For people like you, I am the best educator.
I think you are dissatisfied with something in life and blame yours. The fact that your mother is on pills is a risk factor for you as well. Ask how exactly she felt before taking the pills and why? but in a longer period of time (for example 5 years) !. Let it be honest and comprehensive.
You may be crazy. : D When you shout at people for no reason, it doesn't matter if they are your parents or not. Don't yell at people. Impulses and emotions are yours and you have to control them. The key word for you is self-control. He reads and works for him. Meditate, practice some sport. Also, every time you shout and then regret, you have to apologize. Let people know that you are aware and working to improve. Losing control of emotions will eventually lead to loss of physical control, bad heart rhythm, heart disease, other diseases ... and it was a bad thing. 10 s
You are an ungrateful being !!! No apologies. Why and how you can insult your own parents, I'm lucky I'm not a parent. Number 4 is right you need a strong fight. If I were there, I would have crushed you in battle at number 4 by now. You're a super ungrateful bastard
Try to identify the emotion that makes you scream at them. When they are in the countryside, do they try to control you? Do they tell you what to do and / or how to behave (this is annoying for teenagers in general)? In general, I did not understand what is the reason for shouting at them?
Не си владееш емоциите, подобно на всеки твой връстник. Ядосана си им по много причини, прочети си историята още няколко пъти, вероятно ще забележиш къде яда ти се засилва. Ядосана си и на двамата, че са те оставили като малка и баба ти те е гледала повече от тях. Ядосана си на майка ти, че е толкова разбрана и отказва да те настъпи, дори ти да я мачкаш с думи. Ядосана си на брака им, защото не ти допадат отношенията им и ги смяташ за токсични. Ядосана си на майка ти, че е склонна да прави много компромиси, да отстъпва и не показва сила и независимост, на които да се възхищаваш едва ли не. Ядосана си, че живееш в малко населено място, в което хорското мнение е голяма работа. Ядосана си, че си получила възпитание, а не си склонна да го следваш и никой не отреагира. Ядосана си на себе си, че си ядосана и не се владееш. Ядосана си, че не си знаела за депресията на майка ти. Трупаш гняв все към неща, които не зависят от теб или за които няма смисъл да се ядосваш изобщо. Такава си си- нервачка. Врачката няма да ти помогне изобщо, но можеш да поговориш с психолог, за да ти олекне малко. Предполагам, че един специалист ще може да ти даде идея как да превъзмогнеш яда си. Вярвам, че ще се справиш и сама, защото осъзнаваш проблема, а това е най-важното в такива ситуации. Трябва ти повече самодисциплина и отдушник за негативните емоции. Предлагам ти да опиташ със спорт, защото е факт, че той е най-полезен при проблеми с гнева. Дава ти възможност чисто физически да изкараш натрупаната енергия, да се измориш и да ти стане по-добре. Пробвай с бягане, бокс или просто със силови тренировки.
Go to a psychologist, believe me you will see life with different eyes. leave their children en masse. Yes, it is difficult, especially when you do not know the language and one child comes in more. And what are you doing? Do you work or wonder what to think about all day.